5 Holiday Survival Tips For Sensitives

Here we are! The “almost” end of the calendar year, stepping into the last month of 2018 and winding down to regroup again for 2019. This is holiday party- gift-giving- peppermint schnapps snorting- eggnog and cookies snuffling- too much of everything time etc. etc. And, even if you are all gung-ho for the festivities, if you are a highly sensitive person, or an empath this is not the easiest energy for you to manage.

What? You don’t like to be at the mall surrounded by crowds of people grabbing for sale mittens and toaster ovens and that wrong cologne you thought your other half liked? It’s true some people can handle the holiday rush but others- not so much!

If you are like many sensitive people, going shopping amongst a throng of busy frantic people might be emotionally and energetically debilitating. And, because sensitive people have porous boundaries, turning into sponges and soaking up the energy of the world whether you can see it or not could make even going to the grocery store a huge anxiety event. Ever walked out of a store because you got too overwhelmed by all the stuff? I have to say even at the quietest times of the year I still can’t handle the big home specialty store (starts with an “I” and ends with “kea” hint hint) well. I always have to have a nap after the hours of hypnotic Swedish named gadgets turn my brain to mush and because I need to clear off the energy of the shoppers that feel like invisible invaders creeping under my skin with feelings that are unlikely mine own. What on earth? Whose yucky energy did I pick up in the sofa section? OMG, I got lost following the floor arrows.

So there are ways to manage this month so that sensitives can participate in the season without being drained by the greater energy, never mind the energy vampires (people without boundaries, victims that need to glom etc- not actual vampires) that feed off others angst and obvious discomfort at all of it.

So here are five simple tips to manage:

1. Get Your Shopping Done Now.
Last minute shopping is for “normal” people who don’t get overwhelmed standing in front of all the cat and puppy toy selections on their way to the TVs.
If you know going into crowds feeds you too many invisible emotional stories (common for empaths) write out a list then go online to find your stuff. Always make a list so you aren’t dissolving into all the possible choices and forget where and who you actually are or that you have a limit on your credit card.
2. Give Yourself Good Boundaries.
Do not go to parties out of obligation and resentment. If you don’t want to go to the early Holiday party at your friends work because she did you a favor earlier in the year? Don’t go and find another way to repay her.
3. Honor Your Feelings of a Timeout.
Always know that each social event has a beginning, a middle, and an end and you can decide what feels comfortable to you.
Empaths, highly sensitive people need energetic swaddling just like a baby in December. Fluid comfortable boundaries that allow you to be present without overstimulating and overwhelming yourself are essential for you to appreciate this wonderful time of year.
4. Accept People As They Are.
Know that you can get triggered by expectations, and especially by family where there may be some festering wounds that have never been addressed. What I found to be the most powerful is to expect people to be exactly as they are, and having no expectation that they should behave differently. Face value is very helpful in this last month.
5. Get Lots of Sleep.
Good restful sleep is important too. This all sounds so boring but ensuring you take extra care of yourself, stay grounded and set boundaries for your social life, as well as activity commitments, will be the difference between a dynamic and fun December or a demolition derby December.

I like the first version!

Just remember if it is the season to be jolly if you take care of you, you’ll really appreciate it so much more.

WEEKLY ORACLE CARD GUIDANCE AND LESSON

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  • Elvera
    Reply

    Wisdom of the Oracle is my Favorite deck 🙂 What a cool reading for this week ahead. Thanks Colette!!

  • Deborah Tibbetts-Tumiel
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    Awesome Advice For Empaths (started my shopping before Hurricane Michael…good thing, still no WiFi or TV).
    May You, Mark, The Fur Babies, Your Family & Friends All Have A Blessed & Joyous Holiday & A Big Hooray For 2019 !!!!
    ❤️I Love You, SO Much❤️

  • kathleen donnelly
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    SO TRUE I-KEA GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS ON YOUR JOURNEY THANK YOU FOR TOUCHING MINE + –

  • Rose
    Reply

    Thanks Colette for the beautiful cards

  • Jennie
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    Thank you Colette. I haven’t been in a mall for years for the reasons you listed. Way too much stimulation for me to handle. Number 4 is key to a peaceful life.

    I recently added the Spirit Animal and Mystical Shaman decks to my collection. I love both of them.

  • Deb
    Reply

    Thank you so much for this. Clear, simple and helpful advice!

  • Kathryn
    Reply

    Love this weeks reading! I also enjoyed your blog for empaths for the holidays. Thank you Colette!

  • Lorna
    Reply

    Truly beautiful week ahead bei g present and in tune with all that is around us xx Magical thanku Colette xx

  • Lori
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    Oh, thank you Colette. This weekend I had to leave a store and not IKEA (I don’t like following those stupid arrows either) because I was so overwhelmed with all the stuff and people!! Thank you for all you do yo keep us sensitives grounded ❤️

  • Kathy Brantley
    Reply

    Awesome blog and Reading, Thank you

  • Tammie Kruse
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    Great tips, and I do use these them and I am ok with not being obligated to attend parties, especially certain family parties, they always ends up in drunken argument and fighting disaster. So we choose not to be part of that any longer. I surround myself with joy and love. Happy Holiday’s to all.

  • Anonymous
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    Colette, Love my Woto deck and I got the Spirit Animal deck recently. The Woto deck is spot on and getting to know my Spirit deck. Hope you have a wonderful Christmas and New Year! Thanks for all that you do! Love, Rena

  • Fiorella Brazzini
    Reply

    Thank you so much!! I now understand why i feel so tire and sick in december.

  • Gayle Lee
    Reply

    Great reading, thank you Colette! So timely and encouraging too. Yes, NOW is the moment of POWER. To manifest we must do it in the NOW! always and in all ways! <3 😀

  • Anonymous
    Reply

    Such a perfect Blog for this time of year! I always wondered why I was so exhausted after what should have been a fun Christmas shopping trip. Years have passed, technology has evolved and much less shopping is on my list of holiday “to dos”. But the overall holiday energy still gets me – So self care & lots of naps work for me! Also using the word “No” is so freeing! 🙂 Merry Christmas & Happy New Year to you Colette and all your followers. May your Christmas be Blessed & your New Year be Sparkly and Bright!
    LOVE!
    Beth

  • Beth
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    What a wonderful Blog for this time of year! I always wondered why I was so exhausted after a Holiday shopping trip that was supposed to be fun. Years have passed and Technology has evolved & my shopping list has gotten oh so small, but this energy this time of year always gets to me. So I do just what Colette suggests – gentle self care & lot of naps! Thank you for your love, energy & advice, Colette & I wish you & your followers a Blessed Christmas & a Sparkly and Bright New Year!
    LOVE!
    Beth

  • Lynn Marie Anderson
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    Thank you, this is very helpful. It seems to me that Xmas gets crazier every year. And I love your Postcards from Spirit deck, once a day I read it and it’s like therapy for me! I get severely depressed sometimes, it really helps! Happy Holidays to you and others on here as well.

  • Anonymous
    Reply

    Great advices. Happy Hollidays from Monteral, Canada!

    Peace , love and a lot of cookies 😉

    Anne Morin

  • Anne Morin
    Reply

    Great advices. Happy Hollidays from Monteral, Canada!

    Peace , love and a lot of cookies 😉

    Anne Morin

  • C. G.
    Reply

    My mother and I have already started our Christmas shopping for this year. I just got done today (12/4/2018) gift wrapping the ones she and I bought so far.

  • Catherine
    Reply

    Love this blog post-it had lots of great tips. I don’t like store shopping much at all so I do the majority of mine online.

    I also liked the reading very much and was glad to see the WOTO deck back. That’s one of my favorites along with Avalon, Hidden Realms and the Map.

    Thanks for all the work you do and I wish you and Mark and your furry kids a joyous and satisfying holiday season.

  • Patty
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    I relate to what your saying, it’s overwhelming this time of year and I’m feeling drained by it. Honestly I wish Christmas would hurry and go away because I feel that it’s just too much! I think that’s why I love the Grinch lol. Also not having my son here for the past 4 years makes me feel like I’m forcing myself to get through it.

  • Kathryn
    Reply

    Just got my Animal Oracle Deck & got to play with them today👏 Glad I watched your Spirit Animal Oracle webinar. First this deck has such a different energy than WOTO! I felt so much happy energy like all the animals are running around just because they are so happy. I was whooting away myself! But for my affinity card I pulled Canary ( you can’t make this stuff up)! It flowed along with everything that’s been coming up in astrology & our Personal Mastery course we just finished! I will be working with finding my own song, my voice & not giving a hoot to what others think.

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