Spiritual Self-Care Tips for a Stress-Free Holiday!

Updated: November 30, 2020

The beautiful contradiction of the holiday season is this: We have an internal longing for peace, reflection, and harmony… yet our calendar (and our families!) often can send us in the opposite direction! As a result, holiday anxiety is a real thing this time of year. 

The gap between our expectations (“We need this to be the best December ever!”) and our reality (“What? We can’t have the annual Ugly Holiday Sweater party, my mother is still haranguing me about my partner, and our company is looking at layoffs?!?! Happy f’ing Hanu-Kwan-Mas!”) can create even MORE drama and stress. 

It’s easy to feel like we’re failing, or we’re not enough, or that life (and our jobs, and our families, and our friends, and our cooking, and well, everything) just sucks.

As I got older, as genuine loss and tragedy accompanied many of my family’s holiday events, we sat down with a good helping of sorrow, loss, fighting, and booze passed around the table like a bowl full of mashed potatoes (accompanied with a nice ladle of guilt and shame!). We wanted to create something different, but we just didn’t know-how. Outer conditions told us what our life meant. We didn’t know about the tools we needed to create an inner shift that would allow us to show up differently for each other. 

The more stressed we are emotionally and physically, the more likely we’re going to fall into old patterns of behavior and thinking. That’s why it’s critical that you take time, push the pause button, and find nurturing ways for managing holiday stress.


Here are a few of my very favorite types of self-care for this busy season. They don’t take a ton of time, and they’re sure to help you banish the holiday blues and create an energy shift.

Spiritual Self-Care Tip #1 – Journaling

Yes, yes, yes, I talk a lot about journaling as a tool for self-care and anxiety relief… because it works! 

Not only are the pages of your journal a safe place to dump and explore the horror of the family dinner you just sat through, it’s also a great way to create intentions before those stressful moments. It’s also great to write things down when you love the experience too. 

To help reframe your thinking, do daily affirmation work, or write out new endings to old scenarios. Your inner talk impacts your emotions, your perspective, and even the very cells of your body! 

For more tips on how to journal for self-care, you can watch the replay of my free Magic of Journaling Workshop here.

Spiritual Self-Care Tip #2 – Meditation

Yup, here’s another form of spiritual self-care for me. Research shows that even a few minutes of mindful meditation has a significant impact on stress levels and emotional well-being. 

If you’re just getting started meditating or are having trouble quieting your thoughts, try a guided meditation… they’re a perfect way to truly relax! (AND all my meditation bundles are 50% off through TOMORROW, Dec. 1!)

Spiritual Self-Care Tip #3 – Facial Figure 8

I just looked up the “official” name of this, and it’s apparently called “facial effleurage.” (So fancy! I just call it “making a figure eight on your face.” LOL!) 

In just a few seconds, this process calms the nervous system and relaxes many of your facial muscles, such as the ones that wrinkle your forehead and raise and lower your eyebrows. 

You can use it in conjunction with tapping as well — and it works great on dogs and babies, too! It’s easier to understand when you watch it in action, so here’s a short video:

Spiritual Self-Care Tip #4 – A One-Card Oracle Card Reading

Oracle Cards are the new spiritual self-care! Especially if you’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed, you may not have the time or emotional space for a multi-card spread, but you still could do with a little “hit” from Spirit!

Pull out your deck (or use my free online deck here), get yourself to a quiet place, take a few deep breaths with your feet planted firmly on the ground, and ask, “What do I need to know right now?” or “What is my next right action?” 

Then select a card and let Spirit guide you! 

(Note: This is especially powerful when combined with journaling. When you jot down some of your thoughts and intuitive hits on the message you’re receiving, you’ll gain even more insight and clarity!)

Spiritual Self-Care Tip #5 – Show Your Body Some Self-Love

For centuries, baths have been used as a ritual for cleansing, relaxation, transformation, and transition. Baths of all kinds are wonderful stress-relievers and energy shifters. 

I’m all for tub-time add-ons like bubbles, salts, and oils, but don’t think you have to be fancy! One of the best products for balancing your body is a high-quality, natural salt that you can get at your local health food store.

Dissolve a cup of natural salt in a hot bath. It’ll create plenty of negative ions, as well as contribute to a balanced pH in your body and offer relief of oxidative stress.

Pure Himalayan salt also has many minerals that your body needs and will absorb from your bath. The salt bath can also contain a bit of Epsom salts, or magnesium sulfate, which helps reduce inflammation and relax you.

To really give you that spa-like experience, make it a full sensory treat by adding some high-quality aromatherapy oils. (A relaxing recipe: add six drops of lavender essential oil to your bath for calming.) 

Then, don’t rush! Soak long enough to feel your energy shift—10- to 20 minutes. Rejuvenation!

Another way to experience relaxation at home is with a Himalayan Salt Scrub. This simple recipe of mine below is a wonderful, aromatic scrub that has all the benefits to help empaths remain calmer and less stressed. This is a lovely scrub you can use on your hands, feet, and all over your body. And, I feel happy when I use it, so I hope you will, too!

Spiritual Self-Care Tip #6 – Surround Yourself With Love

Community is one of the most powerful sadness and anxiety-relievers, but it’s sometimes the one that’s hardest to seek out. 

We can turn inward and self-isolate when times are tough and we’re feeling vulnerable… combine that tendency with our current social restrictions, and loneliness is becoming the norm. 

Fight back by reaching out to others — they’re longing for human connection as much as you are! Send postcards, a funny video, a text to say hello… join an online community of positive uplifters… create a virtual family to love and support you when you need it most! 

Don’t have an online community to call “home?” You’re always welcome in the Oracle Circle! Click here to find out more about my membership community!

Self-care shouldn’t be a one-time thing, particularly around the holidays when stress is heightened and old hurts and traumas can resurface. Make these a regular part of your routine to manage stress and to show some love to YOU!

Got a favorite holiday stress tip? Share in the comments below!

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Showing 10 comments
  • Rhonda Skallan

    Do a puzzle. I find it quiets the mind as you focus on finding that next piece. And when a piece fits you get a little lift.

    • Skye arabella

      Thankyou such beautiful tips i do them all except the Salt body rub i will be following your recipe you are such a wonderful caring inspirational being we could not have travelled through 2020 without you bless you Colette 💞🙏💞

  • Ruth Kivi

    Thank you so much for your tips! I feel better already just having read them.

  • Starr

    Great tips! I will reiterate the importance of self care on my Youtube channel.

  • Barbara McVey

    Perfect reminder. I love that through your words I visualize and feel. I start breathing deeply

  • Nayna

    Thank you Collette 💕 so so appreciated.

  • Renee

    Wonderful tips–thanks, Colette! I printed them out to remind myself to do a bit of self-care every day. Little things can make a big difference in these difficult days.

  • Mollie

    Thanks for the reminders!

  • Shelley

    Hi Colette and all
    Gréât self care tips, thank you❣️We take time out from media for a few days each holiday season and spend our days in a more quiet environment. It’s really necessary- especially this year.
    Happy holidays to you, Marc and the fur babies.

  • Tracie

    Love these tips! I decided to use my newest oracle deck, Jill Pyle’s Sacred Self-Care Oracle, for tip 4. Pulled off the plastic, flipped through the deck, and paused on card 34 Massage. It shows an image of someone massaging themselves, with hand placement at feet, hands, back and neck. I spent a few minutes massaging my neck, back and hands. Then hand-over-hand and riffle shuffled a dozen time, cut the deck, pulled a card… 34 Massage. Cheeky deck. 😎

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