You logically know that the bad moods and frustrations of your colleagues or friends/families are not yours to own but that doesn’t stop many of us from feeling enmeshed and bombarded by other people’s feelings. We are pretty sure the yucky feelings we have don’t really belong to us but we emotionally and physically feel attached to them. The boundaries are blurred and we can’t seem to shake them loose—what emotions are ours versus what belongs to other people.
This is not uncommon because we can pick up emotions from the electromagnetic field we all share. So what can you do about it? In the moment, when a colleague’s emotions are thundering or even quietly flowing in your direction, put up your shield. No, I’m not suggesting you garner your Wonder Woman costume from Halloween or wrap yourself up in a nearby window covering.
One of the best ways to ward off letting other people’s emotions seep into your space is to use The Slick Blue Shield.
The Slick Blue Shield Exercise
Close your eyes and breathe deeply and consciously. Let your thoughts float away like clouds in the sky. Allow yourself to feel your emotions without thinking about them or justifying them.
Now imagine that you are surrounded by an egg-shaped, brilliant blue-neon bubble. The surface is oily. All the emotions and thoughts that come at you from outside of you hit the surface and slide down like raindrops dripping down a window. You are safe inside this bubble. Even if you are feeling strong emotions, they are going to dissipate soon. Continue to breathe.
Observe yourself as a sense of calm and safety fills you.
Open your eyes when you are ready.
How does it feel to know you don’t have to carry around other people’s stuff? The anxiety, frustration and anger felt by the people around you does not have to weight you down, it doesn’t even have to stick!
Love and blessings,
Colette Baron-Reid
Intuitive Counselor
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I would appreciate some help in the area of forgiveness. My husband’s sister has cheated my husband out of his $2 Million inheritance.
Irma, I feel your disappointment. May I suggest that you begin with a Mantra of forgiveness/prayer for yourself and your husband. One that goes something like this… “I forgive my husband for not fighting for what I (we) believe was rightfully his (if he has not, or cannot). I forgive myself for believing that Spirit wanted my husband’s inheritance to be passed on to him. I release my fears of living the rest of my(our) lives without the inheritance I (we) believed would be ours. And one for her too – I forgive my sister-in-law for taking what should have gone to her brother.” You are welcome to put your own words in your Mantra (obviously)
– This is something I have had to incorporate into my own life recently (many memories of my Mother, who is no longer here with us, items that were to be passed on to my daughter were stolen just before Christmas and I too, am expecting a large inheritance). I no longer wish to feel resentment and terribly bad thoughts against the woman who stole from me/my family- since I am not able to recover any of our belongings AND I do not wish to feel disappointment if my inheritance does not happen … I believe that Spirit has a plan for my life and THAT plan may be different from the plan I have for myself – these Mantras have helped me so far…
I also suggest reading a book called “Radical Forgiveness” by Colin Tipping. This book has also helped me really understand that everything that happens (good or “bad”) in our lives – happens the way it does to help us grow.
I will keep you and your family in my prayers, that you all will be okay and that you, too, will learn and grow from this experience.
~Many Blessings
Wow!!!! I really needed this in my life right now….thank you!
Perfect Timing…God is never late!!!
I feel lighter. Thank you! I needed this today.
So beautiful to read this! Thank you for the gentle and loving reminder!
serendipity love your pearls of wisdom and the way you speak your truth true grit… thank you and the rest of the team that create this sacred space for us to come to find answers to questions love in action.
Hey Colette.. I love how tactile and sensory this is.. can feel it see it, something about all of it that makes the creating of it more experiential than some other shielding things I’ve tried. It reminds me of this toy from when I was a little , like a bubble blowing thing but it was really sticky stuff and made these cool balloon things.. very swirly colors (smelled like glue, can only imagine what it was made of).. yours is better and know that it works..
Love and gratitude..
lisa