Surrender to the Mystery!!
Updated: October 26, 2020
There’s so much going on right now that is impossible for us to comprehend.
Movements are taking place around us – but on planes we can’t readily access (and we’re not talking airplanes although I sure wish I could hop on one to see my friends.) Transitions, opportunities, alignments… but it’s outside our reach. Yet we long so desperately to understand!
How can we surrender to the mystery?
Here’s the deal: We can’t truly “get” what’s happening around us because the web of creation is so vast, so much more complex, so much more intricate than we could ever begin to grasp!
That’s hard for us, in our human state, to accept. (It kinda reminds me of when I was a little kid sitting at the adults’ table and the conversation went right over my head). We want to take part, to listen and to be heard… but we can’t exactly follow the train of thought! So we’re left grabbing little bits and pieces and getting frustrated because it doesn’t all fit together in a nice pretty package we can put in our pocket.
We want answers to our questions. We want to know why our friends are suffering, and why our loved ones had to pass, and why things feel so hard and painful.
It’s so difficult because we’re affected by what’s going on… but we can’t truly see what’s happening or the “why” behind it. Even if someone explained it to us, we couldn’t understand! The web of creation is all around us, and Spirit is in every aspect of life — what we see, and what we don’t see. And the most important work is being done in dimensions beyond us.
When my darling Blue Bear Doug passed earlier this year from cancer, it wasn’t a surprise. He’d been ill for some time. Yet a big part of me still cried out with the unfairness of it all. Even after all the years of study and practice and all the work I’ve done, the grief was sometimes overwhelming (and truth be told still is). Why did we have to lose him? Why did I have to lose him? Why did he have to suffer? What’s the point?
But what I’d remind myself in those times of grief is that we can’t think our way into understanding everything that’s happening, from the challenges to the upheavals to the struggles and sacrifices and pain so many are experiencing this year. We simply cannot understand with our minds. But here’s the crazy thing: If we stop trying to get it all to “make sense,” we can start to “know” by feeling, rather than thinking, our way into it with our heart and soul. In my heart, I “know” everything — even losses and grief and sacrifices — are part of the beautiful, loving whole. And my job is to continue to take the next right steps and do my part to make the world a better place.
Our brains want easy answers. Our brains want 2+2 = 4. Our brains want certainty and predictability. Well, I hate to tell you, but that’s not what any of us are getting in 2020! Honestly, what we’re getting is so much better than certainty, because when we’re open to it, we’re getting glimpses of the unseen world, the world that is watching us and supporting us and loving us as Spirit weaves together a beautiful and yes, mysterious, tapestry.
I’m not saying that what you’re going through is easy — I know it’s not! I know that you may wake up each day just wondering how you will get through the next 24 hours in one piece. I understand that. I’ve been to the dark places where I was just watching the second hand move slowly around the clock and counting my breaths, trying to hold it together. From addiction to being gang raped to losing everything… I’ve been there. It’s not pretty. It’s not fun. And if someone told me while I was in the middle of it that it was all “for the greater good” I probably would have kicked them in a place they’d remember for a long time.
Easy answers don’t help when you’re in pain, grieving, or struggling. Here’s what did help me when I was in those places.
First, I didn’t let my suffering be my identity. This was hard! I had to go through all the emotions, and then I had to make a commitment to something — God, Goddess, Higher Power, Spirit, whatever — greater than myself that was my partner. I wasn’t alone. And my past was not my future. I could choose what kind of reality I wanted to create.
I also had to learn to trust. This was not easy at all. I’ve been fiercely independent, a loner, for most of my life. For many years I pushed people away because they couldn’t leave me if I left them first (great logic, right??). But over time, I learned to trust in myself, and to trust in Spirit. I had to learn to receive from others and from the Universe. When I trusted others, I created connections between me and the rest of the web of creation that had always been surrounding and supporting me, but that I had been refusing to acknowledge.
Once I realized how connected we all are, I then was moved to help others wherever I could. Even when I was doing readings for 20 bucks an hour and didn’t know if my rent would get paid, I looked for ways to help others who were less fortunate — because someone always has it worse. Always. And when you help them by sharing of yourself, not only are you raising their energy, you’re raising yours as well. It gives you perspective and awakens us to the inequities in the world.
Finally, I worked hard to stay in alignment. This is a constant practice. I want to stay present to what I’m creating and make sure that what I’m putting out is in alignment with my highest good. Each of us is always contributing to the whole, and it’s up to us to determine what that contribution looks like, whether it’s raising the collective vibration or lowering it. Even when we’re in the dark places, we can still remain in alignment by refusing to add to the suffering of others. Seriously, there have been many days where the best I could do was to NOT retaliate to someone else’s jackass-ness and bite my tongue, say a prayer, and walk away! And you know what? That’s okay. If you are simply not creating suffering for others, that can be a win — especially when you feel like they really, really deserve it!
When you stay in alignment, when you see the connection between us all, when you trust and learn to receive and start choosing to tell yourself a new story, you can’t help but start to be more and more grateful. Gratitude is the key. It makes us humble. It puts us in a peaceful, joyful state. It makes us want to reach out and share with others. And that’s what it is all about.
I believe that it only takes a small percentage of us making these kinds of intentional shifts to create an entirely new world, one that is more just, more loving, more kind, more abundant — for all of us.
We are in this together. I love you with an infinite, magical love
You are awe inspiring! I hope to meet you personally one day
Warmly,
Audrey
This is so beautiful and such a wonderful way to live. Thank you for your guidance.
I do feel so fortunate and grateful to have found you and be able to enjoy your profound messages! Thank you!! ❤️
Collette,
Thank you for this beautiful perspective. As always, you are an inspiration and a comfort.
Much love to you!
Mary
Thank you! I love how the Universe is sharing and sending so much support and positivity now and that includes your comments. I feel change all around and in me and I am so excited even though a few of my circumstances haven’t been transformed yet….yet! I feel such hope for the upcoming blue moon and the 11/11 opening! I am putting my crystals out tomorrow night (Halloween) and using the Mystical Shaman deck as the images really call to me. Your decks are all so gorgeous! I am dreaming BIG! Blessed be. Susie
What a lovely way to start a new work week…with Collette’s blog in the front of my mind where it will remain all day. Thank you Collette!
Beth
Love this!
Beautiful reminder of how to move through uncertainity – thank you Colette!!
Omg !! I so needed to read this today, as the dark curtain was starting to come down and threaten my piece of mind. There are times where I am hanging by my finger tips, and just want to let go, but something keeps me fighting to stay.
Thank you Colette
Love to y’all and to me
Joyce
Beautiful and helpful thoughts for us all Colette. Thank you.
Thank you Colette! I so needed to read this today! I hope to meet you in person some day and share a hug. When hugs are again allowed. Janna
Thank you for this! Exactly what I needed this morning. Brilliantly written.
Thank you for the beauty and wisdom you add to the world. I pulled a few cards from your Goddess deck this morning and they were just what I needed to start my week. Combined with your post, I am ready for Monday.
Thank you, Colette. It’s really helpful to remember this perspective as we breathe forward into the next moment!
Colette, your words of wisdom have brought me to tears. It’s hard at the moment for many of us but we must keep ploughing through with love and thanks – the middle road. Thankyou so much Colette.
Dear Colette,
Thank you for such a beautiful commentary. Filled with insight and wisdom. I especially resonated to the part about trust. We are called in this journey to believe in something unseen, that has a higher perspective, and intelligence, yet to have FAITH, to TRUST we are guided to release the outcome. It doesn’t always unfold in the way/time we desire.
I always have loved Wayne Dyers’ quote,” Whatever you desire that is in alignment with Spirit, is on the way.” ASK, BELIEVE, RECEIVE. This or something better. G-d willing. All of these examples show that we are not the whole equation. Merely a part of the fabric, each thread woven intricately into the whole. All making sense, creating order, clarity from chaos. I am “learning to trust”. Recently began a meditation practice where I talk to Spirit, out loud from my heart, and share my thoughts, express gratitude, and open myself to guidance. I am not alone. I reach out and share with more people, who are on the same vibrational wavelength, and I receive and offer my ideas, thoughts, inspiration as well. W
I feel more at home in my own being than ever before. A sense of lightness, openess, freedom greater than anything I have known before. It is really empowering when we choose our thoughts, decide to be full of hope, celebrate the gift of a new day, and really mean when you give thanks the end of each day. I feel full, nourished, and blessed, and although I currently have no employment, doors are appearing that I didn’t plan, so something much greater than I could create alone is on the way. Where, When, How??? As I continue to stay in tune, another puzzle piece is presented, and although I don’t see the picture on the lid of the box, there is no box. I AM FREE, and at peace. All is well. No coincidences, meant to be. SO BE IT. NAMASTE.
Be Well.
Beautifully written !!
Beautiful
Thank you Colette for your encouragement to see beyond the emotions that stop us in our tracks and the reminder that the Universe is always working behind the scenes, always. I learned something from you and Doug several years ago. It is ok to sit with sadness, but don’t stay there too long. It is ok to feel anger, but don’t stay there too long. Emotions that knock us out of alignment will come and go. The key is to not stay “there” for too long. Sometimes we don’t even know why we are feeling heaviness, or we can’t name what we are feeling. In the moment our gratitude may not be present and that, for the moment, has to be ok. Emotions undulate like waves, and they will pass. Asking Universe/Spirit/God for relief or the next right step for yourself, or for others who are struggling with their emotions, allows you that temporary moment, to connect with your Higher Power, to hug yourself. I am grateful for your teachings. “Get on Your Bird” and all of your wonderful Mindful Magic Meditations are amazing gifts to us. For me, daily use of these tools and your Oracle cards keep me working towards positive thoughts for the Greater Good. They help me regain or maintain alignment, and it turn, that flows to all those connected to me, and those connected to them, and so on…and so on. You are our spiritual energizer bunny. The gift that keeps on giving. It is such an honor to share in this journey with you.
Impeccable timing of this message as I pulled “Why” in protection this morning. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You for sharing! ❣️
You summed it up well. Right now it seems like we are facing the darkness without much light. So it seems like the little positive happiness that we can capture matters the most. We need to keep the faith while everything falls apart around us.If we can accomplish that , then maybe we will start to see a better improved world soon.
This is so beautiful Colette! I admire your ability to encourage others through difficult times….as you are in these times too. Keep up the great work!
As always Colette you get to the point about grief and loss. Thanks for sharing the brilliant observation that some days we contribute most by not adding to the suffering in the world. May your star continue to shine brightly on all of us who have found you on our path to the Divine.
Thank you. I needed this message today as I move through the grief of my losses… and the changes within me that must take place so I can truly move forward in positive, meaningful and new ways. #andwebreathe
Beautiful. In my faith and practice as a Buddhist these point you covered are at the core values of being a human being. let go of suffering, we all are suffering and life is painful. Learn to trust others and keep your heart engaged, the right people will enter your life. Help and develop compassion and daily empathy for those less fortune, as we have literally millions that are homeless now. stay tuned and balanced with conscious work, for me its mediation and fellow Buddhists. Show and recognize gratitude, every single day. Nam Myoho renge kyo!
Thank you. This s certainly what I needed this morning. 💕
Thank you for this message. It really hits home for me right now. I lost two people this year. My younger brother died from a heroin overdose and one of my dear friends passed from a surgical complication. I am really struggling to not have my suffering be my identity right now. I keep trying to make sense of things with my brain, even though I know that isn’t helping.
I am really grateful that I found Oracle School. I know I am exactly where I need to be right now.
With so much love and gratitude ☮💜🐾
Liza
Your words are beautiful and inspiring. I’ve had some amazing experiences connecting with my ancestors. We are less alone that we may sometimes feel. I have my own podcast which I started during the pandemic. My biggest passion would be to some day interview you.
Great blog today, Colette! You take the words and put them in my heart and mind when I need them most. In turn, I do my best to pass it along to others. Keeping positive, confident, trusting Spirit! Bless you!
Thank you for sharing your personal story and your heart based suggestions of being connected and grateful.
Perfect for where I’m at today. Thank you, Colette.
This is beautiful! Very eloquent and inspiring. I asked in the silence this morning for a message or sign from the great spirit and it has been delivered in your words. Thank you.
Thank you Colette. Thank you for the new word in my vocabulary ‘ jackassness ‘. I need to Forgive myself and others for their J’ness. And practice gratitude every single day. Continue doing small positive things every day. One step at a time. BTW, last week as I was pulling my daily card I pulled #23 Peace and also In Protection 3 times. The other cards of the week also suggested staying away from drama. Mission accomplished. This morning’s card was #9 Treasure Island. Happy Boo Week.
Your words express what the world is feeling at the moment. Thanks for being my guide to spirit.
Thank you, Colette. What a lovely new spin on thinking. I really needed to here it. I’m navigating recovery myself and it’s hard.
Much Love
Dear Colette, That was/is beautiful! Your thoughts help a lot!!!! I always suspected that this is how the “game” works, but your lines made it more clear and understandable. God bless You for all Your work and writings. With You on the Planet life is easier. And that is what we need badly at times like this. Thank You very much! : )
Not to let the suffering be my identity is something I started to understand a few years ago, I’ve rewritten some of those stories. What I was missing in that process was what I am discovering with your help, Ms. Colette – that commitment to a higher power – this is where you have REALLY helped me break open. I actually find myself talking about “radical acceptance” to my family & friends- they look so shocked, but they are willing to ride the wave with me!
I learned, and took pride in taking care of myself, because I wasn’t going to let anyone ever abuse, abandon, or betray me again! How proud of myself I was. I always relied on myself, like you – having relationships with those who weren’t available so that I couldn’t be left… never realizing how I was creating that loneliness.
Like you,I let the trauma give my life meaning. I believed that this darkness was actually what made me special in this life – the victim who deserved, had a right to, was entitled…
Oh! I thought I’d entered into your Personal Mastery course way ahead cause I had already done so much of the work! Well, all I can do is feel deep gratitude for all the years of hard, hard work that you’ve done – and your openness in making that available to us so that, if we choose, we can step into the light, even if by baby steps.
So, now with your help, I am discovering the really hidden shadows – the ones I didn’t even know were there. But what’s amazing to me is the FAITH that is blossoming inside of me. I don’t feel like I am alone anymore – no more stark, alone, terrifying moments wondering “why am I here?”
I am learning and leaning into letting go of the fear – that TRUSTing feeling is so warm and comforting when I don’t resist. I’m in awe of how it’s becoming so clear that I was never actually alone – in one of your songs you say “I’m trying to recall who filled the spaces that broke my fall?” That is how I’m feeling now – I am so so so grateful for your help!
I am working on the next steps – tithing – I am ashamed to say that I didn’t even know what that meant before (and I’m a language geek)… how is that possible!?
What I do know how to share is my love. I had forgotten that, or hidden it to protect it – but the work I’ve been doing with you has helped my heart open back up and let it in and let it out THANK YOU!!!!! Love Allways to you
Colette thank you 🙏. You exactly what to say for the greater good for all. Yes it is hard but we keep soldiering on. Love you too n blessing to you.
Thankyou Colette for your words of Love and encouragement in these times of chaos. Bless you ❤
Thank you So!!! Much Colette 🥰
I Love you too ❤🌺🌹🧚♀️
You really have helped me So!!!!!!!! Much!!!!!!!! And I am Forever Grateful Beautiful Lady 🙏💃💜
Thank you Colette This is heart opening gut feeling at the front and center stimulation this am … a few tears more heart ❤️ Thankyou for this going in now🙏😇💕KSV
Thank you Colette for your wise words of wisdom! I also just lost a very important person in my life. She was like a Mom to me and it has been hard knowing she is no longer there when I need to just talk things out. The loses have been many for the last 6 years. Starting with the loss of my husband of 31 years, my sister, my Dad and now her. But everyday I rely on Spirit for strength and wisdom. These loses are not who I am. I will continue to rely on the wisdom of Spirit and the Oracle. Thank you so much for always sharing the Pearls of your Wisdom!!!
Thank you for this! This is so helpful especially during these times. It all hit home
But, the best statement —
“If you are simply not creating suffering for others, that can be a win — especially when you feel like they really, really deserve it!”
Those words will be my mantra
… loving all that you do!
Absolutely beautiful! Thank you Colette!
Thank you, sweet generous soul!
Such an awesome message, thank you Colette. This reminds me of a book I read when I was 18 years old and bedridden after a huge back op. I do not remember the title of the book, nor the author’s name but he wrote about this person that could see how we are all connected to the greater Spirit. We are all linked with an “umbilical” chord that reaches from the top of our heads into infinity. Where people were healthy in their spirit, their cords would be a golden color and bright. When they were not well, or borne impurities in their lives their cords would be grey and without light. Where they were physically ill the cords would be black. I remember this making such an impact on my hungry soul that to this day I remember this books’ words… It would be a wonderful experience to actually see this 🙂 Even though the mystery of the universe and of Spirit remains out of our conceptional experiences, the mystery continues to intrigue… Trust, staying in alignment with Spirit and gratitude is everything I have to believe… and that is enough (for now) <3
Thank you Colette! Truly beautiful healing message post!