When it’s Time to Tell a New Story!
Updated: December 14, 2015
Dearest sparkle being!
Holiday season is ramping up and it always makes me feel slightly crazed (shhh don’t tell anyone). It’s true I find myself wafting between empathy overload and worrying about my pants getting tight and the blissful surrender of shifting my gaze from the ambitions of my future self, and how my present version of self doesn’t quite measure up, to “how far I’ve come.” Yes my mind is truly entertaining when in avoidance mode.
But! The best part of all this is the crazed part is no longer the main event in my life as it was many years ago, as a matter of fact now that I think about it it’s really only a story I tell.
Then again we do have a new puppy with a few medical issues who at 3 pounds manages the amazing feat of farting like an elephant on a garlic and cabbage diet which miraculously wakes me up gasping assuming a nightmare about chemical warfare. Grateful that when I open her crate door I find a puppy still there and not an evil smelly alien signaling her need to go potty. Two or three times a night from the crate to the paper is in fact breaking up my sleep pattern!
So now there’s also that story for “why I am crazed this season.”
Perhaps you might think me boring if it was all sugar plum fairies and happiness. I mean is it Ok to be so happy? What if something happens? Or maybe I just click on the crazed button because I have a subconscious trigger around Christmas.
I think it’s a little of all of the above. What about you? Do you relate to this at all? Do you have an automatic story around certain times of the year?
I love Byron Katie’s deeply transformative pivotal question in her seminal work called The Work- “Who would you be without your story?”
I’m grateful that I know how to turn the autopilot off. Old stories don’t serve anything but the past, but you do have to fill up the space with something.
I liken the autopilot storyteller to having an app running constantly on my iphone with a subliminal message that plays all the time as background to whatever else I’m trying to do. It’s subtle and just under the surface yet because it’s been so deeply ingrained it colors everything.
But what if it’s time to tell a new story? What if it’s time to be congruent with the frequency of how I want to show up in the world, how I could show up in my most authentic way, and forgo the old stories that just play on even though they have long lost their meaning.
I think these times are perfect to come up with new stories to tell, new ways of dealing with things and most importantly new expectations.
The unknown is where the things you have not yet experienced lie hidden in plain sight and waiting to be discovered. The known map is the wrong one if you want to go somewhere new. Well, it’s the wrong one if you want to lead a different life, a more meaningful one, one that exists with more clarity and freedom.
I had an interesting experience recently when I found myself in a situation brimming with a lot of promise and opportunity yet expecting it to go the way of all the others and basically go nowhere. Why would I do that? I was so sure things would not go my way I almost fell off my chair when my phone rang with better news.
Here’s the thing.. you and me , we’re not the same people today, so if we were to tell a new story, we have to give ourselves permission to shift our old expectations and allow them to expand into a new version of themselves.
I saw how much easier it was to assume a failure. To reach for the stars makes you so much more vulnerable.
It has to be ok to desire something, work toward something and to hope for things to do well. I want to risk for something better. Do you?
What I know is to tell a new story I have to stop telling the old one.
Jumping to conclusions that are based on past experience doesn’t allow for Spirit to maneuver on your behalf.
I know that new stories have always shown up when I surrendered to Spirit’s guidance and to the essence of my desires, leaving the form up to the Divine. Then I have something new to share. If I want that new thing to be more constant within me I need to repeat, and reinforce it through my thoughts, feelings and beliefs. Reality is created through repetition. As I think, as I believe, so shall I be and so shall I see.
I have learned that my serenity is inversely proportionate to my expectations. So for this week, I’ve decided to just show up for the miracle and see what happens. Not sure what the new story is yet, but I’ll let you know. One thing I do know.. is I’ve come a long way from where I began and even though I still have a long way to go, I’m cool with it. Life’s been an amazing ride so far.
So this week I’m going to expect wonderful instead of woeful.
What a concept. I will let you know the new story. ;)
I’m hoping it will include a non- farting puppy that doesn’t smell.
Ok tag you’re it. What new story do you want to tell about the holidays?
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