How to Set Intentions for the New Year Into Motion: Count Your Teeniest Wins!!

Updated: January 12, 2020


At the beginning of every year, there’s an energy that’s palpable where you feel such huge promise for newness, in every way. Yes, we all get to start again! YAY. Yoga, Pilates, promises to yourself to change your diet, let go of the old habits that messed you up the year before, start a prayer and meditation practice and quit sugar/alcohol/(fill in blank) for real this time, take some interesting classes you’ve always wanted to do. Everyone is raring to go. Success by design is inherent just in the words “new year”. The failures of yesterday can be erased on Jan 1. That is a big fat promise.

But not so fast. These are all worthy intentions but what if your old self, the one you’re trying to change is not willing to do the list in your hand. What if your old self is so invested in your identity of feeling shitty, lonely, hard done by, angry, etc. that it thinks your new ideas are just phooey and is determined to prove it to you?

So you ate a whole tub of ice cream 10 days into the month—of course you did, it was the most intense ever full moon eclipse and you saw too many photos, and read too much of all the pain and suffering and reasons to be fearful in the world. Well? Your Oracle Cards did say Chaos and Conflict. You secretly feel crappier than you did at the end of last year and you don’t want anyone to know. 

If this is your experience at all, or if it’s ever happened to you before, and it doesn’t have to be ice cream, it could be anything that you do that gives you a temporary distraction from your life that keeps you where you were, then here are two simple things to remember: “If you do what you did you’ll get what you got,” and “Count your wins, no matter how tiny.” 

Here’s a quick story to show how I tricked my old self into making a shift. It’s kind of embarrassing to admit but there was a time in my life where I joined four different gyms/ studios and didn’t ever go to any of them. I wanted to get in shape but I couldn’t pry myself out of my house to go. I could go anywhere else. Just not there! I could go get food but I could not go get exercise. I had all the charts on my walls and images of how I wanted to be but they only motivated me to feel crappier about myself. No love for me. Big failure. 

I could not make the leap because I wasn’t staying present in the now. All I saw was the gaping chasm between where I was and where I wanted to be. Then one day I meditated (sitting down was not a problem) and heard “ tiny mustard seed”. So, I decided to give myself some love for teeny wins. So if I just showed up at the door that was awesome. Yup if I got to the door of the gym, stood outside and then went home I was golden. So I did, then my next win was opening the door. Next was going to the restroom in the gym and looking in the mirror, then bringing my stuff and sticking it in a locker, etc. You get the picture? I won so many times and felt so good about myself one day I just went in and walked into a class and that was that! It took me 3 whole months to go to the gym and pick up a 5-pound weight. I had so much pull to the old me who was attached to being sedentary it was quite amazing. 

Now your story can be about anything but its ok. The truth is that it’s not the biggest goals that will set you free to become a new version of yourself. Your old self needs to trust it’s possible. You may have been pretty comfy being that person. Give it as much time as you need. It’s being present and celebrating the teeny steps along the way that will create the most profound change. It’s important to remember it’s not the goals that get you there it’s all the actions you take along the way, and to this day this concept has truly benefited me. 

So now it’s your turn, what’s is a teenie tiny win that you can celebrate this week?!


Showing 38 comments
  • Patricia (Trisha)

    I love your outlook and messages!!! I am so grateful for them . I think we we sisters in a past life!!! ❤️

    • Anonymous

      Wow! I want transformation ~ bring it on!

    • JB

      Wow! Thanks Colette! That was and IS, Exactly my hurdle…going to the gym, diet and exercise. I have been so sedentary for soooo long, that I’m afraid I won’t ever make it to the gym! However, in this “New” year, my insurance has changed and it now includes free gym membership. So no more excuses about it being “too expensive”. I now belong to a gym, now all I have to do is “Show up”! Thanks so much for all you do! You are such a Blessing to so many people! Much Love, JB

  • dtaborah

    one step at a time..forgiveness

    • Moira

      My mum always said “every little bit counts” 😊
      Love your blogs Colette, thank you!

    • Marie


  • Nadine Tolmeijer

    Love it. Thank you Colette

    • Sandra

      Your story resonates with me loud and clear! Omgoodness…The journey of a 1,ooo miles begins with a single step…I just need to get out the door….its just so darn cold!!!! Brrrrr lol…there are so many things I can do at home. Yoga, pilates, weights. Winter really get me stuck so meditation and setting intentions toward fitness and my health can be my beginning steps. Great blog Colette. Thank you

  • Veroshka

    I love that you are so down to earth and speak earthling language, not scared to say it as it is 🤗 💞
    Into the unknown was the card I selected and the entire reading makes so much sense.
    I have been telling my past self that I do not know enough to make the jewelry pieces that I have been wanting to make, that my place is too small to practice Crystal Healing and Angel Therapy, that my stuff will not sell in South Africa, that I am too fat to exercise and will not loose any weight 🤔
    All this senseless chatter leaving me feeling pretty shitty, a fat blob (added some 30kg too my weight) and best, that I am not good enough to participate with the rest of the world.
    Well, basta with that, into the unknown it is. So what if a few pieces of my art is a learning curve, my place is a bachelor pad and my client’s see my entire home in one fowl swoop, so what if my previous teacher went batty and left the track, so what! It is what it is, it is what I can afford and what I have. And it is perfect for now… The saying “fake it till you make it” comes to mind.
    Into the unknown it is, with the message in mind, with Spirit and the Angels at my back, how can this not work.
    One step at a time, one star for every movement into the unknown. Scary and blissfully exciting.
    Thank you so much for this message today. Love always, Veroshka 💞

  • Denise

    Thank you!! Into the unknown- the cocoon analogy really resonated with where I’m at currently on my path … metamorphosis and growing my new wings is my theme 💕🙏🏽✨🦋

  • Anonymous

    Thank you – mine was card six – very relevant for someone stuck in a bad situation for several years now.

    • Diana Davis

      Dearest Colette thank you. Perfect advice for loving the inner self.
      Take small steps feels safe and painless.
      I love you

  • Rebekka Dodge

    Thank you for making the world brighter. (I had a reading with you about a decade ago and I still flash back because you were exactly spot on.) We need bright lights to show us how to become bright lights.

    • Suzie Mapp

      Going back to work after 6 months due to illness .

  • Anonymous

    Thank You Colette I needed to see this.

  • Jenny

    It’s funny how I would give this advice to anyone but had not thought of it for myself. Thank you for that and the tiny mustard seed analogy. I have heard this three times in the last week. From a totally different place. Ya think someone is trying to tell me something? Hahaha thank you for being so awesome. 😘

  • Cathy

    Of course I crashed! Thank you for your uplifting words. My angels used your voice to help me so here I go – again. I will stay positive and not give up! Thank you – I love you……..

  • Matt

    Love this! To continue the theme, you don’t start bench pressing 100 lbs. all at once. Maybe you just start with the bar itself and add a little more weight each week. Those little consistent wins accumulate to bigger wins down the road! 👍🏼

  • Melanie Ritchie

    I ate a lot of chips & dip on this Full moon. For all the reasons you mentioned.
    My teenie tiny win is that I stopped to read this post right when I needed it most. ❤️

  • Alison

    Thanks for this!!! I was feeling a bit silly about my goal being to go into the gym once a week (to start). All my fears and doubts of it not being enough (ie. Of me not “doing” enough to be deserving of praise) came rushing to the surface because previously I had gone to classes 3x a week… but your example of just going to the door, and then just going into the bathroom… that made me feel like maybe, just maybe if I let go of having been someone who went 3x a week in the past, I can be happy with myself for setting a goal and achieving it – and stop comparing it to anything or anyone. Thank you 🙏🏼

  • Clare Walker

    Hi Colette. Thanks so much for posting this…it was exactly what I needed to hear, exactly when I needed to hear it.

  • Colette

    Great message! Thank you!

  • Laurie Jones

    Hi Colette!
    Glad to see your pup okay!! Well, let’s see, teeny weeny steps. I am Sun-Leo, Moon-Leo, Libra rising, and progressed moon now is in guess what? LEO! I do not know how to do anything small right now-just ask the senators I call!! Maybe I could be a case study for Debra! If I can’t get this book done now….! I love the Map cards too Marc-they were my first Colette deck years ago and so glad #5 was not the GOBLIN!!! I picked him and Bone Collector ALL the time back then. It was Spark and I feel sparked to write!! I’ll have to look up Magic Stream (Leo) but guess I am in risk of blocking my flow! I got Sophia and Hecate this am so the in-between is huge and out of our control this week-then Isis for rebirth-and Benzai Ten for beauty-all on point with your reading girl!!!

  • Dixie

    Thank you. The entire reading was just what I needed. The card for me was #2 The ghost lands. I was just getting into the circle of “Why have I not done this or that? and more criticism. Thanks for helping me to nip that in the bud.

  • Theresa

    Thank you for this wonderful message and excellent ideas on the tiny steps. I woke up today upset about some old habits and then pulled one of your cards New Life so what I gained was I acknowledged what I did but decided to cure this habit with a positive idea and feelings with more patience and success. Love this!

  • Vickie Jo Provost

    I agree with Trisha we are sisters by different parents. We ride our “own” Harleys :).. I choose card #6 and this week’s reading is so inspiring. After being retired for 4 years I am ready to seek another career. 1st though gotta get out there. Wish me luck😇

  • Karen

    Thank you for sharing. I look forward to your insight and stories My tiny win was this past Saturday. I was very very anxious at work one of those days you just want to hide and can’t ! 😥😬
    I kept going through ideas plans in my head if y’all leave now how many hours is that ? Can I afford to leave ? On and on I went Until I said ok stop it !
    Started asking my Angels Please help me make it through the rest of the day ,Please me find peace in my mind. Help me find something productive to do🙏 Until 5:00
    Before I knew it was time to go home I was praying and being grateful on the way home and felt way better 😊
    Thank you
    Be Blessed

  • Jo

    Colette, thanks for the reminder. I used that process just get out the door at a particular stage of my life.

  • Katrina Rowan Plumb

    Colette, you make it look possible. I have no idea why I would want to compound my self-revulsion; but rationalising won’t work. It is about trust – and doing something ridiculous might help. Stuff the critics.

  • Maria R.

    Great story and very relatable. That’s why I refuse to sign up for gym memberships. The fever only lasts 3 weeks max! Lol. My little triumphs lie in staying away from sugar as much as possible which is my biggest weakness. Wish me luck! Happy New Year!

  • Laurie Jones

    Hi Colette!
    Have a question about blog etiquette-I see so many interesting people on your blog and was wondering if it is ok to reply directly to them especially when I feel for them or agree with them-is that allowed? I don’t see anyone doing it. For example, I really wanted to tell Veroshka to go for it and make that jewelry-don’t be afraid and we love you exactly the way you are!! Are blogs supposed to be interactive among the readers too? Please let me know.

  • Renee Sugar

    Happiest ” New” Year Colette;

    ” Inch by inch it’s a cinch, by the mile it’s a trial. “Brings to mind Nancy Levin’s book “Jump and your Life Will Appear.” An inch by inch guide to transformation.
    Another thought, ” Tis better to do something imperfectly; than to do nothing flawlessly. ” This would be my biggest hurdle.
    Wanting to do __________ perfectly is the biggest procrastination, action blocker
    that I know. The trick is not to keep focusing on the “outcome” but on the process. I am very pleased with my progress, having begun an exercise, weight
    lifting program, in my living room on a small trampoline. I decided that if the astronauts who returned from outer space could rebuild their bone density by working out on a trampoline; then so could I. It is a 15 minute commitment and I am feeling so much more energized, and focused since I began. Not only that, but I chose not to take pharmaceuticals for osteoporosis, which contain chemicals that can be very harsh on the stomach. I am taking an algae (plant-
    based calcium supplement. All to the good. The weights I use are 3 lbs. and I am 63 so this was a good time to begin. I always feel so much better when I make the effort and as we know, our brain is being rewired so what felt so uncomfortable at first no longer does. Onward and upward!!!!!

  • Henrietta

    This week I think “There are no things that I “MUST” or “HAVE TO” do. Because if I think like that, it get’s so hard for me to do things, and they just pile up so in the end I just do nothing at all. So I’ve started to take the little steps. Instead of “I must/have to” it’s “I don’t have to, but I can do something, some small thing and that’s OK”.
    So I’m less stressed about things that has to be done; and I actually get more things done now than before!

  • Colleen

    My win is to actually open my emails and take time to read them instead of saving them for when I have more time. I’m making the time. It’s a start, the gym is next 😉.
    Thanks Collette

  • Ally

    Thanks Colette your words are a balm to my soul, I live in East Gippsland Victoria Australia and have been in a state of angst for some months now. I just watched your readings for the past two weeks and card 2 in the first week was so right, the whole reading feels to be spot on. Being in these bush fires I feel like my heart is breaking and all we can do is pray for rain (any day now) I feel that Humanity needs a huge wake up call and start listening to Mother Gaia and Spirit. Ready for it lol
    Thank you so much for sharing yourself with us, Mountains of Love, xxx

  • Ally

    Thank you, I just tried your Crystal cards and wow I had to read through it 3 times or more! The Watermelon Tourmaline was almost unbelievable as when I first read it before selecting a card I thought this is the right question to ask and this would be the perfect card for me and Spirit served it up to me! Tears of Bliss xx Thank you.
    Mountains of Love, Ally

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