The Consequences of “Tone it Down” (so Sing who you are Loud and Proud)
This week my friend – motivation mamma and spiritual teacher Danielle Laporte dropped a Truth Bomb on her Instagram page (one of her special cards from her branded Truth Bomb series) and when I saw it I had such a strong reaction to it I decided to start a discussion about it with you here.
The Truth Bomb says “ If you tone it down Life can’t hear you.”
Feel that statement in your bones. What comes up for you?
How often have you been told, subtly or overtly that who you are needs to be toned down and modified to fit in, that you need to conform, or that you should think, act, look like a certain way which isn’t really you?
This weekend’s oracle card reading and the reading for this week’s universal energies all point to the same theme. If we want to live freely without the constraints of pretense, giving into our creative desires and expressing them loud and proud we need to muster up more than a little courage.
Living authentically and joyfully – soul on fire- dancing into life has to be done in spite of everything and everyone around us that tries to silence us and everything inside us that is terrified to be true to who we really are.
Our culture here in the west is built on claiming certain freedoms. As a western woman I can vote, I can work, I can drive a car, ( or hot rod motorcycle) and I can choose who I sleep with and who I marry. I have a theoretical right to free speech and I’m allowed to express my beliefs and theories in a public forum. I can choose what to wear and what to eat. So when I move my eyes away and outward from my privileged stoop I’m appalled when I hear about women being severely punished or killed for refusing marriage in Pakistan for example (and before you get all twisted up in a knot about racism etc. I just saw this on BBC video this morning). I’m horrified by the repression of women that is rampant outside my small world. Who models freedom for these women?
So I get how privileged I am here to choose, to speak, to get an education and to express my thoughts to you here even though they’re unconventional and “ fringe”. I still have a voice.
But the concept of freedom here in many ways is hypothetical and a concept of idealism that can only become real if we act on it. So that means we need to find out what silences us within us as well as around us, to root out what says “ tone it down” your desires don’t count, there’s not enough, you’re not that valuable shhhhhhh”. Etc.
Bottom line is this Life can’t hear you if you don’t speak up. Spirit can’t co-create with you if you’re too shy about your dreams and goals. You will at best end up modeling how the repression model still exists and at worst keep it going complicit in an uneven exchange of energy- you get way less than what you’re trading for.
Tragedy has a way of being a harsh catalyst for transformation – a reminder of how short life really is. I think of my mom who died tragically without expressing her authentic dreams and who spent her life trying to find a way how to shove a square peg into a round hole because she believed it would be safer.
I have a voice within me that tells me that I’ll be punished for being my authentic self- some bogey man will come and wreak some kind of havoc as a result. I have learned to love that fearful self and to quiet her when she’s afraid without judgment. I stand tall anyway even if my knees are shaking. This is what I’ve learned. What does your inner silencer say?
Conversely what does your truest soul- self say? Mine is bursting with love and service and creativity and soul-fire! That self tells me all the treasure is there no matter how dangerous it is getting there.. the magic awaits!
Life can’t hear us if we silence our authentic selves. We will never truly be free if we have too many attachments to the outcome of that expression either. It’s being real every moment- here and now, honest , allowing intuition to sometimes challenge reason. We can course correct too as we learn more, and peel away the onionskins to reveal our soul’s bright and true fire light.
And, If we don’t agree with our culture, our consistent courage and actions will be the ones to make the shift. We do it together. I need to hear you though to know where to find you. You may begin as a single note but added together we will make the music that rocks the entire universe.
You game? Sing who you are loud and proud.
Love you always and forever.
JOIN OUR COMMUNITY