How to Be a Proud Sparkly Poppy (hint- don’t cut yourself down)!

Updated: April 5, 2015

Dearest luminous you,

I was reading my favorite Sunday inbox delivery from Brain Pickings – a wonderful weekly compilation of interesting and meaningful subjects and thought to write about an incident this week that made me think about the perils of light dimming and the tall poppy syndrome.

The author made reference to the “western pathology of cynicism” and it struck a chord in me. We learn how to behave, what to believe by how we’re taught to think. We go on auto-pilot because our subconscious has stored patterns of information that get reinforced over time by repetition. If a culture is cynical, no matter what if you’re in that culture you might automatically react to things in a cynical judgmental way. You might not even realize you’re doing it.

That is until you learn how not to and find freedom from it.

I’m teaching the fundamentals of The Invision Process® in a course offered by Hay House this week and one of the exercises is to learn how to separate and dis-identify with your internal critical voice. You know the one. That ugly small part of you that says” Who do you think you are? Bla-bla-bla” when judging yourself or others.

Someone posted an insinuating comment, under one of the free videos that we sent out to give people a taste of the course. Now I will be honest – you know the feeling when you offer up something “ look what I made for you!” and one person out of a hundred goes “ who do you think you are?”

Ok so my pesky little inner critic had about ten minutes of fun with that one. Did I have the same doubts about allowing myself to be all that I can be? Yes indeed but that voice belongs to the past and not now. Yes I too have been influenced by the “western pathology of cynicism”. But what I know is the judgmental critical voice that lives inside me too is not all of me. It’s a wounded part that learned that it wasn’t safe to grow and explore and be all I could be.

That cynical voice that says “That’ll never work, who do you think you are to do more than one thing anyway, Harrumph?” was born somewhere along the way in me too.

It’s all in the mind in the end – how we’ve been programmed to see ourselves and others.

It’s so common in our bully culture to use the internet to try and “cut people down to size”, but we can also act as our own bullies refusing to explore all our gifts and talents because they might make us stick out, not belong, be rejected, or criticized by others. If we rise up to reach more of the sun we might just grow a little taller than others, or we might show others how to get more light, be stronger and find more life force to share.

If I had a daughter I would tell her to grow and explore and be everything she chooses to be without shame no matter where it leads no matter how high she soars, or how many times she stumbles. I would also remind her that a bright light attracts a lot of bugs and that’s why a glittery fan and sparkle dust should always accompany her along the way.

Don’t let anyone cut you down.

Especially don’t cut yourself down.

I was considering how much I’ve accomplished in my lifetime so far. When I say accomplish it’s not important to me how successful I have been in the eyes of the world, or “industry” but what I’ve attempted, created, and shared with others no matter how big or small the group. Amongst my peers I’d say I’m about medium height- not the tallest poppy but right sized for me.

But no matter what I am going to continue to reach for the skies and to Source and Light so I can know the magic of co-creation wherever that leads. And I am sure along the way I will get trigged by someone who wants to cut me down.

I will love that part of me anyway.

It wasn’t my fault I was taught to dim my light to fit in.

And it wasn’t the fault of the ones who taught me this either.

When I think of a tall poppy I think of how much life and vitality we can have when we’re willing to express all that we are no matter what others may think, or how it makes them feel. It’s taken me years to give myself permission to stand tall no matter what. And I have fertilized my poppy garden with more than my share of stinky life experience manure to last a lifetime.

Mostly we need to support each other to do the same.

I hope my work and my words do that.

So my beautiful reader—don’t listen to the critical voices within you, don’t listen to those voices from others. Love them anyway for “ they know not what they do.”

Be a proud poppy- Shine, sparkle, stand tall and help another do the same and together we will make the most spectacular wild and wonderful garden!

Sending you love and light always and forever!

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PS if this strikes a chord in you check out the free videos (that I am super proud of just because!) that “ look we made for you!”

And also check out the course- it’s chock full of life- gardening tips to grow your “tall poppy self!” and silence those naysayers with love and compassion.

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Showing 66 comments
  • Lisa in Hamilton
    Reply

    Dear Colette

    You are a wonderful writer .. I am over the moon .. haha over the full moon eclipse .. between the new videos released this week > reading this blog and the Oracle book you recommended > well my life is filled with excitement and the odd moment when the inner critic tries to convince me to close down. I recognize
    you as an Empress on Earth > here to remind me to go for it > to be all of ME > to SHINE .. I am so so so so grateful that spirit led me to your site many months ago .. you have assisted me, like a LIGHT, you have been a beacon of truth on the path to self empowerment and self acceptance and self love .. have a super day 🙂 .. Much Respect .. Lisa

    • Pamelia
      Reply

      Thanks Colette

  • Lisa in Hamilton
    Reply

    Hi Colette

    I wrote another comment previously but then my browser had a melt down .. when i returned to the page I could not see the comment .. so I think it might have disappeared into the ether.
    I am not re-writing the whole thing .. cause this is a new moment in time .. but the gist of the message is that you, and your offerings are full of wonder and magic, for me > you are the Empress of Intuitive Smarts 🙂 .. have a terrific day .. Lisa

  • Erin
    Reply

    Thanks you for your words Colette, that was well said and beautiful 🙂

  • Sandra
    Reply

    Wow Colette, I needed to read that today. Yesterday I had some accusations leveled at me designed to “bring me down a peg or two” and remove me from a stream of work that I was making a difference in. Seems a VP is threatened by me. Since then I have been doing a bit of the negative small talk, but I also have focused as best I can ( human only) on knowing that for this to happen it must mean that something even better is coming my way. I do know that the Universe protects and guides us if we let it. And so today I get lots and lots of abundance symbols showing up and then read this. Thankyou so much for adding to the Universal support. Hugs n love Sandra xxx

  • Angela
    Reply

    Omg that pic of you and the 2 dogs is soo beautiful….so good to see you happy and obviously excited about Coco…..
    I really love how REAL you are, you’re loving, sharing, honest and not afraid to say what’s going down, and talk about the resolve or how and what you arrived at, to move through what’s appeared for you. Gee did that make any sense??? Lol …..You’re like a sister in a way, one from a far who’s sharing insights, your ups and downs and whatever is happening in your world!!!! ……a fun sister that I feel helps us all in our journey….
    And with that I would like to say that that person who banged on about shite to you….amazing that he or she decided to take themselves through the process – seed planted and great help even if it triggered a negative as their shadow really wants them to stay stuck and that lashing out at you is like a child to a mother when ‘their way’ isn’t got! And there would defiantly be the other aspect that isn’t ready to say out loud…’omg that was great I’m starting to open up and I am so grateful thank you…I was a bit scared but I feel supported!!!’……
    I’m loving your efforts for us all and I am grateful for the invision process’s you gave over the weekend …..they were both fantastic, (taste of your work) and I dig your Jung leanings…….as I do
    ….Especially also, as I am off to Brazil this coming Sunday to see John of God ….. I felt the process’s and reading for this week were so relevant to my travels and the days leading up to…
    You’re great, I love your doggies, and your man are a great team and I am very grateful…. 🙂 just keep doing it ok……you’re onto it, on top of it and if you’re not you’re not afraid to say…..and fuck what the ney Sayer is saying as you are the shining light that gives loads love……xxx 🙂

  • V
    Reply

    Bless you and thanks for sharing. When someone grunts at you to “quit shining so bright,” I’ve understood it’s a cry for compassion. Somewhere in their lives that person was belittled/someone tried to break their spirit, even as unwittingly as they are now repeating the pattern.

    • Colette Baron-Reid
      Reply

      I agree- i know when I have felt those feelings ( no one wants to admit they do but I have too) it’s because in those moments I have felt inadequate or somehow smaller. I have found that those people who lash out at others are hurting in some way. It’s when we feel we’re not enough or that there isn’t enough that fear creeps in – and the illusion that someone else’s light could take away whatever light you have. There were times in my life I have felt that many many years ago so I do have compassion. But in the initial challenge my own little goblins wake up from their long nap to remind me of that old self. 😉

  • cheryl
    Reply

    Hi Colette,

    Thank you so much for this. It has certainly hit a note with me. I am my worst enemiy when it comes to putting myself down. My family are a very
    close second to this. I have tried so hard to not let the snide remarks interfere, but I feel as though I am in a losing battle with everything. I have
    not seen the video yet, but I will do. I just hope that some time (I’m 52 years old and feel that life has put me on the scrapheap) I will be able to
    break free and be the tallest poppy I can be.
    Thank you once again for this timely blog.
    Love your babies.
    Love and peace
    Cheryl

    • Lyn
      Reply

      To Cheryl,
      You sound like my beautiful, loving, caring sister Cheryl. I have always loved her and appreciated her so, so very much and always will. She is such a beautiful, loving, giving person who seldom sees the beauty in herself the way I do and she deserves all great things but only she doesn’t believe it. Be kind and care for yourself you do deserve this.
      Thinking of you

  • Queenie
    Reply

    Thank you for this blog Colette. I’ve always been afraid to stand out. I remember being taught from a young age that I should rein myself in, not stand out for fear of being laughed at or bullied (I was discouraged from embracing dance because I was an overweight kid – imagine if we’d known then what we know now about diet and exercise!) As an adult my co-workers are always trying to dim my flame because I show up their incompetencies and it scares them. I am looking forward to a day when I can shine at home and at work and at play without fear of repercussion so that I can be the best version of me.
    And you are a tall beautiful poppy and we love you <3

  • Frances
    Reply

    Dearest Sparkle Queen,
    You are so luminous and beautiful. Thank you for your guidance and inspiration. I love seeing you happy with your new pup!!
    Peace and love

  • Barbara
    Reply

    There is a spark back in your eyes that has been missing for the last while. I think Coco has brought you more than you (or Sebastian) realize. Thank you for sharing so much with all of us.

  • Dee
    Reply

    Thank you so much Colette for these wonderful videos. I have tried the techniques and really liked them. Don’t let the critics hold you back. I am learning to not let them dim my light either. I am a single middle aged woman out in the dating world- and so many men tell me that I shouldn’t let them know I’m an intuitive/ clairvoyant/medium/past life therapist. One told me I’m just too scary. But here’s the thing, it’s a deep part of who I am and they must accept that or it will end up badly later when they feel that they have a right to dim my light or hold me back. So I say shine on! Keep doing your wonderful work – those of us who it is meant for will appreciate it and those who criticize will go on their way and find somone else to cut down. Namaste – Dee

    • Colette Baron-Reid
      Reply

      Dee that is so hilarious you have to read my first book Remembering the Future – the chapter sex and the single psychic. You have to tell the guy – best way to weed ’em out. Remember dating isn’t personal- you gotta try men on like they’re shoes. If it fits.. great if not – no loss right?

  • Margie
    Reply

    Hi Colette!

    Love your words of encouragement to start the week off. It takes a sparkle to inspire others to shine as bright as they can. I tell myself every day to “surround myself with great & wonderful people”, you are included in this circle, even if it is in my digital internet space.

    Keep shining brightly and illuminating the path for others to follow 🙂

  • Ellen
    Reply

    Dear Colette — this message was incredibly timely for me. Maybe there is something universal going on, given that so many people are feeling this way? I have to work extra hard lately to remember to turn it all over to Creator because I have been feeling so undeserving of even being allowed to ask for support, love, help.

    Thank you for all your messages of hope. I’m so happy you got that sweet new puppy too <3

  • Jocelyne
    Reply

    Hey Colette, your dogs make you look even prettier!
    What a timely selection of cards … just perfect for me this week.
    I was reminded this week when speaking to a coach I am working with, about the ways spirit tries to inform us and that it’s not always as flowingly clear as we would like it to be; it takes a different kind of hearing to hear from spirit sometimes! … and I am grateful that for me, your cards are a way I can ‘hear’ them.
    Thank you for all you do.
    Big hugs 🙂

  • Jocelyne
    Reply

    … I forgot to say how much I am enjoying your videos from Hayhouse right now. 🙂
    Thank you

  • Suzanne
    Reply

    Dear Colette,
    I am so grateful for your Sparkly Divine Poppy Soul! Your honesty and your work is inspiring and has been one of the catalysts for a return to my Soul, after a derailment due to deep, unprocessed grief that led me down a dark path. After seven years and deep honest work I call self surgery to “Open my Heart back up” I am back on track doing my Soul work, trusting God and my Heart. There will be bugs around the Light for certain, but some little bugs might just decide to let go of that “outsider” field, to be willing to let Self sabotage die, and to become Light. Prayers to the little bugs. Keep your Light shining! <3

  • M&M
    Reply

    Very well said. It is so easy and automatic to shrink from criticism, it is not commonly practiced in our society to stand tall and push through it. I have thought a lot about why people post such nasty comments to articles/blogs that are written with the clear intent to help others or share an experience that others may find of value. Writing is static, it’s about sharing what you believe/feel in that moment, yet it is available for others to read at later points in time. Our growth is not static, it is constantly changing, but comments we write stay fixed in time. Writing is also like a short snippet of a one-sided conversation. As a society, we don’t filter our words or own our emotions and we judge things we don’t agree with or understand or things that frighten us. Writing allows people to spew their own personal demons or issues out for everyone to see and puts it in a fixed, one-sided format that does not change. When I look at it this way, it makes posted criticism a little easier to deal with. However, words carry energy, just like everything else and maybe this is where our own personal boundaries come in.

    Very good lesson in standing tall and true no matter what. Thank you.

    • Colette Baron-Reid
      Reply

      brilliant and insightful… “fixed in time” like a dragonfly in amber or petrified wood.. we leave our pain and low self worth and anger about the world in perpetuity. I am not the same person I was many years ago.. I think of what I have left behind before I spew 😉 I have seriously left a few cow pies of my own along the way that still hover to remind me of my temporary bouts of spiritual amnesia.

  • Deanna
    Reply

    Colette;
    Thank you for always being so open and honest and for including us in your life as well…I am so thrilled to be apart of your tribe. You have changed my life in so many ways…I am so grateful!

    Congratulations on your new addition!

    Just remember how many lives you touch…you are so loved…
    Deanna

  • Eileen
    Reply

    Dear Colette,

    Thank you SO MUCH for your beautiful article regarding our own inner critic and the often initially shocking and appalling presence of criticism on the internet and elsewhere. I remember feeling so good after reading a very meaningful book by Annie Lamott and being shocked when faced with one readers virulent “review”. Felt same way when saw the comment that I think you are discussing. Thanks for standing up for yourself (and thereby all of us) in a loving but strong way. You are an amazing TEACHER. The readings for this week are so amazingly resonant with my life (as I am finding my daily practice with Hidden Realm cards!) and it was so healing to see you with your precious new “child”. Thanks for standing strong in your own “Sparkly Light” and reminding us to all do the same! Best Wishes always!

  • irene
    Reply

    Hi pretty lady,
    Thanks for showing us Coco again. Your new baby is perfection! I don’t remember you telling us how old she is.

    I like this post, I needed reminding for sure. And that wounded person posting on your work–shows how much growing and work that person needs to do. And it is work, every day, every moment, work–that’s the only way change happens in the interior and exterior.
    Next, your ‘umbrella” forecasts are literally so specific to my life, it’s crazy amazing. Thank you for all you do , for us, but for me. You are like waking up to Christmas every day–to open a present (s) that will help me and guide me and make me a more self empowered woman or prepare me for my day and week to make choices surrounded the guidance for my highest good. The other day, a nasty man driver yelled at me, “f-in asshole” because i hesitated for a moment and slowed down when I saw a school bus letting kids out in the parking area right alongside the road, he was honking and cussing me out. It was really upsetting–as if those 4 seconds caused him this kind of rage. He was quite a scary man to be honest, I thought look in the mirror dude at what you are and felt sorry for any woman that might be living with him. We have this one life, one chance, that could end each day as we don’t know our destiny, and he was missing out on the sunshine or the spring just coming alive, as a bitter fool living in darkness. I thought of my mom diagnosed with dementia and has very serious short term memory issues and depression and has lost the spark in life and could sit in her house all day with the tv on and not even remember what was on. She is unable to celebrate the sunshine or the flowers blooming as that zest is being pulled out of her–and she has never done the “work” sadly, but has become more loving and gentle because of a disease causing her to become more child like.
    Its hard not to compare ourselves sometimes because we each have a story and are on our own time frame for our life, but we need to quiet that ego wounded part of us and keep going, keep glowing and grow as we need to in humility and gratitude.

    I love you Colette.

    Irene (Gardenia on FB)

  • Patricia
    Reply

    Dear Colette…
    YOU are a blessing in this world! YOU fill it with compassion, wisdom, courage and puppies :))) I for one deeply connect to your work and feel honored to be a part of your tribe. Keeping shining girl…
    With deep respect… Patricia
    ps… I LOVE the pics above of you and your two ‘fur babes’… talk about ‘sparkly beings!’ I look forward to ‘meeting’ you in Hamilton in June.

  • Leilah
    Reply

    Hi Colette,
    I don’t usually comment much, but that was just so beautiful and such a timely message that I felt that I had to. I discovered your books a couple years ago and was also blessed to see you in person at an event with John Holland. I briefly got to meet you during the book signing afterwards and I remember I told you that I was a big fan of your work, and you looked me in the eyes and thanked me, and I remembered thinking that if the eyes are the window to the soul then you clearly are a beautiful soul!! Every week I read your newsletter and listen to your energy forecasts and readings, and all I can say is that I am SO grateful that you don’t listen to the critics and naysayers because you shine so much light and are such a great example for the rest of us! Please don’t stop! 🙂

  • Roxanne
    Reply

    Dear Colette,
    I look so forward to your blog and reading each week! I am not sure I can put into words how much you have impacted my life in such a powerful and magical way!! I love and respect you so much! I have had a difficult time all my life feeling comfortable being myself completely around others. For fear that I would not be accepted. But you have been an amazing teacher . I especially love the new course you are offering on Envisioning a New Landscape through Hay House!! Amazing ! So powerful! Thank you!! Your babies are so adorable. What kind of dogs are they? I had a pomeranian years ago but your sweeties look so much smaller. Sending you so much love and light !

    • Colette Baron-Reid
      Reply

      they are pomeranians and are tiny – both under 4 pounds! 😉 ps thanx for the comment.. actually thank you to everyone for the comments .. means so much to me

  • Johanne
    Reply

    Colette; you inspire me. Changing the ‘tapes’ is where i need to go and I know I will be able to with your guidance, your compassion and honesty. My daily readings with your beautiful cards have been very interesting ( to be honest, I sometimes feel I’ve missed something in the message(s) but will persevere enthusiastically). I feel excited to know that at some point the feeling of ‘being worthy’ is going to be an automatic daily gift. Blessings !

  • Jenny
    Reply

    Colette,
    Where have you been all my life! Hahaha I just discovered your work. You know the old adage, “when the student is ready the teacher will appear.” I’ve been told my whole life to settle down and asked just I think I am. I know now its because my shine made others uncomfortable. Since I hit 40 (what a wonderful age) I have started to really understand that I do SHINE brightly and that some will bask in the glow and shine with me, while others will react almost violently to my shine. Always in the past I would jump on the “Jenny isn’t anything” bandwagon, until now. I am working to feel compassion for those who feel overwhelmed by me and my energy and send rays of hope for them to discover their own bright light.

    After watching your interview with Dr. Christiane Northrup, I realized I have found my tribe. I am so inspired the doors are coming off. Now its time to do WORK! I ran “out” and bought Remembering the Future and The Map in addition to Goddesses Never Age. This girl is on fire for sure. I started watching your free videos and watching some videos on your website. Funny thing is, I have been working on my Bachelor’s degree while working for the last 16 years, but have been a little afraid of finishing because I didn’t know what my calling was. I have gone back and forth with the idea of giving workshops, women’s retreats on the Oregon Coast, and writing, but always told myself I wasn’t good enough or didn’t have the right initials behind my name. Now, I feel I have found a possible path to follow on my map and am working my way through the process to allow myself to illuminate the path that Spirit and I have set forth.

    I can’t thank you enough for your work and your candor. I am so thoroughly impressed that you answer on the comments. What a true class act. You own it well. Oh and I love the little doggies too.

    Long rant – big smiles!

    • Colette Baron-Reid
      Reply

      welcome Jenny !! keep writing every week we all have something to share!! xoxoxo

  • Heather
    Reply

    Hi Colette and everyone! I’m so grateful for this reminder. I’m so glad I’m not alone. I’ve never bloomed before. I’m pretty sure I’m about to bloom, since I’ve recently stopped cutting myself down. Deciding to stop was the way I realized how much it was happening. And as I discovered how much I was actually cutting myself down, I also discovered how much I had been cutting down others, and life, totally unconsciously. I was doing the opposite of my purpose, which is healing. And lately I have these moments of intense fear, like something is having huge spasms in my consciousness and is desperate to get me to stop all this loving awareness and go back to judging and being hopeless and staying limited.

    And, though I don’t like to admit it, I get tempted at times, even though I know I need to cling to Spirit, to Truth, and that fear is only a sign that I’m on the right track. So I’m really grateful for you, Colette, and your teaching, and for everybody else who shares what they’re going through here. Deep inside, I dream of a world of us blooming. And that fear can do whatever it needs to do while I stand here and bloom.

  • Amber Criste
    Reply

    Such beautiful Babies!!! Your blog is so helpful to me each week , very encouraging and insightful. This entry definitely resonated with and moved me big time. I appreciate your writing so much because it can be like tuning an instrument….I become aware of the out-of-tune thoughts/feelings/behaviors and your weekly sentiments/radio show/teaching are a fine-tuning for my mind…….I watched the video twice it was awesome sauce!!!!

    Thank you for being a beacon of Light and for being you 🙂 –amber

  • Catharine
    Reply

    You keep goin’ girl! I honour who you’ve been, and love that you model for us how you are continually becoming. Your openness about your process of grieving your beloved Beanie has been a lifeline for me as I have grieved the recent passing of my dear tabby Buddy, who was with me for almost eighteen years. Showing us how you gracefully experience the overwhelming sadness, while at the same time being so positive and loving and grateful helped me more than I can ever say. You are so generous with your spirit. Thank you.

  • Cecilia
    Reply

    Dear Colette,

    I really enjoy your colorful writing and insight. The comment about shining light drawing bugs made me giggle. And I’ll admit I have allowed those bugs sting to itch and fester many times in the past. Like you I’ve learned it’s unacceptable.

    Love that you introduced us to Coco:) Both your babies are adorable.

    Thanks for all that you are and do.
    Glitter and sparkle on.
    Cj

  • Genene
    Reply

    Thank you for letting us meet your beautiful furbabies on camera! Absolutely delightful! And I love your messages. You are so down to earth, so real, and so on target with many things I am also experiencing. Thank you for being you!

  • Dodie Weiss
    Reply

    Hi Colette…your words always strike a chord with me, and todays were especially fitting. I look forward to your offerings every week because there is real meat to what you have to share. So thank you, bless you and continue on with your beautiful poppy face to the sun!

  • Anjali
    Reply

    Hi Colette,

    Thank you for sharing the cuteness of your beautiful babies with us! I LOVE looking at how you handle them and also, the way you speak with/about them reminds me of myself. So thank you for letting me know that I am not just a crazy old ‘dog lady’.
    Thank you too for your wonderful, supportive words about letting ourselves shine through, no matter what. Yes, life happens. People’s emotions happen. Learning how to build distance between oneself and one’s negative feelings is a precious gift/tool you have shared and for this, I am very grateful.
    Stay well, happy and loved.

    Anjali

  • Sarah Giesbrecht Braun
    Reply

    That is so wonderfully beautiful that I am sitting here in tears. I made a couple realizations lately that ‘halfstuck’ and this just made it even more clear that some messages are meant for me. I have been receiving beautiful guidance from your card readings as well, and I SO LOOK FORWARD TO SEEING YOU IN PERSON IN LONDON ONTARIO this year. Like the ‘A TEAM’ slogan said: “I LOVE IT WHEN A PLAN COME TOGETHER”

  • Mary
    Reply

    Wonderful message Colette you are so inspiring, a true angel that certainly helps my spirit to shine. I have your oracle cards on my iPad and occasionally do the website cards, the readings throw extra light on my spiritual journey. I have experienced being bullied at work tried very hard to cope with it and continue doing well in my job but eventually resigned to the toxicity and got right away. That was October 2014, my soul has slowly recovered, spiritually enlightened especially from the likes of you and other Hay House presenters, such a blessing your’e ALL amazing, I thank your from the bottom of my heart. Your two doggies are just gorgeous!! a reflection of you. Look forward to the next blog …. your a blessing in my world big hugs xx

  • Leigh
    Reply

    Shine on Sister, shine on!! Love the analogy of the poppy, Colette. Thanks a million for your beautiful body of work that has helped me to grow and to “see.” I’m filled with gratitude to be a part of your sparkly tribe!! Namaste.

  • Sylvie
    Reply

    Madame Colette,

    What You wrote resonates with my inner self greatly and deeply cause I have a tendency
    To put myself way down and put others way up even if I’ve been a Sparkler all my Life and just
    Realizing it now. People always Tell me there Life stories where ever I go. I’ve always wondered why …
    now I Know … and for me, it’s a priveledge.

    Bad, real bad childhood. It’s taking me years to ched, to forgive and release. I’m Still working
    On it and do not want to say stuck in those émotions anymore (great video by the way).

    Ok! Chin up! I can do it! I will work on releasing all negative critics I agreed to let in and alowed
    To change me and try to bring forth what is best for me for the good of all.

    Affectionatly Madame Colette.

    • DLLGRJandfurballs
      Reply

      Sylvie, especially for you ….

      Esprit Grâce (French)
      Spirit Blessing (translated)

      • Sylvie
        Reply

        Thanks for your Spirit Blessing. Greatly appreciated and gratefull!
        From my Soul to yours … Peace!

        • DLLGRJandfurballs
          Reply

          Oui, si paisible, grâce …
          Qui, âme …
          Acte de bienveillance, chaque créature vivante, génial amour …
          LOV : )

          Yes, peaceful, thanks …
          Yes, soul …
          Sharing the Highest LOV : ) , Amen.

  • Marina
    Reply

    Dear Collette,

    Thank you so much for this important reminder. The way we can bully ourselves into staying small and dim our light to fit in is just mind blowing. Thank you for bringing us back to focusing on our light and the unlimited potential we carry.
    Much Love,
    ~ Marina

  • Ann
    Reply

    Thank you. I’m just recently discover you. You are a wonderfull writer. I’m trying to change my ”inner” voice nourished by bullies for much too long. So your text come has a blessing….Jung and synchronicity…hummmm. Look forward to read more of your teachings/advices.
    Much thanks from Montréal. Ann

  • Renee Sugar
    Reply

    Thank you Colette. This is a very potent topic. I have always been “different”.
    A real introvert; with a mind that is driven to understand both “how “and “why”
    I think, or behave the way I do. The good news is that I do have options about
    my thoughts and behaviour. I have often felt that I didn’t “fit” in, even that
    there was something “wrong” with me. On the upside, I can honestly say
    that I don’t care about “the good opinion of others” as Wayne Dyer would say.

    Each of us born with unique gifts, innate talents that are meant to be developed.
    If others are jealous, or critical, it usually is because they are afraid or possibly
    just mean-spirited. No one can fill another’s ‘ place. I have never had much
    patience for those who spend their days pointing fingers at others, and whispering
    behind their backs or publically. It says more about their petty mind-set and unhappiness.
    I have spent much of my lifetime trying to be the best version of myself, and to cultivate
    the gifts. Recently I wrote an article for TONIC magazine, a health publication. It has been
    included in a contest and now in its 2nd stage. The article was selected and is one of three.
    Writing it was an opportunity to express my thoughts and share my experience on a topic
    that is very important to me. http://www.tonictoronto.com (click contests) I invite anyone interested
    to read it and to vote. I hope it sheds some light for someone.
    I really appreciated the first in the series of on-line tutorials about the Invizion process.
    This weekend, I put a very difficult life challenging transition into the box and left it there.
    I chose to not worry, and fret, and to allow some space for other options to emerge.
    Hearing that tutorial was so helpful. I had a really relaxing weekend, and felt so peaceful.
    So for the one naysayer who is nasty, or who doesn’t have the courage to take a good hard
    look at themselves. IT’S THEIR LOSS!!! There are so many who appreciate our gifts, and who
    respect and celebrate them with us. I prefer to spend my time with them. The song “Just Walk
    away Renee” is the tune I will listen to when someone is unkind, or attempts to belittle what I
    do. “No one can ever make you feel inferior, without your consent”.
    Eleanor Roosevelt.

  • Diana Boles
    Reply

    The first day of school. 1956—1st grade. The nun and my mother arguing about my staying, being well enough, for class. I had gotten my school shots the day before. We had to walk, a city mile. I had a fever. My arm hurt so much that I could not move it (the nurse hit the Bursa sac). In fact it still gives me trouble and I’m almost 66. The nun grabbed my ailing arm and I dissolved. Wailing, I fell to the floor and she would not let go. My mother was appalled—defending Scorpio angry. We left. When finally home, I slept til the next morning. The next day, I woke happy and healthy and ready to go to school. Only thing was, the nun was not going to let go of the events of the day before. Not know ing the rules, I just sat at a desk. Big mistake. She started yelling at me, humiliating me, all the kids were laughing at me. And her final words were “That’s what you get for not caring about school enough to be here yesterday”. So, 8 years of elementary school were very lonely.
    So many of you can relate to moments like those. They haunt you for a lifetime. They will make you who you allow yourself to be. What you take as a vitamin for healthy energy or what you take as a suppressant to narrow your activity.
    That little girl I was always tried to be the tallest Poppy. What matters if there is no one in the garden to see it. A flower growing still stands in the sun and drinks up the rain. And when you remember to show love for yourself, you can’t help but show love for others.
    Kudos Renee Sugar! Kudos Eleanor Roosevelt! Kudos to all the Goddesses and Heroes who join in this garden tribal dancers. Kudos to Colette for knowing how to fertalize this soil so this garden grow!

    • DLLGRJandfurballs
      Reply

      That’s a very sweet “kudos” Diana ….
      LOV : )

  • Eric
    Reply

    Colette,

    To Jenny, Ann, and all other new members of the tribe:

    Ladies and gentlemen, my name is Eric and I’m one of your flight attendants. On behalf of Captain Colette and the entire tribe, welcome aboard Sparkly Being Airlines flight Life 101, non-stop service from where you are in life to where you are going in life, then continuing on to your final destination.
    Our flight time will be of unknown length but we will be helpful in making sure you arrive to your final destination, all in Spirit’s time. We will be flying at an altitude of the highest highs and the lowest lows and at a ground speed that at times seems like we’re barely moving and at other times we may be too fast for you, just know that there is a reason for each speed change.

    At this time, make sure your seat backs and tray tables are in their full upright position. Also make sure your seat belt is correctly fastened. Also, we advise you that as of this moment, any electronic equipment must be turned off. Thank you.

    Now we request your full attention as the tribe attendants demonstrate the safety features of this aircraft.

    When the seat belt sign illuminates, you must fasten your seat belt; this is for your own safety and well-being to endure the turbulence experienced on this flight through life. Wrap your arms around someone, interlock fingers, and hold them close to you. Patting of the head and back is optional as each method will make each passenger secure when they are feeling turbulence. To release your “seat belt”, simply release your embrace. Although the effect is long lasting we suggest that you fasten your seat belt as many times as necessary throughout the flight, as everyone will experience turbulence in their lives; don’t focus so much on the turbulence that you forget to enjoy the flight through life.

    There are several emergency assistance points on this flight. Please take a few moments now to locate your nearest emergency assistance point. In some cases, it may seem that your nearest emergency assistance point may be behind you. If you need help finding your way in the event of an emergency look for the lighting and cledons to guide you. Doors can be opened by living, loving, and treating others the way you wish to be treated. Each door that you open may not be specifically meant for you but as an opportunity for others. While some doors may be harder to open than others each is equipped with an inflatable slide which may also be detached and used as a life raft while attempting to open the next door.

    Oxygen and the pressures of life are always being monitored. In the event of a depression or the sensation that you feel confined, oxygen deprived, and can’t breathe, instructions on how to get more oxygen will automatically appear in front of you. Clear your mind, set outside matters aside, and you are ready to focus on breathing. Bring your attention to the sensation of breathing. Breathe in long and out long for a couple of times, focusing on any spot in the body where the breathing is easy to notice, and your mind feels comfortable focusing. If you are travelling with a child or someone who requires assistance, secure your own state of mind, and then assist the other person.

    In the event of an emergency, please assume the bracing position. Although we don’t anticipate any emergencies in our journey through life they come up from time to time so brace yourself for them.

    The following electronic devices (calculators, CD players, laptop computers) may be used when the seat belt sign is off, or when permitted. Cellular/mobile telephones, remote-controlled toys or any electronic device operating with an antenna must be turned off at all times . . . ok, from time to time. With all of the distractions in life we would hate for you to miss out on the good things, the simple things, just being. 😉

    You will find this and all the other safety information in the blog, books, and by talking to other tribe members. We strongly suggest you refer to it before take-off and as many times as you need to during the flight. If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to ask one of our crew members. We know that you have choices when you fly through life so we thank you for choosing Sparkly Beings Airlines. On behalf of the rest of the tribe I wish you an enjoyable flight through life.

    (sorry, was in kind of a goofy mood 😛 )

    • Colette Baron-Reid
      Reply

      OMG OMG I LOVE THIS !!!! hahahaha. Eric you crack me up 😉

    • DLLGRJandfurballs
      Reply

      That was a beautiful share, Eric:

      Is it “ok” to “copy” to relatives, LOL : )

      If so how is it to be credited?

      LOV : ) ed it!

  • Heather A.
    Reply

    Hello
    Your gift of combining, religious teachings with psychology and philosophy and to translate it into everyday words makes me begin to think that I can drop the baggage of the past, forgive, learn from it and go forward with eyes, ears and heart wide open. Cynicism has taken over my life, I no longer like the person I am. I wonder where I buried the person I used to be and I hope to one day shuck off these bad feelings about myself and open new windows and doors. The Shame I feel about how I have treated others in my life is overwhelming at times……..may I ask humbly for support and guidance in discarding the negatives and to learn how to be positive again…….I thank you.

    • Colette Baron-Reid
      Reply

      GROUP HUG for Heather!!! hang in there honey… one day at a time.. you can change .. first change your thoughts, made amends , ask Spirit for help. Trust that it will come. oxoxox

    • DLLGRJandfurballs
      Reply

      I agree, Heather ….

      Make amends, you, then everyone else “sometimes a moment at a time” – we have been there so can you – Be You!
      Because “you know” the person you used to be exists is the one to turn to for further guidance one who you prefer to be going forward. Everything was a lesson, can you help others make better choices? Some will understand some will learn the hard way … Just as you tried on the coat you understand not to be you so you are able to wear the coat that is you.

      Sixteen years ago (Sweet Sixteen) I quit smoking cigarettes, there were cravings now and again but they were only in the beginning (used Nica-gum as needed – definitely one box and small part of another then gave it to someone else to use, switched to regular gum. You Can Do It because you know what you do not want!) and a hand-full afterward. I turned my mind around remembering what it would lead to – for me no oxygen, gasping, wheezing, chest-pain, and insatiable consumption over and over [no end]; it was easier to say “no” remembering what I did not want/desire/need.

      It gets easier, and you will survive learning all the other stuff you may have put aside during your “harder-lesson years” that you can use not to repeat what you consider mistakes. You have the rest of your life ahead of you …

      “Shine Bright Like a Diamond” Blessings : )

  • Erica in Sweden
    Reply

    Thank you dear sweet poppy of love and light!
    It really gave me resonance, and to remember to turn away from the ego who wants to be “liked” and see myself and my teaching with the approach of “how may I serve”, and how can I let other people see their light, love and creativity.
    Blessings and lots of love from Stockholm!

  • Martina
    Reply

    Hi Colette,
    It’s Jan 2017 and I came across this post by coincidence. How wonderful that this post found and spoke to me.
    Thanks

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