Bumbling Boundaries – (Or How to do Imperfect Self Care)!
Updated: November 30, 2015
Dearest luminous you,
Do you believe in unlimited potential? Can you imagine in your world there is enough? I do, and I can, as I know these to be as true as my solid coffee cup. Yet everything is first created in Mind, brought into form by our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and sustained frequency. So before all this life we want can show up in front of us, it first is rooted in the invisible realms. It’s the essential energy of what is not yet in form that precedes matter. That potential, paradoxically can only be realized when you are aware of your own limitations, and can set flexible yet important boundaries.
Each one of us is unique, and we don’t co-create reality in a vacuum. We are co-creators with the Greater Consciousness and we don’t travel alone. We move through this world and learn and grow through our relationships with others. We don’t dance solo. And, we don’t have to dance with everyone that wants to dance with us.
Maybe the full moon this week was all about illuminating the truth of our connections, globally, and closer to home base too. The truth is subjective though, as what may be true for me may not be true for someone else. What may be true for you may not be true for everyone.
When we move past our stories and projections based on past experience we do get to the core truth- that wholeness is about integration and you can’t get there without peeling the layers of old stories and resentments away to get to the beauty of the Light you’re here to shine.
And sometimes, you need to set boundaries with yourself and others to take care of yourself so your Light doesn’t flicker out or set your eyelashes on fire because you didn’t tend it properly.
So don’t expect yourself to be fully graceful when you need to set boundaries with others. You might hurt someone’s feelings, you might fail miserably as a friend because someone expects more from you than you’re able to give, and you might have to clear the decks to be there for someone who needs you and in so doing let someone else down. That’s life. You can’t be all things to all people. I know in my case my circle has gotten smaller and tighter and that is perfect for me.
I have yet to learn the art of graceful boundaries, instead I have had the tendency to hope I’m actually Wonder Woman secretly waiting for the costume to magically appear so I don’t have to be the one that fails the expectations of others, and when I’m fried, or at the very least singed, I set my boundaries bumbling sometimes into bed having made myself ill from it all.
I’m not like that today, though, not the way I was but I am still a bit like that.
Anyway… the point of all this is to remind us all that it’s ok to say no, it’s important to take care of you so your mind can rest and come back to the place of equilibrium and awareness of the pre-manifest world. The card I chose for us today is from The Wisdom of Avalon-Burden. It reminds us to take care of ourselves and know when we are capable of sharing the burdens of others and when we are not.
Be discerning, your Spirit knows the difference between open-hearted generosity and co-dependent enmeshment. When you know this intimately, infinite potential is shareable in ways so magical you Light up the whole world.
Bumble on my darlings..
Loving you always and forever.
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