Sometimes It’s About the Questions, Not the Answers!

Updated: August 24, 2020

It is so natural to want concrete answers in life. Back when I was making my living doing private readings, that’s what most people came to me for: Directions, guidance, and ANSWERS. “Will so-and-so ask me to marry him? How will this business deal work out? When is my kid/mom/uncle/partner ever gonna straighten out their life??, When is he coming back?”

Boy, do I understand. Especially with so much uncertainty these days, everyone wants to know: “When will coronavirus get under control? Should I quit my job? Is my relationship with so-and-so gonna last when we can’t see each other?”

As humans, we have a natural desire for certainty. But that desire often handcuffs us, keeping us locked into a single way of seeing the world. There is so much more that Spirit has in store for us, but we can’t see it because we are so tied to our reality. 

That’s why before we can talk about getting answers, we have to talk about asking the right questions. 

In my readings, I’m a stickler about this. Ask a weak question, and you’re gonna have a weak reading. That goes for Oracle Card readings, and that goes for life, too!

Right now, there are a lot of people going around mumbling, “Why me? Why me?” and “Things are so bad, what’s the next bad thing that’s gonna happen?” 

When you are asking those kinds of questions, guess what: You get what you ask for! If you’re asking “Why me,” your mind is gonna come up with 101 reasons how you screwed up, why your life sucks, and how it’s all your fault. If you ask, “What’s the next bad thing that’s going to happen,” you’re going to see your life through that lens. You’ll see how your tomato plants died, how your best friend forgot your birthday, how your boss at work spoke a little sharply during the last Zoom meeting. You go from zero to negative 100 in about 10 seconds flat because proof is all around you!

The crazy thing is, proof of the opposite is all around you, too. While some people are saying, “Why me?” others are asking, “How can I help? How can this work out for the highest good? How can I contribute?”

Now, I don’t want to be someone who is all kittens and rainbows and unicorn farts… I know that there is awful, horrible stuff going on. And I also know that what we concentrate on, grows. If we stay focused on the problem, all we see is the problem. If we focus on the solution and affirming that, we will discover solutions!  And, if we open up our perceptions, we can see so, so much more. Focusing only on what is wrong, limiting our questions to the negative, will not empower us or serve us. It will not help us see new ways of becoming. We’ll just be stuck in the same old patterns and the solutions may be harder to discover. 

To create differently, we have to think differently. And to think differently, we need to ask different questions. 

Let’s look at how this works in an Oracle Card reading. A lot of people start out asking yes or no questions, like, “Will I get the job,” or “Is he or she the one for me?” Those may seem like what you really want the answers to. 

Now, I get it. There’s lots of people that love to do yes or no questions. I do not. 

Here’s why: Your life doesn’t end the minute you achieve a goal or destination. It’s not made up of one decision, one experience, one fork in the road. It’s always fluid, always changing, ever-evolving. In fact, you are a story in motion. That’s why it’s essential that you open up your perspective to look beyond the current situation. Every experience, every outcome, every possibility can bring good.  

The simplest question for any reading is… “What do I most need to know about this situation for my highest good?” I love this as a question for life as well because it embraces the truth that there is so much beyond what you can potentially see or imagine. There are elements and facets that we cannot see or even conceive of. If we limit ourselves to just what we can sense right now, we are eliminating so much possibility. 

How would a yes or no ever answer that? It can’t! 

So instead, I would encourage you to ask more empowering questions, questions that allow for the unlimited nature of the Universe, that seek good for all. The Universe will conspire to take care of you for your highest good.  Avoid restricting and limiting the capacity, both of the Universe to speak to you… and the Oracle card deck to serve you. 

There is so much more for you, once you are open to it! Imagine waking up every day and asking Spirit, “What do I most need to know or experience today for the highest good of all?” How would that change the conversation going on in your mind, and the way you interpret what’s happening not TO you, but FOR you?!

The Universe is always working on your behalf. Allow it to do so by asking bigger questions that lead to what you want to experience and where you want to go.

Hey! Want to learn more about Oracle Cards as a tool for transformation, and about how to ask powerful questions to fuel your journey? Save the date for my free live workshop on Wednesday, Sept. 16th and be sure to join my newsletter here to stay updated and get more details as we get closer!

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  • carol

    Thank you Colette! I needed this reminder today.

    Sending Love,


    • Carol

      Just what I needed this week , TY 🧚🙏🏻🌹

  • Kanika

    Just what I needed to learn at this moment. Beautiful writeup!

  • Pauline

    Thank you! I needed this perspective.

    I’m a Voluntary National Park Ranger (no, we don’t have a side arm or a Smokey-the-Bear hat!) and we’re working more hours on more days of the week this summer, to try to mitigate the effects of so many people, who have never previously come to the National Park, suddenly surging here in their hundreds, having seen “how lovely -!” photos on social media.

    And my boss has just rung me to have the “required conversation” because a visitor had complained, in writing, that I had been less than polite in requesting her (three times, please note) to put and keep her dog on a lead in a seal sanctuary . . .

    I am beating myself up. Seriously. I tell myself I have failed. I have let our National Park Service and, more importantly, MYSELF down. I am guilty – of ? Of less than perfection.

    So the question is: What do I most need to know about this situation, for my highest good? I’m trying, right now, to see things from that perspective. Thank you.

  • Kathleen M Ayers

    This is so relevant to the experience I had the other day. I had asked a question about what to do next for a work problem, and instead, I got an answer to a different, personal question that had been bugging me! It was the card I needed to see.

  • Billie Dawson

    Love this! With so much going on these days it’s often hard not to be afraid. But being afraid draws fear to us. Daily I ask the universe to please heal my fear based thoughts regarding this pandemic, and around the up coming election. Then I often frantically look for signs that things are getting better. I want to learn to let go and trust the process. Thanks for the reminder ask “what is for my highest good?”

  • Linda Michaels

    Love this!! I love how encouraging and supportive you are with everything. I now have 4 of your Oracle card desks and 2 of your books. Thanks for being you!

  • Sandra Eggerstedt

    I really enjoy and learn much from Your blogs Colette. Thanks so much for sharing Your insight and wisdom.

  • Sindy


  • Anonymous

    Wow, wow, Wow! Thank you for this discussion and reminder, Colette. I so needed this right now!

    Love and virtual hug,
    susan a.
    (one of your devoted beta students!)

  • Anonymous

    Great reflection as always,Thanks,God bless you ❤️🙏

  • Tamara Cruz

    Yes! Thank you

  • Stephanie

    Thank you for this gentle reminder.

  • Tracey

    Thank you! Better ways to form questions is something I’m trying to work on 💕

  • Anonymous

    Another wonderful writeup and push in the butt for me! Thank you!

  • Kathryn

    Love your explanation for asking deeper more meaningful questions about yourself.

  • Theresa Kaatz

    Colette, as always this is an excellent message

  • Madelene Grimm

    This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning. Thank you.

  • Maryellen Smith

    Thanks Colette! Perfect message for me today.

  • Shan

    It’s as though you are in my head!! I needed this. Thank you…..

  • Elisabeth

    Exactly what I needed to read this morning. I pulled A Higher View from Oracle of the 7 Energies yesterday and this morning and now I read this! A powerful message to look beyond what is in front of me and remember that Spirit has bigger and better plans for my life. Thank you Colette 🙏🏻

  • kim rodrigues

    fantastic reminder… mahalo

  • Anonymous

    Well spoken and taught. Sometimes its more about the question than the answers… I guess that’s one thing co-creating is about! Thanks Colette

  • Stephanie Martinez

    I too needed to read this today. Thank you for giving me better questions to ask my orical cards.
    You rock ✌

  • Charon

    on my van’s dashboard ”’what is the question?”’ was seen everyday for years! Even subconsciously it lived … and as a consequence my daily work travels gave many insights.

  • Alison Milton

    Thank you so much for reminding me to ask the right question. Doubting my ability is allowing my confidence to drop. Now your boost in the right direction will help.
    I really do love 💕 using your WISDOM cards. They have been such a help to my spiritual and psychic development. They were given to me by a beautiful psychic who has found her life purpose in writing a book to help EMPOWER others. I use them in conjunction with HEALING Oracle cards. My readings naturally take a journey of their own starting off looking in and then looking out. Today I will do a little EMPOWERING of my own. Thank you once again Colette for shining so brightly I could see you, when I was in the dark.
    With Love & Light Alison 🙏🌼

  • Charon

    written by poet, … a powerful insight to questions
    by David Whyte

    if you move carefully
    through the forest,
    like the ones
    in the old stories,
    who could cross
    a shimmering bed of leaves
    without a sound,
    you come to a place
    whose only task
    is to trouble you
    with tiny
    but frightening requests,
    conceived out of nowhere
    but in this place
    beginning to lead everywhere.
    Requests to stop what
    you are doing right now,
    to stop what you
    are becoming
    while you do it,
    that can make
    or unmake
    a life,
    that have patiently
    waited for you,
    that have no right
    to go away.

  • Anonymous


  • Anonymous

    Love this reminder Colette! I do think we sometimes can’t see the forest for the trees and thus we need to be reminded there are actually multiple answers depending on our direction – isn’t that what free will is all about? This is a chaotic time we are living in but I choose to focus on what can come of it instead of all the negatives. Thank you for reminding us to see the opportunity in the chaos!! love you, Barbara

  • Renee Sugar

    Thank you Colette.
    This is immensely helpful and important to be mindful of who, what, where? and allowing space for the how? to present itself, BUT not limiting the form. Yikes!!! This requires much thought.
    I am navigating through a career transition and have been crafting a question. This is what I have written, thus far.
    What can I do / share that is purpose-driven, practical, compassionate, that serves others, adds value and uses my work/life experiences in a form that nurtures others, and provides support, solves a problem and pays fair exchange.
    Does this fulfill the necessary requirements? ASK. BELIEVE, and you shall RECEIVE.

  • Andrea

    Thanks for the lovely reminder!
    Scenarios of powerful past friendships kept flashing through my mind as I was reading this. There were such powerful positive memories but there was also my limited ability to make good decisions.
    Maintaining the simple life is a constant work in progress.

  • Renee

    Oops I forgot one thing. May I do thy will, in divine appropriate timing for the highest good for all concerned?

  • Debbie

    Your blog was especially meaningful to me this week, reminding me that the Universe has wonderful things, events, people in store for me that I cannot even imagine…and you are one of these! Thank you!

  • Bettymay

    Hi Colette. I’ve been thinking about you and the passing of your best friend, Doug. The only thing I can think of that I could do is ask you to listen to YouTube’s ‘Oscar Lopez, Guitarras From Heaven – Flashback’ – the first listing in the search. Blessings to you and Marc and your sweet puppies.

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