Intuitive Self-Care: A List Of My Favorite Steps For Cultivating Self-Care And Wellness!

Updated: November 18, 2018

Many of us are juggling so many responsibilities and challenges in life that our own health and self-care ends up on the back burner. From long workdays and endless obligations to putting others’ needs before our own and ignoring our inner voice and intuition, we’re like robotic race cars racing around on the verge of running out of electricity. (Mind you, our cars are at least environmentally friendly.) We don’t want to pull over to allow our engines to recharge because we might get behind in the race. Yet, if we stop to think about it, we aren’t quite sure what the race is ultimately for in the first place!

I’ve had so much going on lately it’s got me thinking about self-care and healing. Many of us are struggling with something these days—whether exhaustion, illness, allergies, pain, depression, anxiety, or a cold that doesn’t want to go away. Beyond those more obvious symptoms, so many of us just feel stressed and out of balance.

It’s time to stop this insanity! Throughout my career working with clients and studying quite a bit about well being and self-care, I can unequivocally tell you that making yourself the main priority will not only positively impact all aspects of your life, but it will enable you to be a better friend, caregiver, partner, employee, and citizen.

For example, as I’ve made more and more steps to honor my own needs and health, my intuitive reading with clients have become clearer. So, let’s get started!

Here are some of my favorite steps for cultivating self-care and wellness.

    1. Trust your intuition: Have you ever ignored a nagging feeling that you need to slow down, only to end up getting sick? Or, you intuitively knew you should turn down an invitation, but you didn’t and then had a horrible time. (And, then you beat yourself up for not listening to your intuition in the first place!) Good self-care involves nurturing and trusting your intuition. Make a habit of checking in with your inner knowing throughout the day. What is it telling you? Do you need to rest, exercise, eat better, avoid a negative person or situation, or even go to the doctor? Trust it!
    2. Take time to meditate each day. I just heard all of you sighing at my mention of meditation. I know you keep trying to make the time to meditate. No more excuses! Meditation is a must for self-care and wellness. In addition to helping you connect to your intuition and the Divine, meditation has been shown to reduce stress and boost healing. Remember there are many forms of meditation, including focusing on your breath.  To help you with beginning your meditation practice (or deepen one you have and provide variety in your meditation journey) check out my meditation app. Download the App for iPhone or for Download the App for android
    3. Honor your emotions, even the negative ones. With so much emphasis on the law of attraction and positive thinking, many of us swallow our frustrations, anger, regrets, negative feelings, and painful experiences. Some studies have even suggested that physical pain is directly related to repressed emotions in our unconscious; when patients with pain have taken time to acknowledge all their emotions either by journaling or talking, almost all of their pain either went away or decreased dramatically. So, take some time each day to get all your emotions out so you can move on.
    4. Positive thinking really does go a long way. Do you frequently beat yourself up for saying the wrong thing? Or, expect things to not work out? Once you’ve acknowledged negative emotions, put your focus on the positive. To help reframe your thinking, keep a gratitude journal or take some time to do affirmations each day. What you tell yourself impacts your emotions, how you see the world, and even the very cells of your body. If you’re interested in learning more about how your thoughts impact your health, I highly recommend The Biology of Belief by Dr. Bruce Lipton.
    5. Let go of any need to have everyone like you. This is a tough one. Many of us have been brought up with the need to be liked and to be good. We hate to disappoint people and to set boundaries. But, the need to please everyone takes away your power. When you don’t stand up for yourself, your self-confidence dwindles and you start to lose touch with your intuition and purpose. So, just say no! OK, don’t say “no” all the time. But, never say yes when you really want to say no. And, give yourself permission to disappoint people. In The Art of Extreme Self Care, Cheryl Richardson shares a wealth of insight into breaking the need to please as well as more steps for self-care.
    6. Treat your body like a temple! Of course, we’ve all heard about the importance of conscious eating and exercise, but take note of how you think of your body. Stop the negative chatter about wrinkles and so on. Also, pay attention to intuitive messages from your body. 
    7. A little bit of simple pleasure and fun goes a long way. Many of us get stuck in all the responsibilities of life that we forget to stop and smell the roses. So do something that makes you feel good on a regular basis. It could be as simple as picking some flowers, going to the local park to play on the swings, or having breakfast in bed.  
    8. Incorporate more rituals into your life. Rituals help us cultivate an inner sense of calm. What are some rituals that would help you stay grounded in the midst of your hectic day? One of my favorite rituals is taking a soothing bath. Here’s what I do (for you to try at home). I mix 1 cup of Epsom salt and 1/2 cup baking soda with the following pure essential oils: 10 drops of eucalyptus, 10 drops of lavender, 6 drops of orange, and 3 drops of Ylang Ylang. I then soak for 20 minutes with meditation music and let go.

In service & love,


Showing 18 comments
  • Kim Blake

    I just want to say THANK YOU Colette for your inspiration and honesty. You are such an amazing gift to the world. I love and appreciate the Oracle lessons and the insights on your blog. Love and Blessings to you.

  • Elda

    That’s awesome,thanks.

  • Renee Sugar

    Hi Colette;
    Thank you for the reminder. When I woke up today, the sun was shining. As I stepped outside the
    thought entered my mind; SLOW DOWN, LOOK AROUND. You don’t need to run today. You can go at
    your own speed. BREATHE. THANK YOU. ALL IS WELL. This connects to what you shared last week about
    uncertainty, letting go of control. Today is a “ day off ” but usually I have so many things to do that I
    need another day off to recover. So timely that you are addressing the topic of self-care. I have been
    practicing a vegan lifestyle for over 30 years, and take time to walk outdoors, even when it is cold. I
    practice a yoga/pilates sequence 4 times a week, but that was as a result of a spinal injury that required
    me to rebuild core strength, all of the tiny muscles that we don’t even know exist. PRACTICE is the key
    regardless. It is so easy when we don’t make time for all of the above. As a human being I do not move
    at the speed of technology. Nor do I respond in a time-efficient way to every request, or e-mail. This is
    impossible. Act as if I have all the time in the world. What’s the hurry??
    I remembered a Swahili proverb; “ Hurrying and Hurrying brings no
    “Going slow does get you there faster”
    Take Good Care

  • karen j copeland

    Love you much

  • Cynthia Ryan

    Thankyou Colette, great reading for the week ahead ,ihave this deck ,so i proceeded to pick one card from my deck to tell me what i need to know
    I picked #17 Crow Spirit WOW!!! Talk about validation
    Blessed Be 😇💖🦉🙏

  • Anonymous

    Love this reading Colette. Thank you.

  • Anonymous

    I love what you had to say about self care and letting my intuition guide me!

  • Jennie

    Many thanks Colette. I truly needed these reminders today.

  • Kathy

    Perfect – I noticed a billboard yesterday (normally don’t even look at them) it said:
    Today Not Tomorrow.

  • Jenny Hughes

    Thank you for the fabulous list of self care ideas, and the card read with your beautiful new deck!!! Love you Colette!!!

  • Evans

    Thank you for the blog. All good. Enjoy this beautiful day,


  • Anna-Märta Bäckman

    Thank you Colette för your blogg it’s so interesting and learning too 💓🙏 love Namaste Anna-Märta

  • Momi Greene

    I Love Your WISDOM OF THE ORAVLE CARDS I just purchased from HAY HOUSE.
    From Kona Hawaii

  • Marjorie

    Hi Colette
    Thanks so much for this blog! I laughed out loud when I read it because I was just having a chat with the universe yesterday asking if there’s something I should be doing regularly to feel better and develop my intuitive abilities. Started off going to bed earlier and got up earlier than usual and when I woke saw text message from someone who heard I was interested in buying some essential oils. Before I opened your email, was thinking I needed to google the best oils to use in my bath for detoxing and relaxation so I could order! So reading your suggestions about self care and your essential oils bath recipe made me laugh, look up and say “thanks” for you! So again thanks! And bless!

  • Stacey

    LOVE your readings, cards, everything ! Where do you shop ? Love your style too !!

  • Anonymous

    What a cool lesson this week… I got chills when you picked the same two cards that you did last week. I guess Spirit feels like it needs to scream it louder this time, lol. Love you much!! Elvera

  • Judith Tremayne

    Love your blogs and your new card deck. My daughter and grand daughter are receiving these Spirit Animals Cards for Christmas too. Love your energy.
    lots of love from Australia xx

  • PaulaE

    Thank you so very much. Now that I am paying attention to Spirit I realise I needed to slow down but didn’t know how to do it without letting down others. So after my hip gave way some 10 weeks ago. I realised the world that I lived in didn’t fall apart. The next important thing I finally learned was the importance of self care and understanding my personal power is strengthened by being present as well as being aware of my life in motion. So the timing of this email/blog and me actually reading it, means soooo much to my current situation, as my primary intention now is to consider my self – care rituals. Thank you for sharing. I see you xXx

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