Late To The Party, But Always On Time!
How to Heal Perfectionism, Let Go, and Let the Dude Do the Delivering and Deal with the Details.
Ah yes, the latter is the perfect title to shine a light on one of the many tests of this Mercury Retrograde.
Happy belated New Year and a warm hug to you!
OMG, I so apologize for the silence, but I’ve had a crazy, nutty schedule promoting my book, launching an online class, traveling non-stop, and could never sit still long enough to write anything coherent that I felt held value for you. Although it is, on one hand, awesome that my book Weight Loss For People Who Feel too Much® has finally taken off, the journey has been admittedly a tad stressful. Being interviewed on various TV shows by teeny weeny people that are maybe 100 pounds soaking wet and juggling the many other various things I’ve been doing to promote it has definitely been an exercise in reminding myself that I’m a role model, not a super model.
The travel made me feel like a Yo-Yo and I lost track of how many airports I ended up in. Last month’s highlight was a Thunder Bay, Ontario event (think Northern Lights), where I spoke at an event and did three hours of solid back to back readings from stage that took ten days to recover from. I have to say though, if 300 people are willing to come see me in minus 47 degree weather, I can stand there and deliver on behalf of Spirit. I forgot, however, that I have an “off button,” hence the week and a half recovery period. That said, I’ll go back there anytime… There’s a whole lotta spirit activity up there, and they are chatty!
So yes, I am back! And I’ve missed you!
I have only just now stopped to regroup and say, “HEY TRIBE, you still there???” I guess it’s Late-To-The-Party but Always-On-Time, yes? Definitely! It’s never too late to learn about what’s in store for our evolution, especially since it’s proving to be a very interesting stew of conflicting, creative, and exciting influences.
I hope you felt the crackling energy of this year as we entered 2014, a seven year, and one that my buddy The Numbers Lady Glynis McCants reminds us will be challenging us all to be authentic, “or else.”
The Chinese New Year (end of January) ushered in the year of the Wood Horse, a fortunate year where we all get off to the races, but need to be able to act decisively and swiftly, as opportunities will come and go rapidly.
To best work with these energies, cultivate radical truth and self-honesty, be who you really are, and allow your uniqueness to be in service to the world.
This is not the year for conforming to anyone else’s concepts of who you’re “supposed to be.” So if you feel the rapid cycling of energies challenging you to dig deep and find what’s really important to you, insisting you peek into the ego baggage that prevents you from owning your YOU and knowing your WHY, you’re not alone.
Even if we stashed that dusty trunk deep in the corner of our psyche’s basement thinking it was done and gone- after all we’ve done soooo much work on our selves, and we were sure we wouldn’t have to open that old can o’ worms that shouldn’t even be there… What? Me? No siree! I thought I threw that out ages ago!
But why not? We’re well into the first Mercury Retrograde period of the year, which is the PERFECT time to do this. No matter what experience we’ve ordered up from the universe, wouldn’t we all want to get real with it and face the aspects of our lives that make it difficult to be 100% ourselves? I know I would. That’s the only way any of us will thrive and be happy, and a thriving, peace-filled world is the one I see… with YOU in it!
Think of it this way, would you let a rotten banana sit at the bottom of the fruit bowl? Nasty stuff, right? I personally would chuck that. Ew.
Mercury Retrograde Audio Series by the absolutely brilliant Robert Ohotto
If you want to learn how to manage these archetypal energies, I highly suggest you listen to Robert Ohotto’s podcast on this Mercury Retrograde. I did and learned so much about what I’m facing; it was incredibly helpful. (Ask me if I relate to the perfectionism issue – um, that would be a yes.) You’ll find a link at the bottom, and I will say again: I HIGHLY recommend this.
Enter The DUDE…
We must remember that we don’t have to do all this soul searching, rebel-standing, re-inventing, perfectionism-busting, elitist-confronting, fire-starting, dream-expanding, phoenix-rising stuff alone. We all have that mystical, magical partnership with our invisible friend, the synchronicity weaver and manifesting partner that I call Spirit, and sometimes Quantum Fred. It’s my favorite subject, to be honest.
My friend Pam Grout refers to this ineffable, omniscient force as The Dude. I recently interviewed her, and we had a great talk about how the Dude works to help us create reality. The recording is my gift to you, which, hmm, means you are a magical manifestor! We also discussed a joint workshop we’re going to create together. (Hint, hint: stay tuned.)
*Listen to the interview or click on the little arrow pointing down to download the mp3
Of course, we all start the New Year with a bang, gung-ho with our treasure maps, affirmations, and decisions, right? I did and said yes to everything, and then felt like I had been shot out of a cannon. The mix of events, book promotions, airplanes, and bad airport food… well, to be honest, I took on WAY more than I could chew.
But I do have a relentless optimism and always believe that everything will work out, and it does. When I lean towards trust and faith, it just does.
So this year, for you, for me, and for all of us, is ushering in a cauldron of transformative energies that will carry us through a never before experienced level of self-evaluation. We will remove the debris we unknowingly created to protect ourselves from the invisible boogey men that we think might reject us for our imperfections, and we will build new lives that are born from the heart. Let it fill you with the hope, joy, and faith that is yours to claim, and remember that a big dose of humor and silliness will ease your way. Most importantly, add on a healthy practice of mindful detachment – don’t take the world too personally, even when there are moments you’re sure that it’s all going down the toilet, that there will never be enough moments to lead to the treasure. It’s not true; the treasure is right there hidden in plain sight.
In my conversation with Pam, we chatted about the sense of humor our manifesting partner has when we stop dictating the details and let go enough to see miracles.
I had released it to the manifesting powers that be that I would be interviewed on the Today Show. Last year the book had a bit of a slow start, and I did not get on the show. I had put the Today Show on my vision board in big bold letters and thought: what the heck, I’m going to glue it on again this year.
I was stuck in the Thunder Bay airport because the air was too cold for the plane to take off (minus 47, I kid you not), when I decided to check my email and found my friends congratulating me on my book being on… yep, the Today Show. I saw a photo of the hosts and between them, a giant size image of my book! They were talking about how it was chosen as one of the three best books for emotional eaters this season.
Wow, goes to show you… let go… let the Dude… and let be your wonderful, quirky imperfections. Then sort through the garbage, throw out the rotten bananas, be yourself, and rock on.
Life is good and getting better; late to the party, but always on time ;)
The Invision Project
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P.S. Love to hear from you.. how did your year start? What are your dreams.. shall we jointly affirm them so the Dude takes notice?