How to Reinvent Your Love Life (or How to Break Blocks to Love)
Love is in the air! Can you feel it? Here we are in the week leading up to one of my favorite holidays—Valentine’s Day. I just love all aspects of love. I love being in love and helping people understand and experience more love.
But I know that for many people, the mention of love and relationships elicits frustration, regret, anxiety, and a sudden need for chocolate. You want to meet the right person, but things just never seem to pan out. Or, you keep thinking you’ve met “the one” only to discover that he’s just as commitment phobic or dishonest as “the one” before him. It’s the same old story with a new leading love interest, and you wonder what you’re doing wrong.
Do you find yourself repeating the same situation over and over? It may seem like dysfunctional relationships are part of your destiny, but they aren’t. We’re all made for deeply spiritual, romantic partnerships. You can change your story, but you have to start with examining your past and letting go of limiting unconscious beliefs.
If you 
feel unfinished in any aspect of your life, that experience and those expectations get filed into your unconscious. Your unconscious then steers you to look for situations that support those hidden beliefs and expectations. For example, if your father was an alcoholic and you haven’t fully healed from that pain, your unconscious mind will drive you into situations in which you attract partners with addictions. Or, if you felt betrayed by your first girlfriend and didn’t truly heal from the experience, you’ll repeat the story with future partners.
Many of us also secretly believe we need a relationship to be whole. We long for love to complete us, rescue us, or make us happy. If you feel such longing and yearning, you’re coming from a place of lack instead of love. To be healed in a relationship doesn’t mean you’re broken and need fixing. Relationships are an opportunity to play out a different story.
Remember that if you do what you did, you’ll get what you got. It’s time to do something different in love!
Exercise: If you’re consistently getting the same results when it comes to relationships (or any other aspect of your life), it’s time to take an inventory of your past. Take some time today to write out a list of all the men/women you’ve had relationships with starting from the time you were young to now. Then answer the following questions: How did you felt about each experience? What was common among the experiences?
Next, write out the qualities of your ideal relationship. Take some time to picture what it will look and feel like. Who do you need to become to have the relationship? Write a new story of you in this loving, healthy relationship.
Then, get out and date! Pray for Divine guidance and trust your intuition to guide you to the right relationship.
Intuition is KEY!
Listen to it, not what your desires, hopes and dreams want. That’ll come later if you get past this first stage. We all get a sense the minute you meet someone but we often block it out through the filters of our past experiences.
TRUST your INTUITION first, and if you get a green light, proceed.
Be sure to stay awake!
If you see any red flags, it’s time to move on no matter how hypnotically gorgeous your date. Make mental notes of positive and negative feelings you experience. Intuition is a feeling. Pay attention without your eyes. Be Intuitive.
Finally, have faith. Even if you haven’t seen evidence of a healthy relationship, trust that your new story will become a reality in Divine appropriate timing. What is yours will never be taken away.
Love,
Colette
P.S. If you’d like to learn more about breaking old relationship patterns and transforming your love life, be sure to check my Mirror of Love on demand seminar.
Although this book was written many moons ago, Dr. John Gray’s book : Mars and Venus on a Date is still a great tool.
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This was a good motivating and uplifting article for us single folk. Im gonna try that.
Great information! I wish everyone would heal themselves from their childhood or past before getting into relationships. I believe the world would be a better place. Children would be better cared for because their parents would have worked on themselves, healed, and would be available to be parents.
Wow interesting. I have been hurt, belittled, Beaten, Betrayed and Dragged thru the mud all my life since childhood. To think it was me attracting it all this time. No wonder i have no Friends!
I posted this site on twitter love your blog. Thanks for being you Colette
Wow, thanks Colette!
Even though I’m not yet ready to go back out there, I’ve instinctively been looking at the group of guys online at one of my favorite sites, just to verify my belief in the abundance of choices out there.
And I’ve been doing my clearing work all along, which caused me to call out my boyfriend of two years for his unaccountable angry explosions and put downs, and resulted in our breakup. I’ve been healing all my life from an abusive parental situation and am almost ready, I think to follow every one of your recommendations. Love you, Colette…thanks for your work.
LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS ARTICLE. THANKS COLETTE! YOU ROCK!
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