The Shadow in You Really Needs a Hug!
Updated: August 1, 2016
Dearest fellow traveler,
We’re all moving from what we once knew as familiar and relatively certain to new vistas that for most of us are unclear, and unrecognizable. Even if we think we know what we’re committed to, or hoping to discover, because we can’t fully make out the value of the new, or the shape of it, how to know it and to integrate it, our shadow side can kick up quite the storm.
When we’re scared, or angry, the kind of angry that comes with fearing deep down in the murky shadows that there really isn’t enough and we will be forced to go to the garden to eat worms singing “nobody loves me lalalalall and, we think we won’t get our needs met. This story or any other number of stories we tell ourselves about scarcity and hopelessness, about being invisible, not counting, feeling diminished and exhausted comes from a part of us that wakes up and steals our vision and replaces it with goggles of distortion.
It happens when we get triggered. And it happens when we get things we don’t expect. We all can go there, go into the dark forest of our psyches where our goblins hide whispering their pain. That’s where our dragons hide too, malnourished by mixed messages and inconsistent thoughts and feelings, forced into cramped quarters burping and farting and accidentally setting things on fire, or for attention doing it on purpose.
This my friends is not a call for a forest burn, a goblin hunt or to slay any dragons. No – this is a true call for compassion and love and a genuine personal inventory to determine the source of the voices and their echoes, the stirring of old ideas, and the irritation within when our personal power is denied by something within us that needs our attention and care.
This is when Love is the only answer.
I had an experience this week when I had to walk my talk in a way that was hard for me. I wish I wasn’t so sensitive but when I find myself in a situation where I am confronted by someone’s disappointment my inner world doesn’t always remain steady.
IN fact I can go right back to the quivering child whose Dad yelled at her for getting a B instead of straight A’s when the report card arrived. I know intellectually I’m not there but my emotions, frozen in those moments, wake up a sleeping homeless creature within me and it hurts. She hurts, she feels like she will never be enough, will always be punished, and then I go temporarily blind. Spiritual amnesia and narcolepsy sets in and I react, recoil, and lose my footing.
But not for long!
The best part of all this is that I know this is what happens to us when we’re thrown into Uncharted waters together. Some of us will wade steadily into the water feeling playful and others will see the potential of sharks and old wrecks of haunted pirate ships below the surface up ahead. We’re all in the same water but not having the same experience.
IT’s my job to walk my talk especially now in these times of uncertainty. Maybe a better version of this is “ stumble my talk”. NO matter how anxious I was, no matter how personally hurt I was in some moments, I kept loving myself and allowing others to be loved.
I wanted to Love more than I wanted to react.
What would Love do when people are airing their grievances in ways that hurt? What would Love do to really hear what the other person is saying, looking past the details and into the essence?
What would Love do to help the scared little kid, and the dragon that needed to come out and stretch its wings.
OOPS you singed me! Oops mine singed you!
Sorry he doesn’t get out much! (O we really need to change that!)
We Love, we make amends, we don’t dwell on the words, we just keep holding space for a solution and then we love some more.
Our shadow selves need a hug not judgment or punishment, or dismissal or anything like that.
Love is the only answer.
It works!
So how was your week? Have you had an experience where things temporarily went haywire then came out better than you could imagine? How have you applied Love to the shadow?
Big love to you always and forever!!
JOIN OUR COMMUNITY
Applying love in ways I normally wouldn’t certainly is making a HUGE difference in my life. Being ripped from my excuses, I’m now generously layering love on top of love right now for myself instead of giving into fear of not being enough or having all this “work” experience to pursue a full-time job. Lot’s of unfolding is happening as I make a decision this week instead of freezing on the spot because I’ve afraid of breaking the Universe. (Which I know from watching your videos – doesn’t really happen that way.) Thank you for your commitment and consistency. I admire the light I see from you.
thanks Bernard.. if we do something new we will get a better result than we ever could have imagined!
Love this, I went on my first date since I am divorced (3yrs), he was a great guy. Trigger was he mentioned he wasn’t sure what he wanted. I ended up at my ex’s house (we btw get along great and still have love lingering) anyway…I find it ironic this am as I completed my meditation that what I seemed to have attracted is a FBmessage from one guy who just wanted a benefit for himself, an invite to dinner from a friends hubby (she knows is OK)and an out of the blue text from an old coworker I have not seen or spoke to in literally years asking me to stop in and visit him for a kiss!!! LOL REALLY???? All because I decided to stay in the present keep options open and text the guy I went on date with to say hi. 🙂 Hello Universe I am sooo Glad for the sense of humor. I get it, I am not invisible but it is up to me how others view and treat me.
you bet we teach others how to treat us!
Thank you Collette this is exactly what i need to heard as my “be seen and not heard dragon made an appearance this week” and the “don’t shine too brightly dragon” . With love to you and my dragon and the frozen emotion – I acknowledge you , I love you and I give you space to grow.
Facing the freeze
x x xx x x
xo
Dear Colette, for now with Gods Grace my life is going well, but now that I think of it, I woke up with stomach pain in the middle of the night on Sat, I am going to the doctor tomorrow, other than that I am fine….I created my life as a hermit with a family, and now school is out, I am on vacation…
So, thank you, Quantum Fred, for giving me a break..I have been through a lot, now I enjoy easy training…
Love you Colette, I am glad it all worked out at the end, it always does, does it not!!…..Love, B…
xoxoxox
Hello. I quit a job that I had been in for 12yrs. I did not like the politics. Need new direction. Have survived on some retirement funds. Looking for new career. Feel as if I need vision quest. Have been lightening the load as far as posession’s. Family and friends don’t get it. Feel urgency that I need to leave state and live my life for a change! Take some clothes and my 3 cats and go. Scared. How do I do this. Maybe I am losing it. Feel something coming that’s positive but shadow side pops up doubting self and spirit. That is where I am. Your cards do correspond. Been seeing Hawks each day! A definite messenger!
love it
Dear Mary Lyle a year and a half ago I was faced with a choice I did not want to make one side begged me to stay the other said no he is giving you a way out go. I packed up myself and 5 dogs in my jeep all the clothing and photo albums I could and started over. Scared shaking but still believing I have come so far it actually scares me. I did not realize how far down I had dropped till I was pushed out . Don’t let it scare you if its in your heart then do it Don’t look back Memories will come but only cherish the good ones and learn from the others. Colette’s blog this week is dead on. I still see scary things but I close my eyes and thank my guides and higher power for bringing me to where I am and trust they have my back . They will have yours also dear one Just close your eyes and trust your heart and your gut! You are blessed.
beautiful …
This post and the oracle reading for the week really hit home!! I quit my job earlier this week because the environment was killing my spirit, and because I have some health issues. This brought out my inner shadow full-force. Before I actually tendered my resignation I was terrified, but the moment when I knew I needed to do it was a moment of clarity and detachment. After I have had feelings of joy and fear, and the fear has been about not being able to meet my needs, and a fear of failure because I know now that I can’t go back to those same kind of jobs. So now I’m just kind of waiting to see what comes my way, knowing what I want and trusting Spirit that what is for me will not go past me. I’ve been taking care of myself for most of my life without the help of others, so accepting help has been difficult. Accepting the gift of time to actually discover what Spirit has in store that will make my heart sing has been difficult. But life is an adventure, right? And Spirit has never let me down.
yes Spirit will not let you down! Spirit wants harmony .. in the end no matter what we choose Love is the answer and harmony its result
Dearest Colette:
Before I left Alberta for your “Uncharted” weekend (which was fabulous by the way) I made all the arrangements and ordered everything for a new kitchen. While I was gone, my husband decided to change a “few” things. Well when I got back the list was a little longer than I had anticipated and I was somewhat caught off guard when my “inner child” had a tantrum. Before the fist clenching and foot stomping got too far out of hand I heard, loud and clear, “What you want is meant for you to have”. That was interesting. What is it I want most? A new kitchen? No! I want a harmonious marriage with Bob. He worked his buns off while I was gone doing demolition, plumbing etc. And if my 71 yr old, plumber husband fancies himself as a designer? So be it. The kitchen will still be new, clean, bright, pretty and thanks to his plumbing expertise, I’ll have a dish washer. Yay. I surrendered in a good way. Now my kitchen may turn out better than I imagined. That remains to be seen but I know my marriage is better for the love and light I shed on it.
Speaking of our wounded inner child. I know we were supposed to deal with her back in the 80s and this is about when I wrote:
A Letter to my Younger Self:
On bended knee I wipe her tears
I hold her close to still her fears
The child’s eyes are filled with pain
So much to lose, much more to gain
The innocence is gone from youth
The lies must stop, it’s time for truth
You do deserve, you are the best
You must believe despite the rest
It’s not your fault, I quietly chant
You didn’t know to say “I can’t”
I take her tiny hands in mine
I stroke her hair and try to find
The words to make the light shine through
And finally, her smile grew
Breaking through the years of shame
Releasing any need to blame
The past won’t hurt what it can’t catch
Just slam the door and lock the latch
The present is our focus now
It’s time to learn and teach just how
To walk in hope and joy and peace
To break the chain and find relief
Please join with me, my precious child
To make me whole, I need you smile
Love and big hugs ✨?✨
what a beautiful share heather!! xoxox
Very touching, thanks for sharing 🙂
Hi from France Colette and thank you, as always, for what you do and especially for who you are.
“Stumbling our talk” is pretty much what we all do from time to time…and as long as it is not all the time, we’re blessed! And we definitely are. That Divine spark in each and every one of us makes sure of that.
Thanks a million Colette,
I received your Wisdom of the Oracle cards last week and I just Love it. Beautifully designed…and so so insightful…But I was not surprised at that!
Wishing you a sparkling week,
Much Love to you Colette,
Catherine
enjoy the cards! Thanks for writing
If i didn’t know better Collette, I would say you have been in my world watching me! This morning after my meditaton, I read this message and it as very synchronistic. Thank you for being you, and I’m sending hugs to you and all of us that need them in these uncertain new wondeful times. We are all in this together and so very much more than we know. ?
hugs to you and to all yes!
Wow…lol Karen, I too just stumbled upon this blog after my meditation and was amazed at how on point it was for the beginning of my week….then add to that the name similarities … Love my higher powers great sense of humor, love the synchronity, love this tribe. Love filled hugs to all. <3 <3 <3
loving this
Thank you so much, dearest Colette,
your wise words are helping me so much right now!
You know, my last relationship ended over 3 years ago, and I had been very happily single ever since. A couple of months ago I met a wonderful man, and we started an „uncomplicated“ relationship, which – at first – felt exactly like what we both wanted and needed, and has been very joyful and playful.
However, I hadn’t imagined that it would open my heart so much, bringing serious turmoil into my life, especially at work. I hope that I will be able to fix that again, as I really love my work and need this job, but I realized that opening my heart again after all these years must have felt like a volcanic eruption, leaving me feeling unexpectedly frail and vulnerable in so many ways.
Thanks to your message, I will hug my inner child today and tell her that everything is and will be alright. She’ll be so, so glad to hear that.
Love you, Colette!
Susanne
I met my husband that way honey ” uncomplicated ” was what we said, marriage and BIG LOVE is what happened!
🙂 XXX
How very wonderful!!! Thank you, Colette!
Hi Colette,
Thank you for your blog and I’ve felt completely out of sync the last month or so and I just want to retreat in to the safety of my own 4 walls. I don’t if this is due to the change in consciousness that is happening or whether it is fundamentally due to me. And yes I would like some intimate love to come towards me.
Thank you, I always look forward to reading your blog posts. Gives me hope and inspiration.♥
I definitely needed to read your blog post today. I went to my doctor’s appointment last week and was told that I wouldn’t be able to have children. It was devastating; I always thought I would have kids some day and even though I’m 36, I figured I would still have time. But after hearing that news, and the finality of it all I just crumbled in that moment.
But after processing this and talking to a friend about it, I felt that this situation was necessary for me to go through in order to strengthen my faith and to love myself completely. My expectations for myself and my life haven’t been met; I’ve always been so hard on myself. I would tell myself that I can only really love me when I’ve achieved a) this body type b) this level of money in my career c) have a clean & organized house, etc. Not having achieved any of those goals had left me just hating myself more and more.
Now that I’m faced with the present of this disappointment, I’m finding my glimmer, my true light. I’ve learned that it’s not about all of that on the outside, but when you strip all of that away, you’re left with the core essence, the most precious thing that makes all of us one. That I feel is what I’m being called to love right now about myself; to let go of the outside and love the inside of me.
So when you talked so poignantly about loving your shadow, that really called to me. I’ve been guided to love it all, love the light, love the dark and everything in between. Really love myself and care for myself. It’s okay that I’m not perfect. It’s okay if I can’t come through for everyone. It’s okay, like you said, to stumble and fall. As long as I get back up and try again and I know that I can be quite persistent!
Thank you for sharing this; it really spoke volumes to me. Sending light and love to you 🙂
this is so powerful thank you for sharing!
My daughter was told she would never have children but we both refused to believe that and after calling on Spirit and Angels of the highest truth and compassion and prayers we went to another specialist. Two years later she conceived naturally and four years after that she now has 3 beautiful children. With hope and Love – – Miracles truly do happen! Sending Love and light to you Remika.
Great Blog Colette and just what I needed to hear today. My shadow side is coming on out and I needed this reminder to stay in love and not fear or guilt. Thank you!! Have a fabulous day.
HUGS!! Love is the answer!
Hey Colette I love that you are such a wonderful channel for messages and words of wisdom that always come at the right time. I receive so much clarity, hope and encouragement from what you give and thank you so much for allowing the wonderful gifts you have to be openly shared with so many. Your honesty, dedication and service is inspiring, you are blessed and what you share blesses us all.
Love and Light
Leane
awwwww BIG HUG thank you
Colette,
This quite literally JUST happened to me yesterday. It’s my Inner Child and when she wants to be heard, she screams at the top of her lungs! I went ahead and did my best to navigate through it. I called on friends to help me. I visualized what I really wanted and it happened. I stopped shaking. I had been vibrating SO high all day long. Worries about a brand new relationship that I have a very strong feeling about. Even though it’s brand new it feels SO familiar in other ways. And some of the old relationship fears are still there. I took them to my special place. To the Abbey. I talked with a friend. I walked barefoot in the grass. I let God and the Angels hold me because I needed it most at that very moment. And it happened. The Love came through. I was able to be compassionate with myself, with that inner child, with my whole being.
Thank you!
Love and pure white light,
~Felicia
the feelings will still come up, its what we do with them that makes the difference. Sounds like you did all the right things to make the shift !
My week has just begun with the new month & my birthday. Love your cards & readings. Big hugs from Kalamazoo,Michigan.
happy birthday!
Tyvm Colette. Lovely week so far
This is my birrhday week,so I’m happy.
JO : )
Happy Birthday, Mary.
Hi Colette, a friend asked me to read this blog after talking to her, about an incident that happened this morning. I was with my exhusband trying to find an electrician for my daughter. As always I have been the one who has the responsibility to ‘do’ the task. Here within me came up 20 years worth of anger and resentment as always having to be the one to take responsibility and resenting that he doesn’t. I was so angry, was my expectations too high still after 9 years of divorce. I started to cry and felt I had let me daughter down because when the electrician came i felt I had wasted the money to pay him as the electrican was not sure. I am tried of putting all this expectation on others and of feeling resentful. And in the midst of all that anger it was hard to soften into love, as it all felt hopeless. Thank you for the reading. Debbie : )
Hi Colette, thank you so much for your reading it was spot on. Having spent some time this morning with my ex husband trying to find an electrician for my daughter. I felt the old patterning of behavior coming to the fore. I spent a lot of time married, on my own with my 2 daughters and so consequently did a lot of things myself and took responsibility for a lot of things. Over the years I got angry and resentful for always having to take responsibility for the whole family and this stayed deep inside of me making me feel hopeless and resentful, maybe too much expectation. Anyway this rose again this morning trying to find an electrician for my daughter, he passed it all over to me whilst standing there and i sorted one out. when the electrician came he was not sure what he was doing, so this further compounded my feelings of hopelessness and guilt because i had called someone i thought could fix it. Its hard when in the anger, resentment, expectation to stay centered in love for me, when so many other thoughts are going around my mind and I am caught up in the void of emotion. Your reading was spot on. Debbie
xoxoxoxo thanx for sharing
So well written! (again) Thank you Colette, you are doing a great service here, I appreciate it xo
Beautiful dearest ONE, thank you <3
Just bought your cards from the Enchanted Map and Wisdom of the Oracle and I'm enjoying them immensely, love them, love you <3
Unconditional love to you and to all <3
Looks like the end of July was a busy time for conceiving. Happy Birthday to you Mary List and to me. Turning 60 on (Sunday) came with the realization that I have left behind a way of seeing myself in a negative light. Now filled with forgiveness, compassion, kindness and appreciation for the soul that I ” AM ” becoming. I will say that I was disappointed that certain people in my family, (i.e.) brother and certain friends did not extend any kind of greeting to me. Yes I will say that I was hurt. I will also way that I am still loved unconditionally , and loveable no matter who says so or not. It has been an awakening to acknowledge that I must leave behind those who aren’t able, or available to be a friend. I am a very conscious, thoughtful, caring person who is very loyal, BUT if it isn’t reciprocated, or I am the one always extending, then that isn’t a relationship. In the past 6 months I have been working on rebuilding my sense of worthiness with the guidance of a very special coach. I have been reminded of the many aspects of who I am that I had long forgotten. Not working as I once did, I had disappeared on some levels. I don’t have the visibility that I once enjoyed. Part of my life and lifestyle had died. More important was the realization that the relationship I had with myself was what I needed to focus on. So a new beginning learning to communicate with my soul. What do I think about that? How do I feel? Asking and wanting to know and understand. Fortunately there are places to share where I feel completely at home. This blog is one of those places. I am grateful that I feel welcome.
“Say what you mean and mean what you say, because those who matter don’t mind; and those who mind don’t matter.” Dr. Seuss
Loved your poem Heather, it really touched some resonant chords.
Those people with whom I can be sincere are the kind of people I want and need in my life. I’m not interested in playing any games. I “know” what feels true, and my instincts tell me clearly when not to bother with some people. It’s not worth the aggravation. Turning 60 means that I am not going to be here forever, and I will need to be discerning about how I spend my time, energy and with whom I share my ideas heart and soul with. I am WORTHY of love, and am an investment that pays dividends not in material terms, but in other important ways on many levels. I value the lessons that life has taught me, and I hope that in some ways that what I share is of benefit to someone at some point in time.
With Gratitude Colette for being who you are and for offering this blog to shed light on so many subjects which impact us everyday. May we all grow in love and light and compassion for ourselves and each other.
XOXOX
xoxooxoxooxoxo you need to get the book Worthy by nancy Levin!
Thank you Renee for acknowledging my poem. I don’t write often but am sometimes moved by emotion and poetry is the result. I think that some of us that have had a less than stellar upbringing need to help the wounded parts of ourselves to heal and develop the self worth and self esteem that was denied us. Blame, shame and tantrums didn’t work so I decided to give self love and gratitude a chance. It was like magic. Bravo to you for your strength and integrity and honouring Gid’s gift to the work YOU!!
Many blessings are on there way to you and even a miracle or two. Big hugs!!
LOV : )
Happy Life, Renee
I’m so grateful for you and your work. For me it was two days ago, woke up, had a request from my roommate to do the watering and wow, the intensity of sensation or anger that showed up within me was intense! I knew it wasn’t about the watering. I’m grateful for the ability to be present with sensation but wow. My friend got in touch that morning and I let him know that it would be best to talk later in the day. The fire breathing dragon wanted someone or something to attack. And I went hi, I’m here, and no, I will sit and breathe with you as long as you need me too but I will not carry out your desire. This is mis-directed energy. At one point I just sat and felt all these thoughts from times past, finally shifting into more of a tears and release pattern, but wow, haven’t felt that kind of anger in years, nor that desire to just attack someone or something. Wild! Yes, may we love the shadows and embrace them to the best of our ability, so they can feel loved, and seen and heard.
We can train our dragons!! And love them!
Dearest Colette,
Thank you so much for such an awesome website. I am in the process of creating my own right now and have had some reservations like, Maybe it won’t work out or some insecurities. You know that other little voice in us that thinks they know it all. Well anyway I really enjoy your blogs and the weekly readings, they always seem to give me the messages I need and get me back on track. So I thank you and I will also be going to Lily Dale this year for your workshops. Can’t wait! Bright Blessings to you!! 🙂
Dearest Colette, I just want to say thanks for creating such and awesome website and sharing your thoughts with the public. Wish I had something like this when I was younger, it would have made life much easier! I too am starting a website and sometimes the little insecurities creep up and I get nervous thinking about weather it will work out or not. When I read your weekly blog and watch you video it truly gives me the courage and inspiration I need sometimes to move forward. It also helps me to remember who I truly am. So I thank you so very much for sharing your wisdom with all of us! I will see you in Lily Dale this month and am excited about it. Thanks again and Bright Blessings to you!
me too .. so I made one now see you in a couple weeks!
Actually, uncertainty isn’t a “new” normal, it’s always been the normal…whether we’ve wanted to admit it or not…which is usually what leads to most of our “stumbling our walk.” 🙂 Thanks for the insight and wisdom. I’m off to meditate on what Love would do in my situation.
Hi there! I had a really intense experience of being triggered this past week. It hit me like a brick and left me feeling like I wasn’t enough, never would be enough and that my whole life was a sham. Throughout this stressful afternoon there was a little voice saying “You know this isn’t true – this is your shadow talking!” I was reminded of the last time I felt this triggered and how much I loved the reassurances I got from the Shadow of the Night oracle card deck. (Strangely, both of these episodes involved cars/vehicles.) In any event, the SoN cards always gave me back that big dose of love and compassion. I felt like the readings I got from those cards were spot on when I was triggered and clearly wallowing in my “shadow self.” In fact, after this last event, I ordered a deck from Amazon. I thank you for your teachings here that have really helped me to work through difficult emotions and day to day living!
I have difficulty controlling my emotions….when I feel I’m being attacked, when I say emotions I mean the crying as soon as I’m confronted and I feel it’s wrong or untrue it swells up and I can’t stop it I CRY? I want to have the ability to sit with it or at least see where it’s coming from.
Thanks for all you do!!
I needed that today. I have been praying to love myself enough to take good care of myself. I love others so much that I find myself empty and wondering if I am at all worthy of love. Your message was a light in a dark week. thank you.
you are worthy… you are worthy!
I haven’t gotten through to the other side. Still pretty much in shadow. Today I was supposed to be doing a site tour in Oakland for a project I love very much and feel a strong calling towards, but a panic attack about negotiating in a big city among strangers blindsided me. I postponed but I didn’t tell the organizer why. I was too ashamed of old fear reactions related to my bipolar.
keep going..
keep going.. oxoxo
the shadow in me really needs a hug it resonates with me these days as I struggle a lot with depression that I m almost sure is due to sexual abuse in my childhood I feel I need more love and support from my relatives I feel really alone and not understood or helped by anyone 🙁
Lulu, maybe you’re looking for support and love from the wrong people. Sometimes the relatives we’ve dealt with all of our lives can’t see the forest for the trees. In other words, if they weren’t there for you in the past, probably not going to happen now. Have you sought professional help from you regular doctor? A support group? A women’s shelter?-most have counseling available. A therapist? And as Colette always says ‘Spirit’s got your back’. Go inside yourself and connect with Spirit, you always have you angels around just wanting you to ask for their help. Find that child inside yourself and tell her she is good, worthy, enough and loved. Sending you love, light and peace.
First impressions deserve second chances. Thank you for another insightful forecast which helps so many people in a variety of ways. Your gift of deep knowing and strong intuitions continue to strike chords within. Have a blessed week Colette. Much love to you.
I already ordered it!!!! Have read JUMP and your life will appear as well. First heard of Nancy on your radio show. So MEGATHANKS!!! Am on a waiting list for Dr. Joe Dispenzas” Progressive workshop this month. Whatever is meant for me will not pass by me. It was sold out even before the early bird date.
XOXO
Thank you. Your words are very comforting. It is how I feel. You just know how to say it. You get this Life! A Tribe of like minded people are Powerful. Inner Peace creates the future in Love.
What a great blog post, I read them when I can and this one caught my attention. I enjoy the humour you weave into your writing, you crack me up. I am consciously aware of the shadow self and there have been quite a few burps and farts as of late, ask I ask source to please show me how to get myself out of the way so I can be here to serve from my highest potential, amazing vibration trickles through me and around me showing me little miracles in many ways, but I continue to become stuck, stuck in a tricky family relationship with someone who is very toxic and every time I am around her she sprinkles ” emotional arsenic” on my food a little at a time. If I walk away from her I will have to walk away from many and the guilt shadow creeps in and taps me on the shoulder along with their friend, powerlessness and hardened heart telling me to get over it, this is your family, you don’t walk away from family,she will never change and this way if you stay and hang around this time you can prove to your family you’re a good person.(ridiculous I know, but it’s what comes up) It’s so raw right now because more recent issues are presenting and I am writing and writing to try to draw out the clarity I seek to heal this once and for all, to free myself from the clutches of this shadow monster that only I have the formula to break free from, it’s around somewhere hiding under all this emotional debris -so…..spot on blog for me this week and as you say (I am most definitely) “stumbling my talk”
BIG Love to you
xoxo
Jennifer
love the emotional arsenic lolol
I just read your fire story in Debra Silvermans book The Missing Element. I love you even more. I am fiery but also can be earthy and grounded and watery. Depends on the day and people I’m with etc. I’m learning even more to love all of me and be unapologetic for just being who I am.
thanx for posting !
I’m so glad that you posted this because giving myself love is exactly what I needed to do just last Thursday. I have Bipolar disorder and have been struggling since starting my spiritual path with some friends. I keep having this growing frustration with them because ever since my spiritual wake up we have not been close at all like we were. It’s as if I outgrew them. It hurts a lot and on Wednesday I met with one of them who I am still close with and she was telling me how they all got together and yada yada which sent me in a frenzy because I try to include them in everything I do (they hardly ever attend or join me) but yet they don’t ask me to join in anything they do anymore at all. But, (this is where it kills me) they always tag me in things and include me on group text messages like everything is okay when it’s clearly not. So it’s just been a frustrating build up that finally came to a head and I had a collapse in my mental well being, (a fit as I call it). I finally just let the fit take control for a day and took some medicine to calm me down. I was in a fit of self wallowing and the ‘poor me’ adage. I let it consume me for the whole day (probably a week, had I let it) and the next morning I decided to show myself love. I told myself that it’s finally time to accept that I have truly outgrown them spiritually and need to move on. It is okay to love them from afar but for me and my mental health I have to let them go. It just makes it hard for me since I live in a small town but I’m putting out lots of love and will hopefully attract like minded individuals to grow with. So I will just keep giving and showing love wherever I go and continue to be me. Eventually the right people will show up. Thank you for your awesome blog this week!
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Love you Colette. Your thoughts and words uplift me as does yoru beautiful presence.Thanks for the encouragement at this time when I am deeply feeling everything you just described! xoxoxoxoxo
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Spot on Colette, I relate to what you have written. Thankyou xxx
The dictionary defines compassion as a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering.
There are so many ways of explaining “misfortune”. From pain & loss – from health to wallet – but there is another aspect of life where compassion is the tool needed for YOUR survival. When injustice comes from a place of ignorance and insecurity.
Certainly everyone here has felt the sting of social injustice —- from the bullies on the playground to the office superiors that show no regard for your esteem.
Jesus said, “Father forgive them, for they know not what they do”! That’s the position we must take for the souls survival. Even in the face of violence, when fear has gripped every fiber of your being and your soul. The truth is to detatch the self, the ego, and head to a higher plane. I know that sounds as if it were impossible. But when you know that the only way out of it is to ride through it you must take that quantum “Leap of Faith” and trust in the higher power to see you safely to the other side. Yes, and stumble your way thru it —– ???✨
as always your contribution here is much appreciated ! big hug to you and to all
Thank you Colette! Love wins, in every situation. This is also a good reminder to love myself. xoxoxo
OMG!! I sit here with the dam bursting after about a month of this and I didn’t realize what was going on! So much irritability and darkness and stress! several events that triggered so much pain and darkness. My son almost died from a bee sting, marital problems and a friend with multiple problems. I thought I was really losing my sanity. Thank you, Collette! Now I understand. I just have to keep loving us through it. And I need to walk my talk instead of sinking into the depths and darkness. I intend to keep this and read it every day to remind myself. Thank you Universe for Colette and for this reminder.
its a dance …. xoxo
Thanks Colette, for sharing this experience… for showing how to stumble gracefully, skinned knees and all and to get back up, with a hand reached out to Spirit for help. That is what you have taught me the most, the extending the hand out to Spirit whether I am down or not and trusting Spirit to gently guide me. I’ve had several triggers and stumbles into the mud lately and have found solace in the tools you provide for dealing with the shadow that arises from it. You are an amazing role model because you are real! Your shining light helps us to shine and makes the world a better place. Thanks for addressing the subject of shadow. Sending lots of love and light to you and the tribe, who through sharing, help us all. xoxo, Becca
aw thank you Becca I so appreciate this
My answer is to continue moving forward – perseverance.
Dad said you do not forget …. those you love – loved.
I agree we all need time off from each other, if necessary, to continue to love.
Authentically, I enjoy co-creating rather than being “married” probably because creating is “open” to new ideas and being married to something like your employment is full of structured behaviors that do not necessarily reflect one’s best interest.
Love this blog message! It reminds of tge old saying…to see the forest thru the trees. I’ve been focusing more this week to be mindful to send love to others and the Universe as everything flows better when doing so.
Before even reading your blog or listening to your weekly card reading, I pulled the Fork in the Road card from one of your oracle card decks. To my surprise, you also talk about a fork in the road, so I belueve I am heading in the right direction in my life this week.
Thanks, Colette for your divine inspiration abd energy. Helps me to feel more inspired and accomplished in my own life.
BIG HUG THANX FOR SHARING
I’m late reading your Monday post. It’s been quite a week. Your blog and reading are a perfect match and perfect encouragement. My story is long and complicated, yesterday especially was Hard. I got through it. Love sometimes is a reach but I find Forgiveness is a powerful assist. Forgiving myself especially is key.
Love to all out there in the trenches!
BIG HUG to you and all!!!
Thank you Colette. I was triggered yesterday afternoon and have been filled with nervous energy and sadness until I read your blog. Each time I hear news of the coroner’s inquest into my husbands death I feel like everything that I have rebuilt in my life will disappear and leave me cold and alone back in that dark despairing place. Yet on an intellectual level I know this is not true. I no longer give my power to those people who hurt me so I know that whilst their opinion may sting a little I will not hate myself like they want me to. I love myself now. I know that I am safe and loved by so many people who would never leave me feeling cold and alone. My emitional self just needed me to wrap my arms around myself, wipe away the tears and valudate my feelings while reassuring myself that I am strong and will come through this just fine
Here’s the link to the editorial I mentioned last week.
http://thechautauquanewspaper.blogspot.ca/2016/08/august-5-2016-chautauqua.html