How to Tap Into Your Higher Self!

Updated: June 1, 2021

The Higher Self is our connection to Divinity – to God, Spirit, Source, the Universe, or whatever you choose to call it. 

You can think of the Higher Self as your soul – the Divine part that chooses us and chooses to experience life through us. Through our personalities. This higher consciousness is the part of us that doesn’t fall prey to fear, scarcity, comparison, othering – or any of the things that cut us off from one another. The Higher Self recognizes that all life is sacred.

There are multiple parts to the self… 

Although this Higher Self is the true essence of who we are as Spiritual beings, over time and through our life experience, another part of us forms as well – the smaller self or the ego. 

The ego or the small self tends to think it’s running the show, although it really isn’t at all. This part of us sees the world through a lens of limited or false stories about reality. Things we’ve decided are true about ourselves or the world through our conditioning and the beliefs that have been passed down to us from our ancestors. Through these stories, we create an idea of our “self,” an identity we attach to. 

This part of the self is necessary to our quality of uniqueness, but can also tend to trip us up. It’s a very triggered view of the world that is shaped and formed and also influenced through our wounding. And it has very little to do with our true, Divine self. 

When you’re coming from a place of woundedness and you need to heal, it’s very hard to connect to your higher self or to find Spiritual growth. 

Spiritual growth is dependent on forgiveness… 

In order to connect with your Higher Self, you absolutely have to figure out how to forgive yourself for past mistakes. As long as you’re coming from a place of shaming and judging yourself – whether it’s for your blatant mess ups, or for things you’ve been conditioned to think are true about you and others– you won’t be able to see beyond that lens of the small self. 

Before you can learn how to practice self-love and get connected to your Divine Self, you have to forgive yourself. And forgiving yourself requires you to step back and look at your life with radical honesty. 

When you look at your life and say, “Okay, here’s what’s true. This is what I’ve done. These are the mistakes I’ve made. This is me.” and you come not from a place of judgment, but from assessment + accountability, then you can start to heal. 

This is the process I went through when I was getting clean and sober from drug and alcohol addiction, and it’s the process we all need to go through if we want to connect to our Higher Self. If we want to stop seeing ourselves as unworthy or unloveable. 

The Higher Self is always there, but it’s so easy to get fixated on the small self. Unfortunately, our Higher Self isn’t going to tap us on the shoulder and say, “Ummm excuse me, remember I’m here!” That’s our job. We are responsible for remembering and checking in with our Divine self. 

Gratitude – the key to escaping the trap of the small self

When our small self starts trying to run the show, the easiest way to get back on our Spiritual path and connect with the Higher Self is through practicing gratitude. 

Gratitude for every single little thing. For our breath. For the fact that we get to be here at all. With gratitude comes humility. And with humility, we can restore the correct order to our way of being. 

It’s not that we want to get rid of the ego – we actually need this sense of self and identity. This is what makes us all unique and helps us move through the world. Instead, we just want to bring the small self down to right-size and connect back to our Higher Self. 

The ego is all about “Me, me, me – I, I, I.” But the Higher Self is the one that’s connected to something greater. That knows there’s a Divine reason why we’re here. 

Gratitude is also a part of forgiving yourself. Because when you can take true accountability for your life and forgive your mistakes, you open up space to be grateful for the lessons and the knowledge that no experience is wasted. And this is the Highest part of you. Your Higher Self wants to be useful and to contribute. 

How does your Higher Self relate to your Higher Power? 

Your Divine Self, Higher Self, or whatever you choose to call the spiritual part of you is like a spark of the Divine Consciousness. 

For a long time, we’ve all been sold the idea that God is this power above us and separate from us. But I want to invite you to consider the idea that there is no separation – there never was a separation between you and Spirit. Between you and the Universe. 

If you’ve ever felt a longing to connect to God, Spirit, or the Universe – the direct route to the connection you seek is within you. You are actually a part of the Higher Power. We’re all like threads in a big tapestry. 

The feeling of disconnection happens when the small self starts running the show. When we forget to check in with the Higher Self and do the work of forgiving and practicing gratitude. And it’s easy to fall into that because let’s be honest – the inner work is hard work! I mean, who wants to look at themselves with true honesty and own all of their mistakes?? 

I know it can sound challenging and unappealing at best, but forgiveness truly is the path to liberation. As well as the path to a deep connection with your Higher Self. 

There’s a solstice right around the corner, which can be a time of great change and a wonderful time to do some of that inner-work and really set the foundation to connect with your Higher Self. 

This is a perfect time to honor what was before and to recognize what could be next. It’s actually a sacred moment when you can use the cycles of nature to connect with the highest version of you and see how you can connect, serve, and grow in the next 6 months. 

I created a FREE guide called “From Self-Care to Soul-Care! How to Expand Your Compassion.” It is designed to help you ascend to a higher level of energetic vibration through this practical, soul-elevating guide. Click here to download it now!


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  • Ruchi Dutta

    Thank you so much . I did a reading for the month of June and the theme was releasing and letting go. Totally goes with what you just guided us into . Thank you ❤️

  • Irmgard

    Thanks, Collette: I am a firm believer in faith, hope, forgiveness & gratitude. Face problems by “ going through it”, smile and persevere.

  • Linda Anderson

    Thank you Colette!
    I’m finding that forgiving myself and releasing regret in the space of gratitude is an amazing practice. Since I began practicing forgiveness, allowing myself to face the raw truths that were hiding in my garden of goblins, I’ve begun to feel lighter. I’ve even experienced being the ‘eyes’ for Spirit again. Something I hadn’t experienced or acknowledged in quite a while out of fear that others would learn my secret. Baby steps though these may be, the reward I feel is empowering, humbling, pure and beautuful.
    Thank you

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