W is for Wound, Willingness, and Writing!
Updated: November 25, 2013
Dearest member of the fabulosity tribe,
I’m writing you from the road—traveling again—trying to stay grounded the best I can while in the air. Love the irony.
In last week’s blog I wrote about how important it is to tell your truth and this week I learned about being discerning about what I talk about.
I’ve been experiencing a lot of new things lately and have been thrown out of my comfort zone. I spoke at an amazing event called Catalyst Week, part of the Downtown Project in Las Vegas, Nevada. (http://catalystcreativ.com/downtown-project/) You really need to check it out- it’s an amazing collaboration of innovative talent spearheaded by Tony Hsieh, Founder of Zappos. This was the first time in my life I addressed an audience without relying on my “woundology” as a narrative to show people how far I’ve come.
I’ve learned I don’t always have to lead with “how I overcame horrific things to become who I am” to get people’s attention. I can’t tell you how vulnerable I felt without my wound story.
I had plenty of time to ponder how sometimes people, myself included, lead with our wounds as a kind of shield. It’s actually more difficult to allow yourself to be seen as, well average. Without my wound story would I have anything interesting to say?
This was a strictly business audience. I wasn’t offering intuitive insights, so I couldn’t dazzle ‘em there! The topic was the catalyst in my life that brought me to my passion to help people see themselves with perspective and clarity. My talk was about how I learned to see the world, and what happened to change it. Wow, tell the story without the shocking stuff? Panic. I have never done that.
Of course the talk went well, and the experience was great. Without my wound stories I had a unique opportunity to be more collaborative and accessible. These business owners did not come to hear me talk about rape, addiction, and near-death experiences, and all the wild things that happened to me when first discovering myself as an intuitive.
That would be a no.
How often have you felt you’d be more vulnerable without the stories told that you know set you apart from others?
One thing is true, that who I am today—a successful entrepreneur and business advisor (my strongest talents)—grew out of a lot of crap and a whole lot of unusual experiences.
It really hit me, that what I’ve built today is so far away from my past, yet I didn’t realize how much I still relied on the war stories to define me when standing in front of strangers.
I’m writing music this week, perhaps I will tell the tale there. I’m so grateful that learning is forever.
Love to hear from you, do you still define yourself in part from your wound? Do you know when you’re doing it? What need does it meet for you?
Not all of you will identify but if you do, join me in a week of self-compassion and self-acceptance. It takes courage to let go of old stories.
I’m ready if you are 😉
Love always and forever.
The Invision Project
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