Right now, life around is nowhere near what we imagined it would be. The amount of change we’ve all been asked (forced?!) to navigate is staggering.
When we’ve been hit with as much as we have on a collective level, it’s easy for our minds to go to negative places, focusing on all that’s been taken from us. And the list is long! There’s not one area of our lives that has been unaffected by the events of 2020. I talk to many friends who are dealing with heavy feelings of grief, and some days I feel it too. It’s tempting to fall into the gap between what I desire and what exists.
I want to be on vacation… I am stuck at home.
I want to send the kids back to school… I am homeschooling 6 hours a day in addition to handling my full-time job.
I want my friends and family to be happy and healthy… I am dealing with health issues and strained relationships.
I want a world of equality and justice… I am seeing the places where that’s not the truth.
Whew! It’s exhausting to try to hold the disparities in our minds and hearts, and it can make you question your role as a co-creator of your experience. (I don’t know about you, but a pandemic, racial strife, and a worldwide economic meltdown weren’t on my 2020 requested playlist, or vision board).
When we’re in this place of disappointment, sadness, and even anger and fear, the tendency is to stay there. Each day becomes a continuation of the next, and we spiral deeper and deeper into the abyss. We tell ourselves the story that this is just how things are, we have no control, and it’s all probably going to get worse (murder hornets, anyone?!).
The problem with this approach to life is that it allows outer circumstances to dictate our inner energy state. During OraclePalooza Virtual and with my new Oracle of the 7 Energies Oracle Card deck, I’ve been teaching a lot about the need to reset and realign our energies, so we can show up powerfully in our lives… no matter what’s going on outside of us.
When we’re out of alignment, we get drained. We tell ourselves the same stories over and over. We fall into unhealthy patterns of behavior, thoughts, and feelings, ones that recreate the same scenarios over and over, like a horrible version of Groundhog Day.
When we’re in that negative space energetically, the thoughts we think, the actions we take, and the choices we make become a reflection of the outer world rather than an image of the Divine that we hold within each of us. Here’s the truth: We each have the extraordinary power within us to choose, discover, and create a unique, authentic, inspired life without waiting for conditions to change.
Yes, we must accept life on life’s terms… AND we get to choose how to respond.
That’s why it’s critical to clear and align your energies — so we can respond rather than react. Sometimes, this is a daily practice. Sometimes it’s an hourly practice. Sometimes it’s minute by minute!
Think about this in terms of working with Oracle Cards.
If I sit down to do a reading and I’m already mad at the dog, frustrated with my husband, and irritated at myself because I ate too many gummy bears and am experiencing a huge sugar crash, that’s gonna come through in the cards.
Likewise, in life, you don’t want to get emotionally bogged down by the energy of your circumstances.
No matter what question you ask — in life or with the cards — if you’re in a pissy mood and thinking about how mad you are at your boss or your partner and you’re asking a question about the next right action you need to take about an unrelated subject, everything’s going to get all mushed up. You’re gonna end up confused and even more frustrated.
Instead, the goal is to move yourself, your memories, your opinions, your personal stories aside just temporarily so you can channel Spirit. You need a clean slate.
Moving to a neutral space energetically involves realigning your energies. You can say a short prayer, meditate, perform a visualization, or take a walk in nature. Resetting yourself allows you to adopt a neutral, more empowering viewpoint. It’s not about ignoring or numbing out to what’s going on; it’s about becoming detached from it so you can be observant and regain your equilibrium, make better choices, be more strategic, and create a more powerful story for yourself — and the world around you.
As humans, we long for certainty and control. We often look to create that certainty by controlling our outer world, but it doesn’t work. Certainty is an inside job and it’s unrelated to the outer world. We play a critical role in creating reality and how we experience it, AND we’re still subject to outer forces. When we recognize this, we move closer to seeing the connections between everything around us, and the opportunities that lie within us.
Remember: There is a Divine plan for you. It will continue to unfold as you do the inner work to remove expectations and embrace all experiences with curiosity and love. All manner of miracles are waiting for you!
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You are so right on about our circumstances. We were all set to travel on our European holiday journey, when this pandemic happened. Now we are uncertain when it will happen. We just need to have faith, but it seemed as though our world has become smaller.
I really think that blog was written for me. Thank you
Good food for thought.
Your words are remarkable 🙌🏻☺️ Thanks Colette x
Thank you for the reminder to move our ‘stuff’ aside to clearly channel spirit.
Thank you Colette. I’m reading this as I wait in line for COVID testing and regardless of the outcome, I get to choose how I respond. Be well my friends!
I so enjoy your blogs Colette. This one reminds me that I am not alone in my frustrations and not to get Stuck in them. 2020 will pass and we will have learned and grown. One thing stays the same, our interconnectedness to all.
Thank you once again Colette for sharing your gentle wisdom with all of us
Sending You a Cyber Hug
Sandra
What a better world we would live in if we all understood this. Thank you for sharing your wealth of knowledge.
To the Balance of Energy,
Cindy
Thank you as always Colette for the clarity and wise words.
As I discovered recently having to deal with an oral health emergency, the only thing I could control was my attitude. As the dental profession was shut down, there could not be any surgery done. Although I did see the dentist for an emergency consultation he was not able to identify the growth or why it was bleeding? Two months later during my check-up the growth? was larger. He then sent me to a specialist, who could name it, but couldn’t remove it. Referred me to an oral surgeon who was backlogged with bookings but was willing to accomodate me. Progress!! Finally the growth was removed and the wait for the pathology report was two weeks. Thankfully, it was benign.
I share this as an example of powerlessness. Everyone was doing their best under the guidelines and restrictions put in place. It was inconvenient, stressful, frightening, and tested my patience in many ways and cost a small fortune to have the surgery. I am celebrating the good news! The growth was benign. There was nothing I could have done to shorten the wait. I had to surrender and rinse with a lot of salt water!! I feel I did an exemplary job during this time, and am thoroughly enjoying eating again to my hearts delight!! Now I am free to resume looking for a new job as the universe closed that door when Covid lockdown began. Yesiree I am reslient, resourceful and multifaceted.
Patience is not having self-will. PATIENCE Spirit, but please hurry!
All is well, everything is working for my highest good, out of this situation only good will come, I am safe. Louise Hay
Thank you Colette for all your inner work and for your Oracle cards and consistent postings. They speak to me, reminders of who/why we really are!
This blog really resonated with me today, sometimes we all need to reminded to look at life from a different place and not get caught up in seeing it through our emotions at the time.
So true! The balance of being in the world, but not of it. ❤️
I’ve been in such a bad place the last two days. I’ve been so lost and confused and then I just think it’s because I’m weak that I can’t move forward. Really trying to get myself into a better place, so thank you for the encouraging words.
Bang on sisters, hope to see you all there.
Thank you for this. It always bears reminding to get into a calm, neutral space before channeling Spirit. This world is really so messed up right now. We must continue to find the right path through the storm.
Thank you for this very inspiring blog.
I’ m writing in my journal the importance to take time every day to put fear , question s , the need to adapt to all the changes around and focus on the connection with Spirit.
Bless you and your loved ones.
Anne Barma Morin 🙂💞
Wow, Colette! How beautifully stated! That’s exactly what I try to do. Sometimes, it is hard to stop that negative thought loop no matter how hard you try! I try to stop and just focus on my breath. It’s amazing how that simple process stops that. I have learned so much through your wisdom! I feel so blessed to be a part of your tribe! Thank you for all you do, all you share and all you are! God bless!!!💕🙏🏻
Thanks Collette, I so appreciate the message, Peace 💙
Thank you … again for providing perspective and gentle guidance during these weird and trying times. xx
I’m glad you speak common sense! We forget that we truly have control over our own thinking! Being a realist I generally think positive because the opposite is giving in to the negative – thank u for your words of reassurance!
I think about this every day. Resetting to a neutral state can never be understated. Thanks so much!
From A Course in Miracles: “Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal can exist. Herein lies the grace of God.” Every moment offers us a choice between fear and love. Treat situations as a “call for love.” Miracles are the natural outcome of choosing love. Life seems overwhelming when faced with a stream of perplexing choices. The only real choice is between fear and love. Fear hurts and love heals. All else is details.
Really needed this reminder Colette, thank you! I’m doing lots of self care during this time too. ❤️🙏🏻
I’m trying to not get completely depressed about life in general at the moment. But it’s really hard not to be. Des
thankyou Collete. I needed to read this right now. Its getting difficult to be love these days
Thankyou for the reinforcement _ we need to clear out out emotional blocks & go within for health & happiness . Too often I let others control my emotions & then I suffer emotionally & physically .
This is a period of revelation and realization. What has been blatant is now revealing its true nature and perhaps reviled and discarded in the process. And what has been latent is now being realized and unfolding into a new vision of life. This is true cacooning and metamorphosis. Keeping the eye on the prize is instructive.
This is the time of revelation and realization. The true substance of blatant reality is now being revealed and sometimes reviled and discarded. What has been latent reality is now being realized as an unfolding vision of a new life to come. It is true cacooning and metamorphosis. The informative code is to keep the eye on the prize. Let the good times roll!!
Loved this blog. It is so true. My husband always thinks I am some kind of pollyanna who doesn’t know what’s going on. It is so far from the truth. I do see & am in tune with the outer world but it doesn’t mean I can’t be centered on the inside & honed in to the north star. It makes me feel so good when you so clearly express what I am feeling & how I experience by working on aligning my inner self & wear the world loosely on my shoulders.
Thank you for being so clear.
love this
THis is so true… even when you are cooking food, if you are angry or in a bad mood the food just doesn’t come out great!! It’s all about the energy that you put out there.
Beautiful words for this today! Thank you!
thank you for this Colette. The timing is perfect. My Dad passed away Sept 3rd. I have been living with this big ball of anger in me since that day. Because of the pandemic my siblings and I were not allowed to visit Dad during his last few hours of life. He died in the Emergency Department alone. I cant sleep and I am exhausted. Your words of wisdom will help me connect with spirit and reset my overthinking brain. As always, thanks for your guidance.
I was unexpectedly emotionally/mentally aggressively slammed during a relaxed, open-hearted phone conversation with a relative I’ve trusted and felt protected by all my life. I’d never seen anything like this from him before. My heart jammed up, my circulation stopped, by the next morning I was sick. I felt like I was going to collapse. I nurtured myself, used my homeopathic and herbal tools; I’d lie on my back with my fingers on my solar plexus and let my mind go deep, for as long as it took for my body to relax. I responded in a third-draft letter, I gave myself permission to go slow and allow myself to heal. It’s a week now. Today I saw it. All the abuse I experienced as a little girl and on, this was a spiritual cut; because it was so sudden, a sharper and deeper wound from someone I trusted implicitly. And I am fine. I’m feeling proud of all the work I’ve done and it’s a moment when I can see that I have used this life to learn and grow. (Turns out he has been being manipulated by someone and came to believe I’m not the person he’s always known me to be, so he gets to learn something too!) Life is beautiful.