The Healing Power of Curiosity!
Updated: August 17, 2015
The heat wave here has my brain on “slo-mo” and so while scrambling for something profound to talk about this weekend I just collapsed into that kind of numb silly stupor that led to a seriously prolonged state of procrastination. You know the feeling. Just like Scarlett O’Hara on the plantation waving a fan saying; “Fiddle Dee Dee Miss Melly!” when faced with doing anything meaningful. I surrendered to the humidity never once considering that I might ever have to squeeze into a corset again!
Usually Monday mornings I am all chipper and excited to share something I’ve learned but today I’m having one of those languid leisurely stupid happy moments where all I want to do is smile wordlessly and point to the tiny circle that is my world at the moment.
I wake up, always earlier than Marc and I sit up to meditate. The dogs always take this as a sign that something important is about to happen and so they jump over legs and arms and scrambled sheets to stick their teeny tongues up my nose, in my ears and across my eyes before heading for my mouth. That may sound gross to some but it’s my favorite part of waking.
Marc and me say that as long as everything is good in the space of our bed, all is well in our world.
We shrink it down to that small square, where love and understanding, care, kindness, and commitment thrives and the deep abiding knowing that we have chosen and made what family means to us.
The upheaval and shock of moving countries, to a fixer-upper still in the fixing and upping stage has slowly dissipated. I’m ok now with brushing my teeth in the kitchen sink, showering in another building, knowing I will never have a cool upstairs, sitting in the TV room surrounded by boxes of stuff supposed to go in the soon to be beautiful bathroom still under construction that one day some weeks in the future will get done “they promise.”
So far only one little fly keeps hanging round inside and while even that one seems to send Sebastian running he’s doing pretty good now he knows the places to hide.
And, Coco Doozie’s disappointment for the short play- time allowed by her ancient little playmate has shifted into a happy curiosity now that she has found her twin in the mirror. And, yes we’re getting another young one to take the pressure off Sebastian who loves his new little friend but is too old to keep up, and so Coco can have a companion that doesn’t want to sleep all the time.
I’m getting used to saying good morning to the cacophonous cicadas and their giant killer wasp enemies that have burrowed into our planters and I know they will figure themselves out without my help or shrieking. I am awe struck by the air force of dragonflies that swoop over us when we’re in the pool and amazed as they and the swallows raid the meadows adjacent to the house at dusk. (especially since we’re hearing that no one has seen any of them yet this season!) I can hardly wait till the bat houses are up and the bats join in the fun.
When I look into my world with curiosity accompanied by my favorite mantra “ That’s interesting!” everything is magical- even the ugly stuff.
I get the coyotes may be beautiful creatures but lethal for the tiny dogs I have and the humungous eagles, hawks and osprey could easily mistake my Pomeranians for snack food. An investment in an enclosed dog run with roof is in order but even then they’ll go out supervised.
Now they are getting used to having to be on a harness at all times and that romping is not going to part of “outside”.
So as we learn the ropes, we adapt.
I also get we’re really guests here so far and so have shifted from “Here I am- OMG this needs to be how I like it!” to “What can I learn? What’s this? and How can I fit in and serve?”
That’s a good place for any of us to be.
Curiosity is a powerful way to navigate the uncertainty of the unknown. There is no fear in curiosity, only an alert and gentle intuition desiring knowledge and wisdom. Curiosity is essential when wandering in unknown places.
In curiosity we are right sized and a part of, rather than a conquering marauder in someone else’s territory.
It relaxes and soothes while at the same time allows a sharp respect for your surroundings.
It brings everything into the present moment- into radical acceptance.
That alone is so healing.
So I invite you to tell your story – have you ever made a shift from trying to make something be what you think it should be to discovering what it really is? What did that feel like? How has curiosity led you to make a shift within?
Love to hear from you as always, this tribe is about sharing our experience strength and hope so we can all learn from one another.
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Love you always and forever!