T is for Tenacious, Tenderness and Tribe!!
Updated: November 4, 2013
Dearest Tribe Member of Fabulosity,
I just got back from my old stomping grounds, Toronto, and have much cause to ruminate about what happened there. I was invited to be one of the speakers for the Zoomer Life conference on longevity and well- being. Because I was asked to participate on the Spirit panel, I decided since I had only 17 minutes and was told to deliver a Ted-style talk that I would be launching myself as “just a speaker.” Finally I could just talk, chat about Perspective, the subject of my new book, which is all about “why changing the way we see things changes everything.” Finally the educated mainstream would accept that I was an intelligent person—grounded and well spoken—and would no longer look upon me with skeptical disdain.
This was an audience of educated folks who have never seen my “spirited” side, never known my work as the Oracle (as my clients have affectionately called me and now a title I playfully own) and only knew that I was voted in the top 100 most spiritually influential people in 2013 by the Watkins list. I’m a mucky muck fancy pants now!
All happy and prepared #96 was standing at attention ready to serve with intelligence and wit! So guess what I learned and they saw?
Purpose is tenacious, our calling takes over, and no matter how much we intellectually plan there is a higher consciousness that will use us in service and decides for us what the heck is a gonna come out of our mouths!
I know to allow it when I begin to tingle and hyper-ventilate and get all koo-koo just before I step on a stage. This is what happened.
Suffice to say I spoke and stumbled for about five minutes and the rest of the time I was driven to be the Oracle for some of the audience. I demonstrating how connected we all are, and how longevity doesn’t just mean staying young in body but that our consciousness, our human spirits continue on after the body is dropped and seek to reach out for healing and forgiveness. Surprise!
The tenacity of one’s calling will win when we don’t fight it, when we allow courage to help us with our fears and when we step aside to be used in the service for which we were born.
The tenderness necessary to keep going is what we need to show to ourselves. I admit I am scared of this sometimes. I am always vulnerable to this work and the questions it raises, especially around non-believers and cynics. Yet, I know authenticity is a spiritual act. It’s not always going to be easy. It will not make everyone love you and accept you. To be anything other than that which you’re born to be is to betray yourself and the world. That’s why community is so important.
I know here we’re a tribe of like-minded people who come together to see we are not alone, that our beliefs and some of our rebellious non- conformity has its place and purpose and our willingness to make success not just about material achievements but that third metric of compassion; well-being, acceptance, inclusion and love. This tribe, my tribe is all about supporting one another to stand in our purpose, in our authenticity even if it means we’re sometimes flying our flags out in the fringe. We do it together.
After my talk, although there were plenty of audience members arguing that I had pre-arranged plants in the audience and pre-planned the whole thing, I also heard how my demonstration impacted others. They saw the world through a different lens, and were changed for the better. Three people said I gave them a gift that changed them forever.
Thank goodness the tenaciousness of purpose had a better plan than mine.
Today I am clear, so very, very clear that I too must be courageous and tender and hold myself accountable to my purpose, allowing its tenacity to keep me on track.
Tell me now, have you ever had a situation that you planned for and something else happened through you that was far better than your plan?
How is your purpose leading you? When I say “Man plans, and Spirit laughs” what story from your life does this bring up?
Love to hear from you my sweet tribe.
Always and forever,
The InVision Project
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