Intuition 101: Making the Choice to Forgive
Who or what do you need to forgive?
I know forgiveness may seem like one of those intangible ideals that’s just out of reach or a waste of time. But, it’s not. You can make the choice to forgive. And by making that decision, you not only move forward on your path, but you also open the door to Spirit’s messages.
Resentment, anger, shame, and regret all keep you focused on the past and block you from accessing the realm of connection. In addition to robbing you of the present, lack of forgiveness feeds your ego mind—you Goblin—and keeps you in a Me Bubble. As I talk about in detail in Remembering the Future, forgiveness is one of the greatest keys to strengthening your intuition and making positive changes in your life.
I would not be where I am today if it weren’t for forgiveness. You may have heard me talk about my experience getting ganged raped when I was in college. After that experience, I was rightly angry and felt victimized. However, rather than feel the emotions and then let them go, I continued to think of myself as a victim, which only magnetized more pain. After years of abusive relationships, drinking, and trying to numb the pain, I had a spiritual epiphany in which I realized that I had to forgive if I wanted to move forward. Through giving up the need to be hurt and to hate, I’ve been able to finally have the amazing, healthy relationship I’d always wanted. Forgiveness also opened the door to my intuitive abilities and, well, now here I am doing intuitive readings for people across the world!
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It involves releasing yourself from anger and pain and choosing to live in the present rather than the past. You don’t have to forget whatever happened, but you do need to release the emotions and move on. Forgiveness doesn’t happen on it’s own, you must choose to forgive.
If you’re not sure what you might need to forgive, look at the repeating patterns in your life. When you don’t forgive, the same hurts find ways of showing up again and again. If you still feel like you’re a victim of something, you remain attached to that experience and it becomes part of your identity. You can rise above pain and see that everything has a purpose for rich lessons. When you accept your life as perfect just the way it is, intuition shows you the way and you’re able to fully immerse yourself in life.
Exercise:
This week, take some time to journal about forgiveness. Who do you feel you need to forgive? What would it be like to forgive these people? What’s it going to take on your part to forgive them? (Perhaps courage, strength, gratitude, etc.) Remember, forgiveness is a choice you make to let go of your resentment. It doesn’t mean you’re denying the other person’s responsibility or justifying the wrong.
You also may need to forgive yourself. In what ways have you caused wrongs to yourself or others? Do you need to make amends with anyone?
How has forgiveness impacted your life? Please share your stories to help inspire other readers.
Love,
Colette
Here’s a great meditation to help you with forgiveness, appropriately called Forgiveness. If you find this meditation useful to you and you wish to purchase it, you can find it in my store in the downloadable meditations.
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Great topic Colette!
There have been several pivitol points in my life where I learned very dramatically that forgiving myself or forgiving others was the only choice I could make that would lead me to freedom of mind, body and spirit. Hence, my original quote: “Forgiveness is the currency with which we can liberate our future from our past.”
I hope all is well with you. Love you!
Maryellen “The I Can Do It Girl”
Reading this made me cry. There is one person I would like to forgive… I’m so ready. I love him so much and I know that so much of what I grew angry over, had to do with things that happened to ME, as a result of another person’s wrong doings. I am so super ready to forgive myself.
This person and I are definatley soulmates–we have so many similarities and issues to get over that mirror each other. I am going to do this exercise because my love for myself and for him matters that much to me. I find it to be no coincindence that he and I met 4 years ago, dated for 2 mos and then for so long, I viewed his absence in my life as the same abandonment that my father placed in my life. Now I see the layers of so much that I overlooked, as a result of fear and past resentment.
Now I understand that the love I have for this person, is not a curse or some messed up thing that I got myself into. I see it now as something that was and still is a gift, because the ultimate prize will be me forgiving him…and myself for rightfully missing my father for so many years.
Thank you Colette. You’re a gem.
XO
Alma
just want to say thank you and great job i know hat forgiveness of our selves or of others is to give the power back to ourselves to make changes in our lives
love light And angel hugs
Mairead Havern ManaRosea Centre Newry Co. down Northern Ireland
my self and My daughter ethos of our business is empowerment through spirituality programmes We are also Rahanni Celestial Healing Practitioners and Teachers
Your are definetly an earth angel Colette Baron – Reid we send you healing and blessing because you are an inspiration to the other light workers at this wonderful time on earth we embrass your total words of wisdom and enlightment what more can I say blessed lady NAMASTE
Colette, That is a very, very fine guided imagery mp3. Thank you so much! Love the sound of water, the music
and especially the sound of your voice.
The forgiveness exercises and meditation Colette taught me have definitely changed my life! If you are struggling with forgiveness, particularly forgiving yourself, I can’t recommend the meditation highly enough.
I went through some things that I am not very proud that I did and I am now forgiving myself, accept it, and moving on, I do not want it to hold me back any more.
Hi Colette,
Thank you for this. I really needed it, and I really appreciate you sharing it with all of us.
Kara
Thank you for this article…although I am only beginning to accept myself, I hope to one day forgive myself and maybe even love myself. Thank you for you.
I have tried and tried and Forgiveness is not there. I had a Brother and family who were so mean and disrespectful to Mom and Dad when they were both Dying, i tired to be nice, but he was soo nasty. After they Both Passed He and his family were still just mean. I finally let go and said what ever. I forgave and forgot, then they have turned the rest f my family against me, What? Ok what ever. Now i forgive on a daily biases and Pray for all the People every night. Yet every day i still have People who are just Hateful to me. I do nothing, i sit in my house and work on Art or my Book and yet i am Befriended and treated bad, and now it is going twords my Daughter. How can i get things right, i have no one left cept my Husband and Daughter. Why? I have heard of the Desert period, but i have been in the Desert all my life, and no trees in site. I am so tired.
It is really amazing, thank you so much for this great tool.
@ Sharon…
I know how you feel. Try to keep in mind that forgiveness does not have to be defined by saying, “I forgive you and now I’m over it. Let’s move on like nothing ever happened.” The truth is that you can make the choice never to deal with any of those people again. Don’t give them the power of affecting your emotions and self worth.
Real forgiveness I think is for YOU, not necessarily the person you are forgiving. It is permission for yourself to move forward and put those issues behind you. You address that these awful experiences happened, you lived through it, learned from it, and hopefully became a stronger person. You can use those experiences as an example of how to help others…to teach you how you would never want others to perceive you in the same manner.
If the people in your life are making you feel this way, it’s time to get new people in your life. You have the power to make the choices for yourself in every aspect of your life.
Take an inventory of your life and look at who makes you feel good and who doesn’t. The ones who don’t, you should take whatever life lesson you learned from dealing with them, FORGIVE, realize that they were placed in your life in order for you to become a better person, and MOVE ON.
Positive things are attracted to other positive things. You say that you are over it, but I don’t think you truly are. Take the power back over your own life & count your blessings for the things in your life that ARE good.
Once you realize this, and stop letting situations and other people control how you feel, you WILL be able to move forward and the universe will show you the way.
Great Blog, Forgiveness is my big thing of the moment and releasing judgements, lessons all being provided by a close soul mate before I can move onto my Twin Flame! I love your stuff and your Wisdom of the Avalon Cards are my cards of choice since I got them for Xmas last year!
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Namaste
Rebecca
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