Don’t ‘Should’ All Over Yourself!

Sending you all much love and peace….

I am so sorry for your pain and grief! Marc may want a drop or two of Rescue Remedy, as well. My heart is full for you all, and I send you much love and light to help you find peace and connect with Beanie on the other side.

What goes around, comes around. Back in 2011 I wrote to you about a pet store that was under water due to a terrible flood before they could get all of the animals out, and how the community was devastated by it. Your reply was heartfelt, and kind, and comforting, and helped us to get through it. Is it any wonder that when your need was great, all those that you have been here for would be there for you. You teach us that what we give out, we get. This should be a glowing example of the kind of love and light you give out to the world. And yes, you still rock! Love you.

Dear Collette,

My love and light are with you. I understand the great hurt you and your family are feeling. I lost my beloved Hercules on the morning of February 10th. He is my best friend and though I accept death as a natural part of life, I am heart broken. In time, we both will be able to share stories and look at pictures but not now. Now is the time to grieve and allow it to work thru us. Thank you for sharing your story.

Acceptance is key… it sets us free!
Thank you and my deepest sympathy to you and Marc for your loss.
Another soul just got her wings!

We lost our beloved cat, Beanie, this year. He was 17 years old. He was a great cat! Wishing you the best of memories

Dearest Colette and Marc,

Feeling your loss as my little Alice, who came to be mine when my dearest brother passed 18 months ago, is at the end stage of her life with very little time left. This is especially hard for me because my brother loved her so much and to me she is the part of him. She is funny, sweet and saved me from losing my mine when James committed suicided. Alice is the puppy of my mother’s Pomeranian, I lost my Mom 13 years ago and James’s MinPin. So she has such deep meaning for my and I love her so much. I dread the next week or two knowing she will be going to be with my Mother and Brother, as she is falling rapidly. So, I have been holding you both in my heart, with Love, Compassion and Deep Understanding. May you know that you are both loved and your babies were blessed to pick you! Sending you both Lots of Love <3 Cynthia

Sending you so much love xxx

So very sorry to learn of your dog’s passing … <3 !!!

I feel moved to share the passing of my beloved Gran way back in 2006, it was devasting and the catalyst for immense change and healing, and many dark nights of the soul. The same year my awesome cat Silk also passed over, he was always more than a cat and infinitely wiser than I. I always felt he was looking after me and fiercely protecting me. On reflection a few years later I realised that the love of my Gran and her passing blew open my heart chakra so that I could heal and love fully, and feel love fully. And that Silk’s purpose was done, to protect me, I had to be laid completely bare to experience the profound grief and pain. This is something I am still working through, it’s a journey, and it’s such a blessing to have both people and animals in our lives that touch us so deeply and move mountains within.

Sending much love to you x

Colleen, Mark, and Sebastian, my heartfelt condolences to you three and many joyful memories as you awaken to a new life without the physical Beanie’s energy in it. My love is poured over you as you three allow your pain to reveal… A bunch of hugs sent through the universe on wings.
Your tribal goddesses are with you in all things…even our silence holds purpose in our love.

I wish you peace, love and light. I am glad that you have a loving support system. When my darling Casper passed I typed out a book on Feng shui that I had been meaning to read. It took about 3 weeks and I stopped a few chapters before the end. Blessings to you, your family and all of your community.

Dear Collette and Marc.
There are no words to cover such grief and loss, so I simply send you both “buckets of love” (as in a LOT!). I have been where you are – both my cats had to be put down, several years apart. Although this was out of kindness to them, it was definitely not a kindness to me. They were two of my dearest friends on the planet and I missed them deeply for many years. Even with tapping, I still carry some faint residue of “shoulds” about their illnesses and deaths.
Death is inevitable but grief is a choice I suppose!
Big hug
Jenny

Dear Colette,
There is grief on the surface, and then there is grief from the depths of your soul.
I was fortunate enough to be chosen by Sparky (rescue cat) and we had approximately 18 years of unconditional love together in this world.
I found this quote and have it framed with a picture of Sparks. May it bring you some reflection and peace.

“The answer to the mystery of existence is the love you shared sometimes so imperfectly…you’re driven to your knees not by the weight of the loss but by gratitude for what preceded the loss. And the ache is always there, but one day not the emptiness, because to nurture the emptiness, to take solace in it, is to disrespect the gift of life.” Odd Hours, Dean Koontz

The love and bond of a dog with his family is a strong magical one. My heart goes to all of you as I type and look at my own doggy who is turning 13 this year….For the last year, I noticed thinking of how grateful I am for having her in my life knowing that her journey will eventually end….I am blessed as you have been with the love, joy and humour this compassionate fury friend brought to you….and to me! Love and Light!

It is so difficult when our four-legged companions transition out of our earthly lives. They have brought us joy and unconditional love. Though we know we will be reunited again, and they will be helping from the other side, it is still so terribly difficult for us to let go of their physicality. Having a loved one and friend transition is never easy. It doesn’t matter if it is an animal companion or a human one. The pain of their leaving is just as great. Our hearts break wide open and we grieve, for however long it takes.

May the love and support of family and friends, along with wonderful memories of Beanie, help to ease your grief. Holding you all in the light and sending love.

So much love, hugs and prayers are being embraced and sent your way Colette and Marc.
I truly understand as well what you are experiencing. The joy and absolute unconditional love that they give us is a God send, they truly are angels here on earth. When we let our girl, Sandy go in 2012, it was tough for quite a long time but now I can look back with so much love and appreciation for having her and look forward to welcoming another little bundle of fur back into our lives soon with so much of her in it.
You and Marc were so blessed to connect with Beanie and to share a life with her. You obviously needed to be there for each other and for that is gift. Take care and give lots of hugs to your Sebastian as he will need them too…. Xoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxo

Dearest Colette, You have been in my thoughts and prayers all week.

Dear Colette,

I send you and Marc all my compassion and love.

Big hug!

Dear Colette so very sorry for your loss. My heart feels your pain and know that
your Beanie knows and is so very appreciative of the love of your family.
God Bless

When my husband and I lost our senior rescue Bichon Buddy we were completely taken off guard with the depth of our pain. He was our first dog. In my prayers I asked Buddy to guide us to our next dog when it was right. Three months later Wyatt’s picture appeared on a rescue site we’d been following. We both saw Buddy in his eyes. We drove from Phoenix to LA and back in 24 hours to pick him up. Our dog is the heart of our home, we are so grateful. Sending you both love.

My heart opens to you and Marc in your grief dear Colette,
It’s so hard to see the way forward when the sadness is overpowering but you have been and still are such a clear and bright inspiration of truth and love. May that be reflected back into your own life as deep ease and a pillow to soften the suffering.
I have cats in Malaysia, a horse in Alberta and a dog with me here! I love and miss them all, all the time and their incredible unconditional love.
I send you that love and am so grateful for you in my life and the clarity that has shown up.

Dear Collette,

I am so sorry to hear of Beanie’s passing. March 9 will be the 2 year anniversary of my beloved Cali’s passing who was also a pom, she was 14 1/2. On Wednesday, Feb 25, iIfound my beloved cat Snowball, who was 7 1/2 on the floor and he passed just as I got to him. No indication at all, he tells me it was a heart attack, but I still keep asking myself if there is something I could of done. I also gave Rescue Remedy to my other cat and two strays that I take care of. Snowball left me a gift, that morning I put on makeup because my mom was having a heart procedure and she never likes to go out without her makeup and in the middle of my eye shadow was a penny. I had been asking him if he was now an angel in heaven and was he with Cali, and that he way of telling me he was. Like you, Snowballs unexpected and sudden passing has me so confused as to what to do for the future. He reminded me how precious life is and how quickly it can be gone. Sending you much love.

Dear Colette and Family,

Sorry for the loss of Beanie. My heart compressed while I was reading your article today. I am an animal lover at heart and know how it feels when a member of our furry family transcends. These beautiful souls come into our lives to bring us unconditional love, joy and peace at different stages of our lives and will always have a special place in our hearts. I am sure you and your family gave Beanie a wonderful life full of love and she will always shine her light back at all of you.

Love and Light,

Aradella En Ra

Colette, sending you love and light in healing from your grief of losing Beanie. I have lost 2 of my fur babies in the past couple years and I can so relate to the shoulding all over yourself. I loved your reading this week. Relates a lot to what Robert Ohotto has been saying about this Jupiter Retrograde and this theme of expressing your authentic self and trusting you are safe to do that, is so huge right now. I am right in the middle of what you said, “When we struggle against the currents of life, when we plan and set goals and push forward but don’t see the results immediately, we are using a limited map to chart our course. Often we might feel victimized by circumstances, outer conditions and of course the greatest culprit -our inner conditioning and silent expectations.” With all that has gone the past year in my life, the loss of a long term relationship and our pet, that he took, some health issues have cropped up and I am at the point where all I can do is surrender, be in the flow and trust that it will all be better soon. Trust that this is part of the plan and to know that this is getting to point where I can let go of those beliefs about myself to truly become my authentic self.

So sorry to hear of your little one’s passing. It is so hard to lose these little animal companions of ours…so hard. Your words were so timely for me to read. Thank you Colette. Thank you for the work you do and may the angels come to you and your family and comfort you in your grief. Blessings!

I’m so sorry for your loss . Sanding you love and peace to all.

Heart (((HUGS)))

My heart goes out to you and your family on the passing of your special pup. Thank you for sharing and I pray your grief is tempered with special happy memories.
I am presently dealing with conflicting thoughts about a sister that has stage 4 pancreatic cancer and all that entails. Should I travel 3,000 miles now to see her, will she decide to fight this or surrender to it? Leaving now throws my own family into a tailspin and our business. The grief and emotions are all over the place.
I’ll remember not to “should all over myself”. Just looking for some answers on what to do.
Peace to you and your family,
Charmaine

Thank you so much Colette!
I am so sorry for your loss & can completely relate as last week was a really tumultuous week realizing – accepting, that my 17-yr old Angel, Lab/Husky has had a very long loving life with me. It started to hit me in such a way that I started feeling guilty of the possibility that I may need to make the decision for her because she is so strong despite the physical challenges she’s been having. It wasn’t until the other day I had to be kinder to myself & to have Love, Acceptance, & Trust for this situation & not to allow it to suck me into despair. In fact, I know I have to honor the “grieving emotions” & not judge them or fight them – as my perfectionist self would like.
When the time comes, I pray Angel makes the choice but if I must, I will honor the life she has graced me with!
Blessings to you!
Lana

I feel such empathy for you, Colette, your husband, and Sebastian … and I feel connected to you in Spirit as my beloved kitty passed on February 21 six years ago as I have already written to you. I feel that as Beanie crossed that rainbow bridge, she must have looked back and said, ‘bowsie, wowsie, did I ever luck out being so loved and having the home I had on Earth with Colette and her tribe.’

I had made so many mistakes with my kitty that when she passed I thanked God for God or I would never have forgiven myself. I couldn’t even think about the ‘I should haves’ or the grief would have multiplied and so I dwelled on the gratefulness at having her at all and focused on the pictures and memories. There is simply nothing like simple Faith to get through these rough spots and temporary losses, I learned. I am so happy that you know Spirit and that these furry souls wait for us on The Other Side/Heaven and, to them, in the space of eternity, in just a blink of their loving eyes, we are together again.

Colette, I also totally understand your love for poms as my dear friend loved this particular breed and I spent much time with her Prince. Princey, as I called him, was ‘cute as a button,’ adorable, and loving and he returned my friend’s love a thousand-fold. My friend was reunited with her Prince in July 2013.

I so believed Sylvia Browne when she taught me that the critters that we loved or bonded with in our lifetimes are the first to come running when our time on Earth is done. And so this brings peace and hope that we are reunited with them when we pass. I was so pleased when, in one of your readings in your TV show Messages From Spirit, that you connected with a dog to confirm this belief.

Your hearts are filled with memories of Beanie in the meantime and how wonderful is that … with love and tears of gratitude for sharing, elaine

Colette;
Sending Love to you, Marc and Sebastian…
Thank you for all you have shared…your words have given me the comfort of knowing our loved ones are safe on the other side. Most of all, that they know we love them and think of them always. Let the memories be the good ones and connect with peace and love….
Thinking of you xo

Dear Colette:

I’m so sorry for the loss of Benie. I didn’t even know her, but I had to get the hankes out. I am so attached to these precious little beings. I lost my sweet Bailey, my eleven year old Golden a year ago, two days before Christmas. I now have an almost year old male Golden, Brinkley to join Annie, my eight year old Golden. I still have Bailey’s picture in three different places so I see her in almost every room. Bless you, Marc and Sebastian.

Love you, Mary

My heart goes out to you and your family. Beanie was so incredibly loved and thank u for sharing this truth because it is a reminder for me that there is so much unconditional love here when at times I get overwhelmed in the heartlessness. Again love to you and I am sending you prayers to get thru this blessed time. Beanie looks utterly adorable and happy and loved thru and thru.

Colette and Marc…I join the collective voice in offering empathy, sympathy and condolences for Beanie. Those we hold in our arms for a short while are in our hearts forever. Blessings to you all.

Dear Sweetest Colette,

I’m so saddened to hear of the passing of Beannie as I know from your blogs just how much she meant to you. I empathize very much with what you’re going through. I’ve lost my best companions in both natural and heartbreaking ways and its never easy.

My cat Osiris was the closest to me and of all the cats I’ve ever had (7) the pleasure to journey with, he was the Prince. Prince Osiris Blue. He left me the earliest too at 7 yrs of age from heart disease and it took me a year just to readjust to life without him. I was so mad and depressed at his passing and didn’t know why he had to leave me and so early when I heard a voice (angelic + Osiris) say to me one day after months of being sad “You got to know and experience the truest form of love there is. Be happy you two were ever brought together, that you spent your time the way you did and that you truly loved one another and it was understood and known by Osiris how much you love(d) him. Had you never met, you wouldn’t have experienced the happy, joyful, soulful, loving feelings you did and you wouldn’t have been taught the same lessons by just any other animal companion.”

After I heard that I realized that even in my loss and sadness that I had been truly blessed by this cat, that he taught me so many amazing life lessons, that I am super grateful to have ever been connected and brought together with him at all. When you think of all the millions of animals out there, yet you two somehow made your way to each other, its pretty amazing in the scheme of life. Though its not easy to accept physical life without him, there’s a part of me that knows he will never leave my side and will always be with me in spirit. And so it is with you and Beannie. There is more in the air then just the wind….

Be well Colette. Sending love, peace and comfort to you, Marc, Sebastian and Beannie. Best Wishes Always 🙂

Dear Colette,
I was very saddened to hear your news this week.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful words with us during this heartbreaking painful time in your world. Beanie (and Sebastian) look adorable and so very loved. I am and have always been a fanatical dog person and wish you strength, love and plenty of kindness.
Anjali

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of Beanie. *hugs* I have been through this myself with a very special cat and know the heartbreak it causes. They are more like our children than pets which causes the grief to be so much more stronger than one without pets could possibly understand.

I am not sure of your policies of posting outside websites, so if and when you or any others readers would be interested taking a look at it, you can email me and I will send this link. It helped me greatly with my healing in the loss of Tiger. It is a memorial that anyone can use as this site does not charge for posting there.

You will be in my heart and prayers, to help ease the pain and loss of your most precious gift from the Creator your loving companion, Beanie.

A friend of Beanie’s I believe, Donna (Feather Lady), has crossed over. Her life will be honored at a Gratitude Meeting in Hampton on Sunday.