Intuition and Self-Esteem: Give Yourself a Pat on the Back!!


Updated: August 16, 2010

AnxiousWomanWe each think as many as 50,000 thoughts each day. What are your thoughts like? Sadly, many of us unintentionally bring ourselves down with disapproving thoughts—for example, “I don’t have what it takes”… “No one loves me”… “I can’t believe I said the wrong thing and made such a fool of myself.” This type of language is a form of self-hypnosis that lulls us into thinking we’re unlovable and disconnects us with the Divine.

Are you sometimes really hard on yourself? Do you have a tendency to dwell on your weaknesses or mistakes? Are you easily defeated by setbacks or criticism? Have you ever felt like you can’t openly ask for what you need? Do you sometimes unintentionally put others down?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, it’s time for a self-esteem tune up!

Healthy self-esteem is integral the enhancing your intuition. When you feel good about yourself, your intuitive filters are clear and you’re fully connected to the Divine. You’re able to cast your net into the world around you and thus move forward on your highest path. Conversely, when you don’t approve of yourself, your Goblin ego takes over and whispers more harsh and judging thoughts. Lack of self-esteem keeps you separated from the world around you and disconnected to your intuition. I talk quite a bit about this ego separation in my book, Remembering the Future. The more you disapprove of yourself, the more you end up stuck in a prison of your own making. And, you don’t want that!

Self-esteem involves making a choice to value and approve of yourself—no matter what. Many of us are so used to negativity that we’re more aware of our weaknesses than our strengths. While self-esteem isn’t about thinking you’re perfect— because nobody is — it involves knowing that you’re worthy of love, acceptance, and happiness. When you’re comfortable in your skin, you know you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone. When you find that esteem from within, you’re also able to forgive yourself and others for mistakes. You don’t berate yourself for your weaknesses, rather you’re able to laugh at yourself!

Ultimately, when you love and approve of yourself, you’re awake and fully connected to the world around you. When you make a choice to cultivate your self-esteem, you strengthen your intuition and step onto your highest path.


proudWomanGive Yourself a Pat on the Back!: Healthy self-esteem involves celebrating your strengths and achievements. So, make a LONG list of all the things you’ve ever done that make you proud. Include even the things that seem “small,” such as anything you’ve done for another person, how well you manage your time or money, etc. Then include all the attributes and qualities you have that also make you feel proud. Look at the list everyday this week and give yourself a pat on the back!

Take Charge of Your Mind!: Stop letting your mind dictate negative thoughts to you. Remember this is just your Goblin trying to rain on your parade and get you in separation mode. So, pay close attention to how you talk to yourself and keep negative chatter to a minimum. Anytime you catch yourself thinking something that is disapproving, take a deep breath and challenge it. For example, let’s say you find yourself thinking you can’t do something because it scares you. Catch the thought and ask yourself to find examples of when you did something that scared you. Likewise, don’t feed your mind with gossip, judgment, anger and so on.

Meditate: Quieting your mind is an extremely powerful way to stop negative chatter and connect with your intuition. So, even if you just count your breath for 10 minutes in the morning and again in the evening, this will have a profound impact on your self-esteem.

And, please share your thoughts on self-esteem and approval! I’d love to hear what you’re most proud of—remember we’re all connected and learning from one another. And, if there is a subject you’d like for me to write a blog on, please let me know.

In service and love,


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