Are You Reinforcing the Drama?!
Updated: April 22, 2013
You’re feeling stressed, annoyed, frustrated and you know it always helps to talk it out with your besties. You pick up the phone or meet for a coffee and away you go. It’s a complete download of the details and your emotions in one big ball of Ugh.
Whether you are sharing your angst or perpetuating a piece of gossip, the swirl of drama you are sharing is prolonging a whole lot of negativity.
Going to these negative places we bring fear and anxiety to our minds and our bodies. You can talk about your problems to each and every friend you have and you may get some insight, but how often is a constructive resolution the outcome? Don’t dump your garbage on your friends, instead set up your discussion with the intention of a resolution.
What about if instead of starting your call with, “I need to talk about this” you began with “I’d love to explore a solution to an issue?” That’s a critical shift from reliving the fear, to creating a purposeful solution.
It benefits us to rehearse the good, rather than relive the bad. Rehearse the sense of hope in finding a positive outcome and see things in a better light, rather than feeling stuck in the sludge.
I’m not suggesting you dismiss your hurt. Rather, imagine your circumstances were exactly the same and you were rehearsing feelings that have nothing to do with hurt. Focus on being hopeful until it becomes true for you.
For example, imagine the opposite of the circumstance. Say you’re angry at your husband and instead you thought about what it would feel like if you were getting along with him. Find yourself on the other end of it and then work your way back. Imagine what it would look like being in that new place and by repeating those thoughts and feelings the subconscious mind would start to believe that it’s true.
Love and blessings,
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